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@tequiero21 oh me too but this was different and my whole stomach was getting rock hard in waves every few minutes. It was different from normal so I was worried... Seems better now!

Hello, everyone! I'm new and checking in. We just found yesterday that we are having a girl. Her name is Charlotte Helen. I knew as soon as I got pregnant that she was a girl- I have had dreams of her before and after becoming pregnant, always a girl.

Estimated Due Date (EDD):
Sept 23, confirmed by my anatomy scan on April 28

When Did You Find Out?:
January 12, although I knew 4 dpo (January 6) because I was nauseous for several hours, which was very unusual for me. All week I kept telling my husband I was pregnant but of course, he didn't believe me until he saw the positive HPT.

Child Number:
One

Where You Live:
Ossining, NY

What kind of provider will you see?:
My regular OBGYN, although there are two doctors and two midwives in the office (in a hospital) so they like you to meet with all of them during the pregnancy since they can't guarantee who will be on call when you deliver.

What kind of birth do you want?:
As natural as possible. I would go for a home birth with a doula if my husband would go for it.

What You're Most Excited For:
Right now I can't stop thinking about cute baby socks. I love cute socks, and I really hope I can find some "Mommy and Me" kind of sets so we can match. Oh, and I'm also looking forward to using Baby Signing.

What You're Most Scared About:
That we won't have our little one-bedroom apartment ready for her when she's born.

Cravings:
Nothing specific, really. My body is just craving healthy food. I have no interest in greasy stuff anymore, and I'm not big on meat. Never been vegetarian before, but I feel like I'm borderline now.

Pictured: Charlotte's first teddy bear, given to me by my parents at the gender scan when it confirmed my intuition that baby is a girl. (They didn't even buy a blue one just in case.) I announced the gender by texting this picture to friends, then posted it on Facebook after certain people had replied to the text.

@psw27: Wohoo!! So exciting! And so glad to hear everything looked ok at the scan.

@London mama that sounds like a much more relaxing way to work! I wish my office allowed us to work from home, I loathe commuting!

thanks @littlebit I was really nervous for some reason. Always nice to see the little bean

Oh, but we have decided that if baby cooperates, we're finding out the gender at this ultrasound. We'll confirm with the amnio if we have one. Figure no matter how it plays out, we'd rather know at this point. So that's something to look forward to that's sort of positive, to keep it from being so scary.

@London Mama: God, those days are the best. Its like gaining 2-3 hours of your life!

@psw27: Congrats - can't wait to find out what you're having!

@butterflyprism: Welcome and congrats!

@Torchwood: I think its just hard for the grandparents some times because they are super excited and want to express that excitement somehow and we wont always let them. Because for them, its more about the baby than our feelings. And for us, its about managing our fear and anxiety. I just see it as a precursor to how things will be after we have kids - my mom will always love me, but she's going to be fixated more on her grandkids than my feelings.

I've had repeated losses and my mom always insists everything is going to be fine. Which she obviously doesn't know for sure, but its her way of injecting positive optimism into the situation and rooting for the baby. She always tells me to talk to the baby and tell him he's going to be just fine and that he needs to grow big and strong. "He needs to know we all love him and want him here." While something like that is hard in the context of "what if we lose this one too," its also very sweet to think about from her perspective. Grandma really wants you here, she loves you already, she's getting all ready for you, and can't wait to meet you.

Also - be glad your mom just bought a tub! As soon as BIL's wife got pregnant last fall, my MIL went out and bought a full on glider set for her guest room. I don't think my SIL was more than 8 weeks at the time?? My FIL said she just got a bug in her butt about it and he could NOT talk her out of it. She just had to have it. I think it was her way of acknowledging that she was really going to be a granny.

@psw27: I'm in suspense! Any special plans for tonight?

@Torchwood: that would make me feel unsettled, too. An you talk to her about it? I would be honest and clear with your wants/needs in this time of uncertainty. I think it's great she's optimistic, but she still needs to respect your feelings. At the very least, I'd ask her to keep everything at her house and not talk to me about it.

Your appointment is Friday, right?

@Torchwood: well, you can't tell her how to spend her money. You can, however, decide how much time baby spends at her house. Try not to let her over eagerness get to you.

I would definitely ask her to not mention any future purchases, too. It sounds like it stresses you out!

@Mrs. Jump Rope: @Littlebit: Thanks. I'm just going to have to let her know I'm serious, I think.

This whole keeping it to ourselves until we know more thing is confusing! My aunt just texted me something about natural childbirth, and I was so confused as to why she's still thinking we're going that route (odds are very good that I'll have to do a c-section, because with baby's brain already under pressure, they're not going to want to make that worse with all the squishing that goes on in the birth canal). I did catch myself before texting anything about that though. I keep forgetting that everyone in the world except ya'll and our parents have no idea that this isn't a textbook perfect pregnancy.

@tequiero21 @mrs. jump rope I know! I've been getting flack about the suspense all day! The "moms" are not happy with us for waiting. We aren't doing anything too crazy, we just had a bakery frost a cupcake in the appropriate gender color. (Its a Crumbs cupcake too so I'm super excited to eat it! If any of you know about Crumbs!)

@psw27: Sooo....how was the cupcake?!

@psw27: Yay!!!! Congrats! Boys are ruling this thread! Welcome to the club It took me a while to adjust to the idea of a boy but now I just love it!

Congrats Psw27! You might as well start baby proofing the house now, more so for the safety of your possessions than the baby as there's no limit on the power of destruction of little boys! We have a boy who'll be 2 in the summer and I've given up the idea of having anything nice looking in the house for the next few years. Love it though, their energy is amazing!

Is anyone else sort of looking forward to it being May 1st tomorrow? Feels like a milestone entering the month of May, 4 months and counting down. Some days it feels like pregnancy is never ending and like I've been pregnant for a life time already and other days due date is approaching faster than I'd like.

@psw27: woo hoo! Definitely lots of boys for sept! So exciting! I had a feeling mine was a boy too. Wonder how many of us were right on our instincts.

@London Mama: as of last night, I will be having the baby in exactly 4 months!!!

@Littlebit: Excited for you! Any feeling one way or the other?

Can I went about in-laws please? I always feel guilty when I do because they do help us a lot but sometimes it's just too much for me. Today I'm working from home again due to the transportation strike, FIL has spent the last 5 hours in the garden building a brick wall (appreciate his help greatly) and he just told me he's spoken to BIL and told him to drop his kids who are 5 and 7 off at our house for the rest of the day. Eh what? I'm working and can't look after them, and although they're lovely kids I know they won't leave me alone which isn't a problem normally but I need to finish work on time so I can go pick up DS from daycare. You'd think before you invited someone's kids to another person's house you'd at least ask them if it was ok first.... sigh, I guess I'll bribe them with ice cream and finish up my work later on tonight after DS is asleep.

@psw27: Congrats!!!

@London Mama: I would just leave a pile of snacks on the dinner table, go lock myself in my room, and leave the kids to your FIL!

@psw27: Yay another boy!!!

@tequiero21: My instinct was right! I wonder how it also compares to the Chinese gender chart? Mine said girl...