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@HappyBaker: That's awesome! WTG!

@SleepyMonkey: I think it seemed daunting when I was in my head and I had so many people tell me how hard it was for them but honestly, once I got past that, it was pretty easy. Now A is in a great routine and we're transitioning her to her crib.

How is everyone doing?

I am just so, so tired. All my new mom adrenaline has worn off. We're getting another snow storm tomorrow-Thursday. My toddler is stir crazy. H is all over the place with eating, sleep, etc. We're taking a 5 hour road trip Friday to visit DH's best friend and his family for a long weekend - which I'm sure will be fun, but also has the potential to be an epic fail with sleep for everyone involved.

On the plus side, the fussiness has lessened considerably and sleep is getting marginally better. Usually 9-1 or 10-2, then another 3 hours after that. After 4 or 5 AM, it's just a grab bag of cosleeping and frustration.

I am so ready for spring, and warmer weather, and the much more fun infant stage. I love H dearly, and I've enjoyed some things about his newborn days (the cuddles, the emerging smiles), but I'm ready to move on

Also, I'm down to pre-preg weight, but I definitely have a spare tire thing going on. I bought a bikini as motivation to eat well and start exercising, but #1 isn't going so well and #2... well, I haven't exercised in probably 6 months. Maybe more.

UGHHHH. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer. I always feel better in the mid-morning once I've had something resembling a night's sleep and a cup or two or coffee. But at night and first thing in the morning - yikes.

Anyone getting bizzay? That is so uninteresting to me right now, but it's been a really long time (I'm not big on third tri sex) and DH has the sads about it.

@mfa_lady: yay! I loooove that recipe!

Omg the exhaustion is killing my brain - i can't think straight anymore. I've definitely hit that point where the adrenaline is gone. B isn't even a bad sleeper, really, i just have such high sleep needs. LO1 is actually the one exhausting me, she's the one we can't get to sleep until 10 and now she's randomly refusing to nap. LO2 is only awake for like 4-5 hours a day still.

I still haven't quite finished bleeding yet pp, it's crazy to me how many of you have your periods back. I didn't get it until 10.5 months last time.

@keepcalmcarrie: Yes! I completely agree with you. And I hear you on the adult interaction. I'm terrified of going back to work...but excited to talk about things not related to poop and picture books for a few hours a day. Granted, I know I'll probably be pumping and crying because I'm not with her, but...I'll find a happy balance, hopefully.

@Radish: Holler at the high sleep needs. I'm happiest if I get AT LEAST 8 (9 is better!) hours in my pre-baby life. Sheesh.

As for getting busy, we finally did this past weekend. Only once. I was scared! At my postpartum appointment, the midwife told me to wait a while longer because some of the tissue near one of my stitch sites was still healing. So, it took 8 weeks for us. Yikes.

I also have a bit of diastasis, so am trying to do the recommended exercises so it goes back to normal. I still look kinda pregnant, even though I'm three pounds from my pre-preg weight. Ugh!

Also, you guys. BABY SLEEP IS THE MYSTERY OF THE WORLD. E is still often throwing a fit at bedtime, and this morning DH had to be up super early for work so I gave in and let her go to bed last night in the Rock and Play because he really needed to sleep. And guess what? SHE SLEPT FOR 8 HOURS. What the heck? I had to wake her up to feed her this morning. Honestly, I think it might be reflux (makes sense, since she throws a hissy fit when we lay her down flat in the crib...) so we'll have to figure out if we should incline her mattress, etc. But yeah. While we're figuring it out, I might let her keep sleeping in the RNP for a couple days even if it's a habit we have to break later. Mama needs her sleep! It was such a bummer that she slept so long this morning because DH and I were still up at 5 because of his alarm. Boo! Maybe she can repeat tonight.

@keepcalmcarrie: i hear you on the spare tire thing. i'm am starting to think it is permanent...i guess i could start exercising but i just don't have the motivation right now either. i'm all about more sleep. sleep always wins over exercise.

@Radish: i have really high sleep needs too. 8 hours is decent. anything less than 7 hours is brutal. we had really bad sleep with our toddler too, where she wasn't going down until 10pm. we were laying down with her because she'd cry and scream if we didn't. but that was actually making the problem worse because all she wanted to do was play. a few weeks ago, we told her that she needs to go to sleep by herself, etc....which to my surprise, worked out really well. And now she is asleep usually between 8:30-9pm. also, my pp bleeding stopped exactly at 6 weeks.

@MrsHansen82: so sorry that this week is going to be tough for you emotionally. big hugs.

@mfa_lady: if you haven't had supply issues thus far, i wouldn't worry too much. i was so worried about it with dd1 when i went back to work, and i only pumped 2x in a 10 hour workday...my supply was super consistent the whole time. i know i'm not being helpful with advice, but i worried so much about stuff that hadn't even happened yet with #1 and it made me so stressed out, for no reason. i guess that is easy to say in retrospect...i guess my advice is...don't stress too much!

we are getting so many smiles and coos over here lately, it's the best!

btw, when do your babies go down for the night, when do they wake up (if they do) and when are they up for the day? dd2 goes to sleep around 10pm, wakes at 3:30am and then is "up" for the day around 8am. by "up" i mean, i am up for the day...because she usually just sleeps some more.

