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There were several factors. My husband was 98% sure we were one and done. I went back and forth a lot, but he wasn't on board I didn't want another. I just asked him that he not completely shut the door yet....no permanent measures until we had both been 100% sure for at least a year.

Couple things that changed his mind: I went back to work, so he didn't feel the pressure of being the sole provider. We were in the process of looking for a larger house. Evan was becoming very independent and is almost potty-trained. My mom was planning on retiring and moving up, so she'd be around to help me (D works second shift so I do evenings alone).

Apparently he'd been thinking about it a while. In late September we were at a wedding and he told a friend that there was a 50/50 chance he'd want another. In mid-January he told me he was ready for another. I had been thinking about it too...I was trying to come to peace with only having one. I thought I might always have a little bit of regret, but I had a long list of positives. I was in a "I'm okay with one" state of mind when he told me wanted another.

I decided to go with it...I wasn't gung-ho about it at the time, but figured it took us over a year to conceive our first, so I'd have time to get excited about it. I got my IUD out in late February, had my first period in mid-March and got a BFP in mid-April. So no real transition period, lol.

I was in disbelief for a while, but we're excited about it now!

Change of heart. And our son getting to a point in being independent enough where I can actually visualize having another and it doesn't stress me out. Currently trying to get pregnant!

We were never 100% one and done, and our second was an oopsie. When I was pregnant I was sure I didn't want another and now I can't quite close the door on the idea of a third.

My husband was pretty much one and done, and I had always seen myself with two but after 5 years of infertility I didn't think it was going to be an option (wasn't going through IVF again). Having one also was working well for us, we'd gotten into a good rhythm. Then I got surprise-pregnant, so the decision was kind of made for us. It's actually taken me a while to come to terms with having two (which is weird because I'd always thought that I wanted a second but wouldn't get to have one) - I'm anxious about changing a family dynamic that works great.