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@MrsLilybugg: I announced to family after my 1st appointment so around 8 weeks? I'm started announcing to close friends after my NT scan at 12 weeks. I'll be telling work today at 13 weeks. I'll probably wait to publicly announce until after my appointment next week just for extra assurance.

@sassymama34: Congrats on your boy/girl twins!! That's awesome!!!

@erinbaderin: Your son is absolutely adorable - finger sucking or not!!

@Bubbles: Enjoy your time at the party and hoping your LO is on his best behavior while you're away. Since he's such a huge granddad fan, he'll have a blast and time will fly, I'm sure!

@Mrs D: DS chewed on his fingers when he was teething too! But he chewed on everything when he teethed, sippy cup mouth pieces, straws, etc.

How's K's eye btw?? What did the dr say?

Thanks for the reassurance guys - I'm sure everyone will make it through unscathed! As long as he doesn't try what he pulled on me last night... left the room for 2 minutes and he had crayoned ALL over our living room wall! Then whilst I was (trying to clean that up*) he filled up the sink, almost flooded the bathroom and then got up on top of the toilet and started pulling everything out of the cabinets! Not my finest parenting moment!!

*scrubbing layers of paint off the wall whilst failing to remove the crayon at all

I still find myself sleeping either on my belly or flat on my back. Oops! I'm 13 weeks. I can't seem to get comfy on my side. Even if I start on my side, I end up rolling onto my back.

What positions are you lady sleeping in?

@Alivoo01: He sure was - it was kinda funny in retrospect but I definitely wasn't amused at the time!

I have been belly sleeping a lot but it just started feeling a little weird and uncomfy in the last few days (16+2). I move from one side to the other, and then to my back throughout the night - I can't remember when you are supposed to start not sleeping on your back?

@Mrs D: Glad K is all better now and good luck with the pillow! I've never tried unisom, I'm not sure if we have it over here but it sounds like good stuff. I am up a lot in the night to pee, but always fall back asleep easily - I feel for you falling asleep at your desk!

I am pretty sure I just felt my first movements! I have felt a few pops here and there in the last few weeks but was never sure whether it was just wind. But this felt different and baby-like!

Thanks for the compliments on my sweet boy, ladies! It's funny how you're sure your kid is the cutest but it's still so gratifying when other people tell you.

@MrsLilybugg: It's funny, I did the same last time - 12 weeks on the dot! Mostly because we were at a wedding so most of our friends were in one room (I didn't make an announcement or anything, just took the opportunity to tell a few good friends in person.) But this time...at the beginning I couldn't wait to tell people and then as the time to tell people got closer I sort of lost interest.

@Alivoo01: I was always told that once sleeping in a certain position got uncomfortable it was time to stop doing it, even sleeping on your back - my midwife said it would affect me before it would affect the baby. I usually sleep on my side with a body pillow now.

@Mrs D: At your desk! You poor lady. I've had a couple of days where I had to book a boardroom and go in and put my head down for a half hour but lately it's been getting better - I even managed to get through the weekend without my afternoon nap!

@Bubbles: Eee, movement! I've felt a few things that had me thinking "Wait...was that?" but I'm pretty sure nothing real yet. With my first I didn't feel anything until 17 weeks and then it was another week or so after that before I felt anything else, and I have an anterior placenta again so I'm assuming it will take a while again.

@NavyMommy: You went to the gym! I'm so impressed! I used to be a pretty dedicated runner, and then I got pregnant with my first and it all fell apart. I was just starting to get back into it when I got pregnant again and have used that as an excuse to do nothing ever since. I'm going to at least find my fitbit and go back to trying to get 3 miles a day in.

@erinbaderin: I have my pregnancy pillow from my last pregnancy, but we co-sleep with DS so between the 3 of us, there's no room for the body pillow (DS is a heavy roller also). I'll need to figure something out though. Can't keep sleeping on my back.

