I am going a bit crazy and definitely starting a bad sleep habit. My daughter loves co-sleeping with me and I know, I know its not ideal. Unfortunately, we don't have another room to put her in until April when we move into a bigger place. Our second room is being used by our 4 year old son so she's in our room in the bassinet next to our bed. I think she's still too little to be in the room with him just yet. She starts to stir every night around 1:30am - 2:30 am and most time needs a feeding. We have a loud sound machine going which helps a little. Any tips on how to break this? I try to pat her back to sleep and not pick her up and sometimes it works but not usually. I work full time so it's so hard to not cave when I have to get up so early the next morning. HELP.
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following- my 2mo is in our room and co sleeping at the moment because she won’t settle between certain times. Interested to see what others may suggest!
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My daughter did this too. She is 2 months old. I think its a phase. I just let her for a few nights then tried again and now she will no problem and sleeps all night. Fingers crossed it continues. We just kept trying till she slept
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@paigeface: How are our LOs always the SAME?
My little man wakes every night from 1-2 for a feeding, then goes back down. The last two nights he's woken again around 4 but soothed himself back down until 5:30, when he's officially up for the day. I'm following Taking Cara Babies right now (on and off, using what works for us and trying not to beat myself up if I don't do it exactly) and telling myself that this is where he is right now developmentally. He needs this feeding (he scarfs it!). So I'm meeting him where he needs me, and we'll grow into his next phase when he's ready. We do try to soothe before feeding him automatically, though we can tell when he wakes how it'll go. We try to follow Cara's SITBACK method, though some of the steps do nothing for my son, so we try in this order: give him a few minutes to self soothe, we soothe with a hand on the chest in the bassinet, give him his paci, pick up and soothe in our arms/rocking chair, feed. I do think that pausing to let him try to self soothe is helping him soothe himself now during times he wakes up (I can hear him on the monitor), but it's taken a few weeks of doing this, so not a quick fix. (He's also in a different room than we are.)
ETA We work FT too and some nights lately it's been ROUGH. Our LO is rolling in both directions and pulling himself into a sitting position AND teething, so he's growing growing growing. I read that this is like when we start a new job and try to sleep at night but our brains can't stop thinking about the new tasks we're learning at work. Same for them--they can't turn it off, so it disrupts their sleep!
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I just wanted to offer a different perspective! I'm a huge co-sleeping/bed sharing fan. Some people cannot co-sleep safely (deep sleeper, small bed, etc...), and some people can't stand co-sleeping because they get worse sleep. But we've co-slept with both our kids pretty much from birth and it has worked so well for our family, so much that we don't even have a crib for our 3rd baby arriving next year! So personally, I don't think co-sleeping is horrible or frown upon
With that said, 4 month sleep regression is for real! If you don't want to co-sleep, hang in there and hopefully the phase will pass!
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Mine did this from 4-6 months. At 6 months, I felt she was a big enough baby to go through a bit of sleep training. I moved her to her crib at that time and sleep training solved that problem in a day or so. Good luck. Its so tough. I went 2 months holding my girl in bed and feeling like a zombie.
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Oh, my ten month old is still doing this
I've decided that as long as she stays in her crib the first half of the night, I can live with co-sleeping the second half. I don't love co-sleeping but I do love the cuddles. She'll be a big kid in a big kid bed before I know it, and then I'll miss waking up and seeing her next to me!
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@foodiebee: Oh my our LO are ALWAYS going through the same things haha! I am going to try the method you suggested from Taking Cara of Babies thank you!!!
So true on the different things that are keeping them from a full peaceful sleep. How true on the comparison of not being able to turn their brains off! Our LO is going through the exact same things too! Teething and rolling like crazy over here!
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@graceandjoy: I like your standpoint! I know she's there and I don't move much sleeping (light sleeper, huge cali king bed etc.) The nights I do Co-sleep with her are pretty much the only nights I get full nights rest! Last night she woke up around 2:30 am and sleep peacefully next to me until 7:00 am! She just loves being next to me. The only part I hate is that I end up sweating while she is just fine! Little heater lol!
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@Mama Bird: Oh how TRUE your statement is. I think I am going to just appreciate it too. She's my last baby. We aren't having anymore.
They don't stay little long enough. It goes by way too fast, I have a 4 year old who proves that.
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@agold: I really like this idea! Thank you!!
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I was going to say you might want to consider sleep training if you’re ready. We did it at 4.5 months with baby sleeping in our (large) bedroom and it was life changing.
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@JJ2626: Which sleep training method did you choose?
My little man wakes every night from 1-2 for a feeding, then goes back down. The last two nights he's woken again around 4 but soothed himself back down until 5:30, when he's officially up for the day. I'm following Taking Cara Babies right now (on and off, using what works for us and trying not to beat myself up if I don't do it exactly) and telling myself that this is where he is right now developmentally. He needs this feeding (he scarfs it!). So I'm meeting him where he needs me, and we'll grow into his next phase when he's ready. We do try to soothe before feeding him automatically, though we can tell when he wakes how it'll go. 
I've decided that as long as she stays in her crib the first half of the night, I can live with co-sleeping the second half. I don't love co-sleeping but I do love the cuddles. She'll be a big kid in a big kid bed before I know it, and then I'll miss waking up and seeing her next to me!
They don't stay little long enough. It goes by way too fast, I have a 4 year old who proves that.
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