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@BabyBoecksMom: Yes now he is pushing the boundaries harder than ever too. I have a relatively easy 1-2 years old which was actually very enjoyable (not saying he doesn't throw tantrums, but he does it rarely and somehow I always am able to resolve it with grace 85% of the time). Now he just throws tantrums and cries whenever something isn.t going his way it is getting old. The usual things don't work with him anymore. I actually think he is picking this behavior up from someone at school. Grr.

@T.H.O.U.: Thanks!!

The thing is, one of the things we want to curb is he ALWAYS want to be held and carried around (ie. "connecting"?). If he doesnt get carried around he would burst into an unstoppable cry. I did get down and explain to him and say, we can hold hands and mommy is tired. Didn't end well. I guess I should try to reassure him more (that I love him and I am right here?) I just don't know what else I could say.

ETA: Oh they have a book! I guess I'll check it out...

@NovBaby1112: Don't worry, there is no set formula, maybe you already got the terrible twos and it can only get better from here

@HLK208: Yes. I know such a person too. I actually texted her last night and she gave me some pointers. In which they were ALL USELESS tonight when there was another insanely crazy crying spell. Don't get me wrong. I love my friend. Just something is up with my son.

I think and am actually hoping that LO is coming down with something. Is that evil? Tonight he was fine until after dinner. He cried nonstop again. Like when he was a newborn with acid reflux. He cried and cried and won't listen to anything I say. He usually behaves like that when he didn't nap but according to the daycare he napped fine. At one point I had to leave the room (yes. I slammed the door because I was very frustrated). Afterwards, I measured his temperature and it was 102! There is no way he could get a temperature because he got so worked up and cried so much, right? I can not take this anymore and I am actually hoping this is a sickness. Because that means there is an end to it.

He didn't eat very well. He didn't even eat the cake my husband made the night before (his absolute favorite). Then a few times he touched his tummy with a painful expression and I asked if he has a tummyache he said yes. Then the cry and the 102 F temperature. I gave him some tynernol.

I really hope this somehow taper down somewhat. My baby was an angel. I don't know what happened and where he went.

@T.H.O.U.: tonight, it was first he seemed to have a tummy ache and wanted to be held. I tried to hold him but I have to wash dishes. I put him on a chair so he was standing next to me. Still he was mommy mommy mommy the entire way. Not too bad. Just whining.

Then, we went up to his room and normally he would play while I fold his laundry and set his bath water. Tonight he was holding onto my phone. Then I am not sure what happened he started whining/ crying. He really started out cranky though. Then I filmed him using my iphone and showed it back to him and I said, see, this is whining, and whining is not good. Mommy and daddy doesn't like whining. If you want something, you have to nicely ask for it. He was fine as long as he was watching something on the phone. But I had to stop at one point and he started going crazy. He kept saying "___ (his name), watch, ____, watch" and cried hysterically. I tried to tell him we'll watch more when we brush our teeth. Do you want to play with your trains? No he kept on crying repeating the same words and going crazy. I couldn't stand it so I left to set his bath water (which is right next to his room). I came back and he was still crying hysterically. I told him OK this is enough. I will count to 3 and you will have to stop, or mommy is going to leave the room. He did stop upon 2. Which I thought OK good. Then he dragged out this puzzle (which is very time consuming to put back together) indicating he wants to play. Since I didn't want to trigger him I say OK. He started taking the pieces out and I thought I'd help him. Once I touch one of the pieces he immediately screamed "mine! mine! mine!" then he broke down again. This time worse than before. Please note that I barely touched the puzzle. At that point, I was like OK I let you do it, please dissemble it; he just kept crying. I asked him, "I know you really want to do the puzzle and you want to dissemble the puzzle all by yourself, right?" No use. Nothing I say or do goes into him. He basically shut down into hysteria mode. So I left the room again (this time I did slam the door, because honestly, I was very upset and frustrated thinking this can not go on like this). I came back after 1+ minute and he was still crying. 1,2,3 wouldn't work. Nothing worked. I was upset and I put him up to the changing table (he pooped) and took his temp (he is indeed a bit warm), 102. And I dragged him to the bath. Crying most of the way till the end until I said we will do the puzzle after the bath. Do you want to? There he stopped. But I swear I said we'll do the puzzle when he was breaking down in tears in the very beginning!

I notice there are two things I can not take. 1. Deliberately throwing food on the floor; 2. Unstoppable crying / not listening / nothing you can do to stop it. I get really upset at these two. I can take almost anything else.

Sorry for the rambling. But I just don't know what else to do. I do not look forward to this every single night so I really hope this is a virus /phase / teething and he is not feeling well.