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@Nutella: thank you, friend.
️ I know I just need to be patient and keep trying, but sometimes I just feel stuck. How are you doing with getting everythihg sorted?
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@Crystal: going ok...I hes r you on struggling with patience! I'm the least patient person I know! I just had to deal with a close friend telling me she is due in October...I was really tired today so i almost couldn't even feign excitement!
plus I ended up talking about my mc which she didn't know about & it was just weird...too much pity and general awkwardness. I really struggled with the rest of the conversation too, as it was all about finding out the sex, and double prams etc, so I'm feeling a bit sad now! Blah! Trying to focus on my health but it's just really bloody hard when I feel so heartbroken! Sorry for being a downer - what's your next step? Are you in a tww?
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@Nutella: You aren't a downer at all, I know exactly how you feel. as MaryMc says, you gotta respect the funk. I'm sorry it was an awkward conversation with your friend.
Yes, I am at the very end of a TWW. My temps fell dramatically 2 days in a row, so I'm 99% sure I'm out. I'm sad and frustrated. I just want so badly for this to work.
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Cautiously stepping in here...!
Date of loss: I miscarried at 5 weeks in mid-February, so 2 cycles ago
How long are you waiting to TTC again: We're starting again now. My dr had said to wait one cycle, and then we waited one more because of a work opportunity that came up for me for the fall semester, plus I didn't really feel emotionally ready yet. I just got my period again, so this cycle we're trying again...!
Any kids: lo just turned 2 last weekend!
How are you feeling? Very, very cautious. I feel like it's going to be very emotional, and I know I'm going to be really anxious
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@nana87: I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you the best of luck as you start trying again!
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@nana87:
Lots of love to you!
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@Shantuck: @MrsDragon: thank you both!
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@nana87: I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort and support with this board and amongst your support group at home. Best wishes as you begin TTC again.
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@delight:
thank you!
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This anxiety is so rough. I'm 5 weeks today and cramps/back aches have really ramped up. My second loss was at 5+5 and I'm just... terrified. Ugh.
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@MrsDragon: everything crossed for you!!! Do you have an ultrasound booked yet?
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@MrsDragon: I hope your pain subsides soon and everything is fine! I'm 6 weeks today and also feeling anxious. I don't have any ultrasounds booked or even an OB appt for a month. I hate this waiting.
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@Mrs. Champagne: I don't - I have that specialist appointment Wednesday and a prenatal appointment May 2, and an US would be booked after that I think.
@catlady: I feel you. I hope it flies by!
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@MrsDragon: it's so rough. I didn't believe it until 9w this time. Hang in there mama!
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@catlady: @MrsDragon:
fingers crossed so hard for you both! My first fertile window of ttc this time around starts today, according to Ovia app I'm using, and I'm feeling kind of sad? resentful of dh that he seems blissfully unaware (he just seems happy not to be using condoms...). I'm also super stressed about work right now, but I'm just dreading this tww...Both before lo and our loss, I didn't really talk to dh much about where I was in my cycle, but I feel like I might need to involve him more now in ttc, it's too hard for me to feel like I'm doing this on my own
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@nana87: I definitely let my DH know when I'm in a fertile window. In the past, I would get very stressed about it and that stressed out DH, but these days, we are both a bit more relaxed so it works. You can make it more fun if you want and that helps too (we plan "dates" around the fertile window so it gives us something to look forward to). Good luck!
I've been starting to have a bad feeling about this pregnancy and I don't know if it's intuition or just nerves. We are going on vacation tomorrow and I just booked an ultrasound for the day after we get back so at least I will know something soon. I could have had the ultrasound today but I just didn't know how to handle the possibility of finding out we had lost a baby the day before our Disney trip. My LO's been looking forward to it so much that I couldn't bear the thought of cancelling it if something was wrong. Hopefully all is well and it is all in my head though.
