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@periwinklebee: thanks! and congrats on your (yeah I'm totally a thread stalker )

@bhbee: Thank you I'm so, so relieved that everything came back normal. I know that there's always a risk of things going wrong, but I feel like now I can actually start to let myself believe that this is probably going to happen.

@periwinklebee: Congrats! So happy to hear that everything came back normal.

Things are finally settling down after almost 2 weeks on vacation. I'm back at work and really not feeling motivated so I guess that's a great opportunity to come here

I do know that I will not be returning to the RE. Our insurance rolled over 7/1 which means everything goes back to being out of pocket and I just can't stomach paying thousands of dollars for something that is just a chance.

I'm on CD 3 so I know I have some time to figure out what we're going to do this month... but I really have no idea what I want anymore.

@periwinklebee: SO glad everything came back normal! How far along are you now?
And congrats on the little boy!

@mrskansas: My OB said it's possible I just caught it early or my urine was too diluted for the culture to catch it, so I'm guessing that's what happened. I went to the dr literally 3 hours after I started getting symptoms and I was drinking tons of water. I just hope I don't end up with another one this month.

I would probably feel the same way as you and would not want to return to the RE. My feelings about ttc change almost daily though.. Sometimes I am all for going to an RE and other days the thought of going makes me panic when I think of all the stress that comes with testing, treatments, scans, etc. If there was a clear sign that something was wrong I would go, but everything seems normal so it's been hard to push myself to make an appointment.

I can totally relate to not knowing what you want anymore. I want to stop actively trying and just see what happens, but I also want to get pregnant asap, so not really sure what to do.

@PeaceLily: Thank you

The initial IF testing isn't that costly in terms of time, may be financially, depending on insurance. I haven't done treatments, but I think then it's a different story. My PCP recommended testing after 6 months of careful timing - in part because of my age (close to AMA) but also because she'd personally gone through infertility and knew how emotionally draining it could be. I don't regret seeing the RE, even though in our case I think it was just bad luck initially and nothing the RE could have diagnosed. However, I might feel differently if it had put me out a ton of money, which is obviously a consideration. Thinking of you and sending lots of .

@Kemma: not LP specifically but it absolutely changes my cycles. Hormones all over the place and I've been having heavy painful periods which are not normal for me prior to the loss. Hopefully it gets better with time or I think it would also be reasonable to ask your dr about the short cycles.

@mrskansas: One thing to have checked could be ureaplasma, if you haven't already cultured for it. It's a bacterial infection that doesn't respond to many antibiotics. I think it's controversial the extent to which it causes IF, but there's some evidence it can cause repeat chemicals.

@mrskansas: I guess it depends what it is - I took a strong antibiotic for 2 weeks and they did not want me to ttc while taking it so I did 2 weeks of bc pills to hold off my cycle (started both on cd1)

@mrskansas: seems fine then, REs are usually pretty cautious

So I just found out that I have bacterial vaginosis. I've never had any sort of vaginal infection before, but apparently this could keep me from getting pregnant since it messes up the PH balance down there. I am so upset and angry. I thought I've been getting UTIs since Feb, but odds are I've probably had BV this entire time. I can't believe this. Of course google scared the crap out of me since this can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease which can cause infertility and mine has been untreated for months.

I've been so stressed wondering why I haven't gotten pregnant the last 6 months and am now terrified that this could have caused some permanent damage.

Does anyone have any experience with this?

@mrskansas: I've done some more research and it seems like it's very unlikely for it to cause any damage and I actually didn't realize how common it is. I kind of think I did have a uti but the antibiotics may have caused this since I know they can cause yeast infections. I guess I'll never really know. I at least have a reason now for why I haven't gotten pregnant yet. I hope treating this is all I need. Thankfully I've been taking probiotics these last few weeks so hopefully that helps keep it away after it's cleared.

@mrskansas: Ugh, that must have been awful! I think I may want an ultrasound after treating this to make sure things are ok, but it seems like it should be fine. This is just so frustrating. If they bothered to do a urine culture back in Feb and it came back negative I would have gone to my OB then. They just assumed it was a UTI and so did I.

I am feeling like kind of a wreck tonight. Tomorrow is 9dpo so the first day I would really have a chance to see a bfp. I don't think it will be one although clearly I have no idea yet. I just feel such a sense of impending doom, like a devastating loss is just around the corner. I know a bfn is not really so high drama. I guess maybe it's the sense that this could be the end? Or perhaps a preview of how I would feel if I did get a bfp? I really don't know but I feel sick to my stomach. We will be apart most of the next month and no chance to ttc. I really hope I can figure out what's next. I wonder why I put myself through this when I know I could be happy with my two. Anyone else felt this way? I think I need to go listen to sad music or watch something sad to get my feelings out. And then I feel like I'm being dramatic over a miscarriage over three months ago.

@mrskansas: big hugs mama that is such a hard moment to deal with. I was laying down in my son's room trying to get him to sleep and I started sobbing. It's hard to feel like a good parent when all this is happening, even though I know we both still are.

@PeaceLily: I'm so glad you discovered this, and I really, really hope it does the trick for you! It's funny, when we first started trying we had a bunch of bfns, and then bam - no problem getting pregnant (though staying pregnant was a different matter). I thought maybe it was just a bad luck with eggs thing, because I know the timing was right, but your post makes me wonder if things like this play a role more often than we might think. The only thing I changed at the time was drinking a bottle of kombucha every morning - I did it because it had a bunch of b vitamins and I was trying to lengthen my luteal phase, but I wonder if the probiotics gave a more favorable environment for implantation. Anyways, I'm blabbing, but I hope this does the trick. If we TTC again, I will definitely be using probiotics from the start.

@periwinklebee: That's really interesting that kombucha could have helped you conceive. B vitamins are so important and I'm sure I'm lacking in at least B12 since I'm a vegetarian. I knew all the antibiotics I was taking for UTIs could have caused something like this, but for some reason I didn't think to take probiotics until a couple weeks ago, ugh. I'm definitely going to stay on them for a long time. I'm scared that this will be an ongoing problem, but at least now I know what I'm dealing with. BV has recently been linked to recurrent UTIs so it makes sense.