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I think there's two things going on. First, many people still have the misconception that a single child is a spoiled, lonely child. Second, I think many people are grateful for having siblings, so they feel what was good for them is good for everybody. I can hear people saying, "I would be so sad if I didn't have my siblings," and therefore imagine that every single child is sad.

I also heard someone say she was thinking of having just two kids, but then she worried about what would happen if one died. That remaining child would then have no siblings, so she thinks maybe she should now have three. That shows just how much importance some people place on having siblings.

I love my siblings its a bond that only a sibling can know but I think I'm lucky because everyone doesn't feel that way. On the other hand my husband loved/loves being an only child.
I'm pregnant now and truthfully we have no idea how many children we are going to have he wants 1, I want 2 so we'll see. I'm not looking forward to this question because we have no idea what we'll do.

I think a lot of it in my experience is simply that people love babies and want more of them from those they love!! I wish my brother would have more, not bc I think my niece will suffer, but because I love being an aunt and want more nieces or nephews! My mom was the same way when I said we were only having one bio baby. Still I try to be thoughtful about asking or telling anyone anything about family planning. I figure you never know if they're struggling with infertility etc.

@grizz: I''m so happy to report that I haven't had that many comments over the fact that we're only having one. If someone does mention it and gives us a hard time, I ask if they would like to pay for our next child's education. But then again, I'm kind of b*tchy like that.

I think people don't know what to say and that's just the easiest question....

We're stopping at one. But D has a cousin his age that he'll see all the time.

I only want one but haven't vocalized that at this point to anyone other than DH. I realize we may change our minds, I'm very young (22) and LO was planned with the thought of just one in mind. If we had a second, it'd be after LO went to kindergarten and that's what I tell people who ask, with a dontcha know how expensive daycare is sort of joke.