Well, that was the most uninformative appointment ever.

I was scheduled to just see a nurse. They screwed up when they got my abnormal test results and instead of rescheduling me with an actual OB they just filed the results in my folder. So she had no idea what was going on (she usually just sees low risk patients in their first and second trimester, she's a NP not a CNM) and all the OBs were over booked so someone will have to call me within the next 24 hours. I'm not pleased. I'm excited to be leaving this base, the hospital is WAY understaffed.

But baby's heartbeat sounded good on the doppler.

Anatomy scan is scheduled for October 9 then my next appointment (with an OB not a nurse) is October 15.

@MrsLilybugg: Thats for the tip - I have taken ambien before...is it anything like that? Also - any thoughts on how "drunk asleep" it makes you? Like will I be "out to the world" or still able to hear K if she wakes in the MOTN?

@erinbaderin: I may have gone into an empty conference room today and closed my eyes for a few moments...brilliant idea!!!

@Navy_Mommy: ugh - arent some of these pointless appts SO annoying? I hate driving 45 mins to pee in a cup, have my blood pressure taken and check the measured height. Although now I do love hearing the hb - but I remember towards the end when I could feel her moving and knew all was well being like "damn cant I just go to a minute clinic and pee in a cup...?" Sorry about your appt - hope the phonecall goes well!

@Navy_Mommy: @sassymama34: My Dr said yesterday that belly sleeping is totally ok and will not hurt the baby. She said do it until it is no longer comfortable!

For those on your second (or third, etc), how was your first labor / anything you hope goes differently this time?

For me my water broke first and we waited probably 12 hours at home/hospital waiting for labor to kick off but eventually they gave me cervadil/pitocin to get things going. They freaked me out into getting an IV and continuous monitoring super early; I'd like to postpone that if possible this time to make it easier to move around. the contractions never got unbearable, but I got an epidural around 5 cm since I was scared of waiting until it was too late! I had some back pain post partum for several months, not sure if it was epi related or just regular post partum issue...I'll probably get an epi again. I pushed for less than 5 minutes, so I hope that stays the same!

@ksnow: for my first LO, my labor was 37 hours long and I had a spinal headache from the epidural. I'm hoping to have a shorter labor and no spinal headache!

My biggest concern though, is what to do with DD when I go into labor. My parents live 1.5 hours away, which may be too far for me to wait around, depending on how fast my labor progresses. My MIL is 15-20 minutes away, but she doesn't drive at night, so if I go into labor at nighttime, we are screwed. I also don't want to hang out with either of our parents while in labor (I realize I may have to get over that)!!!

@Lilbear: I have been workin on our "plan" and right now I think our babysitter (Ks daycare teacher) will be our go to for after hours emergency care for K! She is honestly the second most reliable person - my mom is the first but I selfishly want her at the hospital with me!

@Lilbear: I'm having the same problem. My parents live 4 hours away, so I feel like once I go into labour I'll need to call them immediately to get on the road, but I don't want them hanging out at the house until I go to the hospital. Right now I have no idea how to handle it - they have friends who live nearby but if we make them come in the middle of the night they can't really let themselves into their friends' house to hang out until I want them to come over, right? I'm also sort of worried about B seeing me in labour and being upset. If it happens during the day he could maybe go to the neighbours (they have a son 9 days older than B and they're good friends) until my parents can get here....if anybody has a good plan please share!

@Navy_Mommy: Boo on bad/poorly informed doctor visits. For some, taking time off work/out of their schedule is difficult so that's not cool at all! Hoping you get a great phone call soon!!

@Mrs D: All our conference rooms have large open windows/glass panes so I can't nap in there. However, that's a brilliant idea and must say, I have considered it a few times. Ha!

@Lilbear: My family lives 3 hours away and in laws live 1.5 hours away, but they run their own business. Initially, we were planning on asking a close friend to watch him, but she's currently pregnant and is due a month before me so that won't be possible now. Guess we're just going to have to bring DS with us until we figure out something else like if I go into labor during the day and DS will already be at daycare.