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@nana87: I responded to your other thread but it's a lot for one person to handle. I didn't necessarily want my husband to be consulting my FertilityFriend app and chatting about my sustained temp rise must have meant I ovulated but I did welcome my husband becoming more involved in our back-up planning (i.e. researching reproductive endocrinologists and SART data in case it came to that). By him taking over that portion of things made me feel like he was trying. He would also ask about when I thought my fertile window was going to be ahead of time, which made me feel like he was at least paying attention to TTC.
@catlady: I have had a bad feeling about my pregnancy as well but somehow I keep going back for ultrasounds and there seems to be a heartbeat each time. I'm sure this is more about the recent losses screwing with your mind than anything else.
I am expecting my MaterniT21 test results tomorrow and I keep having this sinking feeling in my gut. I am also dealing with some really awful news about a friend (31 year old with an inoperable stage 4 brain tumor). Trying to take it day by day but it's hard.
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@Shantuck: best wishes on your NIPT results. It is so stressful waiting for the phone to ring. I have everything crossed for a healthy baby for you. Will you find out gender? I'm so sorry about your friend. That's difficult news to take.
@catlady: I hope you can shake your bad feelings and enjoy your trip!! It is so hard though. I'm constantly on edge and worried that something will go wrong. My NT scan is Friday and I'm so nervous. I already have my NIPT results back (low risk) but I'm still sick with worry. And the school I was at yestersay has an outbreak of Fifth Disease which is bad for pregnant women. Now I have to go get tested tonight to see if I am immune. I don't think the word will ever go away for any of us who have suffered loss until our babes are in our arms. Have a wonderful trip and best wishes for a great scan when you get back! -
@Shantuck: Thanks so much, I'm so glad you have seen a heartbeat each time. Really hoping your Materniti21 results come back just fine! I'm so sorry for your friend. I just can't imagine.
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@delight: Thanks so much! Fifth disease? Oh man, the worries never stop. Best of luck at your NT scan!
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Had our ultrasound yesterday. Saw baby's heartbeat and it definitely gave me a sense of relief. I dont think I'll ever be worry free, but it certainly helps.
Baby is measuring at 6 weeks 6 days today.
However my OB said they won't give me a due date until my next scan on two weeks since I miscarried prior.
Online calculators say December 7.
Baby's heart is beating at 122bpm!! We didn't hear it but saw the flicker.
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@catlady: I had a really hard time with negativity this pregnancy as well. At our 7 week scan, I saw the baby and everything was fine and perfect, but after the scan I was in tears, just *knowing* something would go wrong. It was bizarre. Another good scan at 9 weeks. And when I was waiting for my NIPT results and felt like time was dragging on, I was in tears one day *knowing* something was wrong. Everything is fine though. After having losses, your mentality is just never the same in pregnancy. Hang in there
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@Shantuck: Waiting is such a stressful time. The day I found out our NIPT results I called my doctor and they still weren't ready. I started crying on the phone. She called a few hours later. It is a total mind f**k to have the availability of this information early and to have to wait for the results.
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@stiletto_mom: Glad all is well!
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@stiletto_mom: beautiful scan!!! Congrats on a healthy heartbeat. What a relief!
@catlady: apparently 50% of people are immune to Fifth Disease because they had it as a child. I frantically called my mom this morning but she doesn't remember me ever having it. It's the virus where kids look like they have had their cheeks slapped- facial rash. But yes, there's always something to worry about!
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@delight: my doctor had me get tested for it at 8 weeks since I had no idea if I had been exposed. Apparently, I am immune. Hope you are too!
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@winniebee: how long do results take? I hear it can be awhile. I'm worried it's going to start spreading around the whole area I work in and I won't be able to go to any schools! From my understanding, even if I catch it the risk is pretty low ~5% of anything "bad" happening to the babe. However, I'm too freaked out to risk it.
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@delight: I think it was a week? But perhaps they ordered your tests as *stat* since there is a genuine concern?
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@winniebee: I'm doing it tonight so I'll ask them to put on a rush. Thanks!!
