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I think you can validate her feelings, but I'm not sure there is much you can do to help her. It's a non-negotiable thing. She has to move up, it's going to happen. I always tell H, "I'm so sorry you feel that way and it is okay to be sad, but this is not a choice you get to make."

I've done similar to @Silva; with validating her feelings and then giving an example from my own life about a time I felt similarly (like in changing a job, etc.)

Unfortunately my experience has been similar to the others in that validating helps but is a show process. Have you asked how you can help? Even my almost 2 year old has given me ideas I didn't arrive at on my own. Maybe offer to help her do something to commemorate the change? If it's another animal name for the next group maybe a new stuffed animal? Or a stuffed bear to remind her of her old group? Photo album? Maybe even a good luck charm, apparently research even shows that if you believe it's lucky then it actually is for you.

When my son was having a difficult time with his classroom, I had to stop offering up my own "solutions" to the problem (such as pointing out the positives, talking about how her friends were doing it too, etc). It made him shut down after a while. I think none of those things made him feel better but he *thought* he should feel better because I was telling him to, so he started to pretend like it was okay (and the emotions came out in all sorts of other weird places).
When we stopped trying to help and started just listening with empathy ("It must feel really hard to be in your classroom. I'm so sorry you had a tough day.") he began to open up more and we were able to figure out the real issues (which, I'm guessing her issue is just not being comfortable with change).
I'd suggest trying not to "help" her adjust and just be with her and her feelings. If it takes more than 2ish weeks for her to adjust, maybe talk with the teachers to see if there's a specific struggle she's having. And, without telling her why, you could ready some "starting a new school/making new friends/etc" books to give her subtle exposure to the idea that people are uncertain of new situations, but become comfortable over time.

@mediagirl: Does she have a favorite toy from the old class that she could bring to the new class? My littles seem to do better when something that's familiar to them is with them at all times. It could even be a book or a favorite mat. Maybe you could ask the teacher if they could allow this for her.