@sassymama34: Do they know for sure it'll be a scheduled csection even if the twins line up right?

@Lilbear: maybe you could drop LO off at MIL's and have your mom pick her up in the AM? I know that might be kind of jarring for LO though. My mom/dad live out of state and so far they're planning to come a week before my due date so they can watch ours! I was over a week late last time so hopefully that's enough time!

@Mrs D: I've never heard of morphine in my circle of friends, that's interesting! Why didn't they just go straight to epi? And how come they turned your epi off when you got to 9cm? I'd have been like don't you touch that thing! They left my epi on so I didn't feel pain during pushing, placenta, or stitching (until later of course...)

@Loscato: I'm definitely grateful to know what to expect this time! I can really work myself up....when they told me it was time to push, they then had to leave and deliver another lady who was like running into hospital, and I got such nerves I had myself shaking...

Im a planned csection since my son was one.. I never even dialated at all last time! Had pitocin n cervadil n a folley and after 30 hrs i begged for a csection... Dr cut me open n remarked yea that was never going to happen.. Most women in my family have never progressed or only to a 3 then nothing they couldnt even break my water so it was most miserable 30 hrs of my life

@ksnow: So, all along I had told DH that I was unsure if I wanted meds or not - but I was not opposed to them. I just asked him to make me ask twice (or question me once). I think its pretty ridiculous when first time moms go "I just know I am going to do this med free" - the reality (IMO) is you have no idea what labor is like so how can you just "know". Anyways...

I woke up at 1am (scheduled for an induction at 7am) in real labor...I woke DH up and said essentially "Honey, I'm in labor AND I want all the drugs"

By the time I got to the hospital (showered, got things together, made some food, drove the 45 mins) it was like 5:30am and the contractions were legit. I was asking everyone who would listen for drugs. My first L&D nurse suggested morphine (I think morphine anyways) to take the edge off until the anesthesiologist could place the epi. She also recommended it would be easier for him to place if I was more relaxed. It was the best.thing.ever. I basically went to the bathroom, then laid down on the bed and passed out. I got the epi about an hour after I got the morphine.

As for the epi being turned off - my Dr has a few reasons for it: 1) she thinks women are, generally speaking, better at pushing when they can feel what they are doing 2) it speeds up your recovery time rather than being numb until after delivery then waiting to get feeling again so you can stand (I think I stood like 3 hours after delivering her - maybe less) 3) She thinks it helps you read when its "time". She never checked me again after I was 9cm - I remember her just saying "if you think its time lets give it a try".

In hind sight...she had a resident do my stitches (I had requested to tear naturally as opposed to an episiotomy) and she took a long time. By the time I complained of the discomfort she apologized and said they could number me which would take 3 pokes OR they could finish the stitches which was maybe 4-5 more pokes. I opted to just get it done!

Yea it was an awful experience and i had tried to tell the drs the whole time but they'd say oh thats not hereditary and then when happened to me n she said that i was thinkin no sh*t lol but luckily this time planned

I basically did a happy dance because target got more shirred waist pallazo pants, hahaha. I don't love maternity pants but at 16w these and leggings are they only thing I find comfortable.

I must have had a great epidural..I could still move my legs a little even when I could feel no pain? I am so hopeful I dont experience any of the negative side effects of an epidural this time.

Neither of my sisters got an epidural. They both progressed too quickly. Sister #1 - admitted at 1am, 6cm at 3am (started epidural discussions), delivered at 4am but did get a shot of morphine to the spine as they were worried about having to do an emergency c-section. Sister #2 - went to dinner at 6pm, took a walk at 7pm, 7:30 told her husband she felt something and to time them...first two were 3 mins apart. He loaded the car - they were at the hospital at 8pm...baby was born at 9:15pm. Crazy!