@SleepyMonkey: we are exactly where you were. We've gone through it before and we got her to go to sleep on her own for a while but then at some point slipped into old habits. I think we are going to have to lay down the law - i just don't have the energy some nights.

@keepcalmcarrie: adrenaline has definitely worn off here too So tired, but baby will only nap during the day if I'm wearing her (so I can't sleep). Then when DH is home in the evening I want to take care of all the things I can't do while holding a baby.

@keepcalmcarrie: not yet, just had my 6 week check up yesterday and was cleared for it, but honestly I would rather sleep - sorry DH

I haven't lost any weight since the initial 15lbs once my swelling went down. My mom keeps telling me that breastfeeding will make "the pounds melt off", but I am starving all the time and eat everything in sight - so weight loss is just not happening.

@SleepyMonkey: My girl goes to bed around 9/10pm, wakes up around 2/3am, then again anywhere from 5-7am. If the last wake up is before 6:30, I try to go back to bed. Otherwise we're up for the day.

I feel like we have terrible sleep habits for her: she naps in the wrap during the day, and sleeps in the rock n play at night (she was in the bassinet that lays flat for a while, but has been really congested and sleeping on an incline helps).
I've tried to put her down (in the bassinet, crib, or rock n play) for naps, but I end up trying to get her to sleep/stay asleep the entire time she should be napping.

@SleepyMonkey: Yay for smiles and coos! B is almost smiling, but I haven't gotten a nice big one from her yet.

@namaste: I seriously can't imagine working out for like another year. Way to go!

@charmed: My breastfeeding weight loss didn't really happen until 7-11 months last time. When I weaned I gained about 5 lbs back before getting KU again.

@HappyBaker: Haha, nice LO! Out of the mouths of babes. J points to his tummy, pats it, and says "ho, ho, ho," so I'm just waiting for that to backfire when he does it to an adult.

@Radish: Yeah, H isn't really a bad sleeper either (well, except last night when he was up FOUR times). I just really, really need a solid night. I don't know how parents get by with kids who won't STTN for a year or so! J was sleeping a solid 8 hours at 10 weeks. Clock is ticking, Henry.

@MrsHansen82: Ugh, I'm the opposite - my drive is pretty much nonexistent. I don't know if it's the BFing or what, but I have zero interest in sex-ing. And DH is a hot dad, so it's not him. I would just rather get a really hot shower and then sleep in flannel PJs

I'm so sorry about your grandfather. Thinking of you

@mfa_lady: SO jealous of your sleep stretch! I hope she cooperates tonight too. I can't wait for that moment - waking up totally engorged and a little panicked because "OMG how long has he been asleep?!," but just feeling amazing because you finally slept longer than 4 hours.

Also, I'm a SAHM now, but I had great luck with Mothers Milk herbal tea giving me a huge boost in supply when I went back to work with LO1.

@SleepyMonkey: H goes to sleep around 7 pm, dream feed at 10 or so, up at 1 or 2 if I'm lucky, up at 5 or 6, and then usually sleeps on me in our bed until 7 or so. Like I said, we're a hot mess!

@charmed: I'm of the opinion that, until sometime between weeks 6-8, you let baby sleep where baby falls asleep. For H, that was usually the sling or on me until the last week or so. I laid him down for his second successful crib nap today. He sleeps every night in his own crib, but naps are very touch and go still. Usually on a blanket on my coffee table, actually, while J plays in the family room. He still won't nap in the swing, and won't nap for very long in the bouncy seat. He hates the rock and play. Ugh.

@keepcalmcarrie: Impressive! LO1 took forever to roll, so I have low expectations for LO2.

I'm a little sad with how quickly B is growing. I just got on the scale with her/without her and she is around 11.5 lbs! LO1 was so much smaller at this age.

@keepcalmcarrie: rolling over already! That is so great A tries to roll over during tummy time, but she isn't close to actually doing it.

@HappyBaker: that is wonderful!!

I'm looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow (or at least going back to bed after the first feeding). DH and I decided to each take one weekend morning so the other one can sleep in or just enjoy some time without the baby. I probably won't be able to sleep too late, but just know I could has me giddy

Any mini-pill takers experience spotting/weird CM after starting it? I started taking it this past Sunday night and the past few days have had pink and brown-tinged CM. I'm assuming it's the pill, because nothing else has changed. Any ideas?

@HappyBaker: i just did bedtime by myself for the first time tonight. It went well actually. Dd1 and i took a shower together while dd2 watched us from her bouncer. Then i had to nurse dd2, so i talked to dd1 while nursing dd2...dd1 seemed content. Then i read stories to both and put dd1 to bed. I basically had to hold dd2 the whole time since she is so fussy during this time of the day. I think it helps dd1 if i talk her through everything first, like explain what is going to happen and that she has to wait and she has to be patient.

Dh will be back home later tonight so he can deal with dd1 motn wake up though. I won't have to do solo nights for another week or so, then it'll be a full week of it while dh is on a business trip. I will be turning to you for advice then!

@Radish: yes thank god we have a nanny who takes her out all day...

@SleepyMonkey: maybe try a binky? I was just reading @mrsblue post about dropping a night feeding by using a pacifier.

http://www.hellobee.com/2013/06/11/the-magic-drop-a-feeding-pacifier-trick/