Did your SO stay with you or go home to take care of LO #1?
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
my mom came to take care of #1 so Wagon Sr. stayed with me. He had planned on going back a few times to help out, say hello, etc. but I ended up having a complication after delivery so he stayed.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
Not pregnant with #2 yet, but we've decided due to me knowing I'm having a c-section that LO with stay with one of our parents and DH will stay with em to help with the baby.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
He stayed with me but went home to help his mom with LO once.
pomegranate / 3275 posts
With DS#1 DH stayed with my the first night, but not after that. We don't have family close and I couldn't see the point in paying a babysitter (or trust anyone else for all evening).
With DS #2, DH has a double break in his tibia (and he was only 2 weeks post surgery, so still in pain), so he didn't spend a single night with me because it would have been uncomfortable. He did come and spend a huge chunk of the day with us
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
mr bee went home because i had a shared room and overnight guests were not allowed. my mom was with charlie, but mr bee slept at home except maybe one night (i stayed at a hotel for an extra week when olive remained in the hospital.
we had a private room with charlie and i had a c section, so mr bee stayed the whole time.
watermelon / 14206 posts
DH stayed with me while I was in the hospital for S. DS went to my mom's.
We have the same plan this time around.
pomegranate / 3565 posts
DH will stay with me and the new baby while DS is with my mom and sister.
pomelo / 5678 posts
DH AND LO will probably stay with me... LO has nowhere else to go at this point (but I am just worrying ahead...:) )
grapefruit / 4120 posts
He went home to put him to bed but then came back to spend the night. That was a PERFECT arrangement for us!
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
The ILs have already offered to watch LO when I go into labor so DH will likely stay with me. It's only like $40 more for a private room at my hospital. If my mom is here when I'm in labor then she'll stay with LO.
@Greentea: does your hospital allow that?
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
@Greentea: Is there room at the hospital for your LO and DH? When the time comes, I'd love for LO to stay with us but at our hospital, the pull out bed was twin size. It's the only bed (besides the hospital bed) in the room.
grapefruit / 4712 posts
My parents will be taking care of N, while I am in the hospital with DS#2. DH will be able to stay with me as long as work doesn't get in the way!
pomelo / 5791 posts
DH and I have talked about this, although we're not preg with #2 yet. We already know I'll be having a c-sec. He'll probably stay the first night, and go home the following nights. Reason being - He snores like a train. It's AWFUL. He literally kept me up for two full days after having DS. I requested Ambien on the third night because I was SO deliriously tired.
honeydew / 7586 posts
I only have one LO, but when I had B my husband went home at night to take care of the dogs and get some sleep. I'd assume he'll do the same for the next LO.
GOLD / pomegranate / 3688 posts
Our plan is to have my MIL come down as soon as I go into labor to stay with DD (she lives a short flight/long-ish drive away). My mom will be here as well because she serves as our doula and we have several friends we can call for a few hours of coverage, so we have a lot of options if MIL can't make it in time for us to leave for the hospital.
When DD was born, my mom and DH were at the hospital for her birth and few hours afterward, then my mom went and stayed at our house and DH stayed with me in the hospital. We all know how great hospital sleep is, so the second day my mom stayed with me and DH went home to get a good night's sleep. I thought that worked out really well - I always had someone with me, but DH also got to get a good shower and some quality rest. I imagine we will do the same thing the next time as well.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@littlek: Do you have something you would like to share with the class???
grapefruit / 4400 posts
I asked the hubs what he wanted to do (my mom will probably come over and watch C while we're in the hospital) and he said he would be staying with me overnight-- he didn't want to leave me high and dry!
GOLD / squash / 13576 posts
@MamaMoose: I will definitely let you know if there is something to tell... nothing yet
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
DH stayed the first night, and a neighbor stayed at our house with LO. He went home the next day and I was on my own for another day/night. Honestly, it was nice to have some one-on-one bonding with the baby. Almost felt like a vacation.
@locavore_mama: haha! I think so... i hope so! I will have to find out of course.
@Alivoo01: The family suites are pretty nice. The hospital bed is a double so that mom, SO, and baby can fit... we'll have to see...
I am preliminary worrying as we are not yet starting on baby 2... but as long as the hospital allows it we pretty much have to make it work. But again... we have some time... but I am a worrier/ planner. Oh, we can walk to the hospital... so if I have to be alone for a little while hopefully nbd as we will live right next to the hospital.
pineapple / 12566 posts
DH stayed the first night and DS had his first sleepover. DH went home after that and I stayed 4 nights (normal in Austria even for a complication-free birth).
pomegranate / 3983 posts
He left the hospital to pick up LO from one friend, put him to bed at home, and then another friend came to stay over our place and DH came back to the hospital to stay with us.
honeydew / 7917 posts
DH stayed with me at the hospital while LO stayed with my in-law's. I needed his support.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
this is for the future, but we plan on having dh with me at the hospital while my mom watches DS. she's his primary caretaker already and he does so well with her that i know it'll be the best setup for his transition and the support i'll need from dh.
persimmon / 1194 posts
DH will stay with me and my mom will watch DD. I remember being in so much pain afterward I can't imagine do it on my own.
My cousin however has 4 kids and when she gave birth to #3 and #4 she sent her DH back to work within an hour of birth and handled it all herself, talk about super mom.
apricot / 287 posts
Be sure to find out your hospital's policy especially if you have a c-section. I had planned on my SO going home to stay with LO (his parents were also there but my LO had never been away from us for more than a few hours) but found out that if you have a c-section someone must be with you and your newborn at all times or you must send the baby to the newborn nursery.
So that changed our plan completely, my Mom was with me at the hospital for part of the day so SO could help with LO at home and he stayed overnight with me at the hospital.
@Greentea: That's awesome they give you a bed big enough for all three of you! My main concern would be how all 3 of you would sleep comfortably given you just gave birth and still have to tend to your newborn frequently.
grapefruit / 4997 posts
@Greentea: I have a dear friend who had her whole family (her husband and 2 older girls) sleep with them in a private room at the hospital when her son was born. The girls were well behaved and older 8 & 9. It was such a sweet picture to see but I had never heard of that before (a family suite I guess).
I would want DH and LO to be there too but we'll probably leave DD with a family member.
kiwi / 729 posts
DH stayed with me, his parents took care of LO#1 for 2.5 days. And the in-laws brought LO#1 to the hospital to meet his new little brother.
clementine / 896 posts
My SO and DS1 stayed with me and DS2. It went really well.
apricot / 305 posts
I'm not pregnant with #2 yet, but I'm going to have DH stay the whole time with me again. The first time he planned on going home at some point, but he ended up staying because I needed help with the baby. I was really sore and could barely get out of bed the first day and our hospital doesn't have a nursery so the baby is in the room with you the whole time. He was in charge of changing diapers, picking up the baby, etc. He also helped me get out of bed and handed me things when I needed them (the first day was worse than I expected, but I felt a ton better by the second day).
grapefruit / 4554 posts
My husband jokingly said he wants to go home to take care of LO.... And get a full 8 hours of sleep!
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
I sent him home!
Was nice being alone with DS.
cherry / 150 posts
We had my parents take care of DD when DS was born so DH could stay the night. It was nice as it gave me a break with baby to have him there and I could sleep a bit.
papaya / 10560 posts
i'm sending him home just like with ds! there's not much he could to do help me in the hospital that the nurses can't do, plus they have a pulldown twin and i don't want him near me after just giving birth!
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