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@delight: We will find out the gender but not on the call from the genetic counselor. We are hoping we can get our doctor's office to write it down for us so we can find out together with our son (maybe a gender reveal party for just the three of us). We haven't really celebrated this pregnancy in any way because we keep waiting for the other shoe to drop so if can get through this test and the NT scan, I think we'll be ready to let ourselves feel happy about this.
Sorry you are dealing with the stress of Fifth's disease!
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@Shantuck: we have done the same with gender. As soon as our genetic counsellor called with results I told her not to tell me! We are actually still on the fence about learning gender. Hope you get your results soon!
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Maternit21 results just came back and everything looks good! I'm low risk. Still have an NT scan next week but I'll take this good news.
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@Shantuck: already replied in October, but so amazing!!!
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Hi everyone! Been trying to lay low and not be a crazy pants over ttc but just had to check in.
Celebrated a birthday over the weekend and while it was a fine day, I just felt sad. Then I realized it was the first time I didn't WANT to be a year older bc of ttc. I'm suppose to be a mom by now. My six best friends just had their second babies in the last four weeks and I'm exactly the same as I was five years ago. Sigh.
Just a vent!
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@LibbyLou:
Lots of love to you!
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Hi, I'm new to this board and site so I'm not sure of the standard intro, but this thread applies to me so I thought this might be a good place to start. Please redirect me if there's a different way to intro. I'm 34 and ttc baby #2. My son is 2 and I had a CP loss last October. We have been ttc ever since and it's such an emotional roller coaster and I think it's time for me to join a community. I'm currently winding down my tww, I'm 14DPO with elevated temps still but seeing some spotting today. I've also peed on about 6 sticks in the last 2 days and all BFN. So yeah, I'm on the crazy train. I'm so anxious to get a BFP but also terrified of the anxiety it will bring.
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@RojoVol85: Welcome. I'm nearly a cycle buddy (13 dpo) and weighing when to POAS since I was on HCG this cycle. I don't want to risk false hopes if it's still in my system.
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@MaryM: Thank you, wow yeah we are almost exactly in sync. I was totally not going to test early this cycle but my elevated temps have given me false hope I guess. I'm not sure what's going on with me. I didn't ovulate until CD 20 this time which is late, I'm way out of whack. FX you get a BFP!
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@LibbyLou: hi and hugs to you!
we are pausing ttc as I'm hopefully starting a new job soon & I just need to not be in crazy pregnancy/ttc mode when I'm starting (!!) so fingers crossed we get to start I'm a few months. It has been a horrible few months here trying to distract myself from it though - lots of pregnant friends, and i get really heartbroken if I think too hard about it all! But i know it'll happen when the time is right, just need to hold it together! I'm dreading the time when I need to organise baby showers etc but in a way I'm hoping it helps heal! @RojoVol85: hi - so sorry to hear about your loss last year, hear you on the rollercoaster! I think the hardest part is expecting your journey to follow the path that others have...for me all the real life friends I have who had losses, ALL went onto have successful pregnancies straight away. I'm sure they still struggle when they remember their loss but I can't help but feel sad that I wasn't 'able' to conceive again straightaway. I do B know this community helped me a lot through the tough times...so sending you lots of luck for your tww!
@MaryM: sending you lots of good wishes &
- have missed seeing you around here.
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@RojoVol85: Welcome! I'm sorry about your loss but I hope you will have better luck soon.
@stiletto_mom: I think we are going to have the same due date (or close). Just had an ultrasound this morning and saw a heartbeat. The hospital had given me a due date of Dec 8 and didn't change it because it would have been only one day off, but technically I'm measuring as if the due date is Dec 7.
I'm feeling relieved but not out of the woods yet.
plus I ended up talking about my mc which she didn't know about & it was just weird...too much pity and general awkwardness. I really struggled with the rest of the conversation too, as it was all about finding out the sex, and double prams etc, so I'm feeling a bit sad now! Blah! Trying to focus on my health but it's just really bloody hard when I feel so heartbroken! Sorry for being a downer - what's your next step? Are you in a tww?
Lots of love to you!
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