"What I’d like to say to the parents of healthy children: A child is a person, not a project. Ease up. Chaos will find all of us eventually, but in the moment, how can you be fully present? How can you love your child purely and simply, with no agenda, without a goal, without a net?"

http://www.today.com/moms/grieving-moms-advice-rest-us-love-purely-take-it-easy-1C8709317

Don't know if any of you have read any of Emily's writing about losing her son to Tay-Sachs. I've been following her blog/story since she started it when her son, Ronan was diagnosed. He died on February 15. Emily has taught me so much about parenting and being in the moment with my LO.

(full disclosure, Emily was a professor in my grad school program).