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@MaryM: I seem to recall that you were diagnosed with the MFTHR gene mutation. Do you have any good resources to read about it. I have had 4-5 miscarriages and just found out our rainbow baby has severe spina bifida, including multiple brain abnormalities. We are TFMR this week at 18 weeks. I was never tested for the mutation with my loss panel back in January since I have 2 healthy boys, and it involves a lot of blood, so my OB said it was really unlikely. But now I'm wondering. Desperately looking for answers.

Yeah. So, I'm not a success story after all. Worst nightmare come true.

@winniebee: I'm really sorry about your most recent prognosis.

I read a lot at mthfr.net, but I'm also skeptical and not sure the guy running it isn't also a total quack.

I had to push for the testing, but it wasn't any worse than the first panel I was offered.

I'm not sure how much of a difference it makes because my doctors aren't really all that aware of issues with it. Except one who said to supplement with methylfolate instead of folic acid. I take smarty pants prenatals.

Other than that, I started aspirin protocol myself because the benefits outweigh the risks. And I avoid folic acid fortified foods. I also had an inconclusive celiac test, so it made sense to give up flour (I also don't eat commercially made cereals, even if GF many are fortified, like Cheerios; white rice, orange juice, things like carnation instant breakfast)

It hasn't made a difference yet fertility wise, but my hormones are just getting balance due to treatment, so I'm not surprised I haven't gotten pregnant.

I also take different forms of B vitamins that are easier to process. My prenatal has methylated B12 and I take P5P instead of processed B6 to help with cervical mucous.

@MaryM: I did ask our genetic counselor about the mutation. She said yes it's possible but so many people have it and it's a non issue. But I guess because I've now had a child with a neural tube defect, the remedy would be to put me on a mega dose of folate (not folic acid in prenatal) for 3m prior to ttc, if we ever decide to ttc again (and she said this would be the same treatment if I had the mutation?) I will obviously follow up with OB and mfm on this.

@winniebee: I know this is thread has been quiet for ages, but I'm often not on hb anymore - I wanted to say hi and send virtual Internet your way. How are you doing? I don't know what I can say that will help, but just wanted to let you know that you're still in thoughts and the sun will come out again.

@Makingbabyw: Sorry you're here. I tried right away after both of my losses (one natural and one D&C) and after the second I did get pregnant again the first full cycle after the D&C. I highly suggest making the decision that is right for you and where you are emotionally, physically, etc. My doc did warn that the uterus could have some bruising right after the D&C and I did have a small subchorionic hematoma at the beginning of this pregnancy that may have been related to the D&C. However, it did go away and I'm glad I didn't wait. You are supposed to be more fertile after a miscarriage because of the heightened progesterone levels. However, I highly recommend taking good care of yourself and making sure you are ready. I planned some fun nights out, made sure I was exercising, eating right, etc. and I felt like I bounced back from my second loss much faster than my first. Good luck to you and sorry for your loss.

@Makingbabyw: I'm sorry you're having to go through this.

@winniebee: so much love to you.

@Mrs Music: I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a natural miscarriage and a D&C for a blighted ovum and learned that it can take awhile for your body to regulate its hormone levels, which is incredibly frustrating because after a loss you just want to be pregnant again already. After my natural miscarriage, I did some bloodwork and my progesterone levels were low, etc. I did acupuncture, exercised, ate well, and otherwise tried to take good care of myself and eventually things fell back in place. Know you are not alone and that it may just take a little time. Hang in there!

@winniebee: @Shantuck: Thanks.

I am part of two facebook loss groups specifically for Anencephaly and it has been a lot of help, particularly as not many people knew I was pregnant.

@Mrs Music: I'm so sorry for your loss. We also received a similar diagnosis (amniotic band syndrome prevented the skull from forming) at our 12 week ultrasound and TFMR at 13 weeks.

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We went away over the weekend to commemorate our son's due date which was on the Monday. Two days before I found out I was expecting again. I'm 5.5 weeks now and I can not wait till I go for my dating ultrasound in two weeks.

@Mrs Music: Gentle congratulations to you. I hope this pregnancy goes well for you.

@Makingbabyw: I'm sorry your MIL talked about your loss without your permission. While it is nice to receive support from family, I'm sure it was jarring if it was unexpected

We are coming around to maybe trying again. Not yet. We have a trip to Vegas scheduled in 3 weeks, then due date. I want to get past my due date next month and then see how we feel. I've stopped crying for my baby every day and it feels good to be emotionally lighter...but I also feel guilty about that.