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I have a good example of why charting is useful:

I started getting fertile-quality CM on day 12 of my cycle, it continued until about day 15 or so. I was charting my temp, and I knew I still hadn't ovulated. The CM stayed "creamy" and didn't go away as usual. I kept charting (and having sex!) for another full week before my temp spiked. I got pregnant that cycle. We would have stopped "trying" on day 15 if I hadn't charted my temp. I know I ovulated later than day 14, because the fetus is measuring right on target with when my temp spiked.

it was also an early clue that I was pregnant, because my temp stayed really high...

I like to go pee right after having sex usually (to "clean up"). When we were trying, I stopped doing that, and just went to sleep (if it was at night), or waited about 15-20 minutes before getting up. I had read that it is helpful to do this when TTC. Not sure if its true or not, but it worked for us!

Good luck!

I know that my first three clomid cycles, I had the very scheduled sex, I laid there for 30 minutes afterwards, all that. No luck. By the fourth cycle, I was over that. We had sex on the days we needed to, in general, but when we wanted to. And I stopped just laying there, and just went on with my day. Bam, BFP that month. So, I really don't think it matters so much.

Charting definitely only tells you in retrospect if you ovulated, but that information can be very helpful for a bunch of reasons. Planning for next month is one if your cycles are regular. For me, uur first 3 cycles we were using OPKs to determine O date and trusted the box when it said I'd O 12-36 hrs after a positive, and weren't super careful about BDing consistently before the + OPK, but always would the day of and the day after the positive. My cycles were pretty long (35 days) so BDing every other day for 2 weeks straight to cover the 'possible' O days wasn't reasonable for us. Once I started charting, I realized I was actually Oing the day OF the positive OPK, so we were missing the 5 days before, which are the most important. I would never have known that had I not been charting.

I always found my CM to be very confusing, but because I had been charting my temps for a few months, I knew I usually O'ed around day 20. So the month I got my BFP, I knew to BD a lot more that week. Then, like others mentioned, I knew when i O'ed so that I would know when to test. I thought of it like, temping and CM work together to build the most accurate portrait of my cycle.

Also, you may O at different times (stress, travels, meds can all delay it) but your luteal phase is always roughly the same length of time. Temping can tell you when you O'ed so you can see if you have any luteal phase issues ( short LPs mean you could have trouble conceiving because your body doesn't have enough time to get that fertilized egg implanted).

I charted before we ttc'd, just to get an idea of my cycles, when I ovulated etc. It was helpful but I don't think it was necessary. I didn't chart once we started ttc, I feel like it took the fun out of it.

If you don't want to chart etc., just be sure you have sex at least every other day. What might be more helpful is using OPK's instead. You can have sex every other day, then when you get a positive OPK, you should have sex for three days in a row... that should cover your bases (assuming you are actually ovulating when you get a positive OPK - which isn't always the case if someone has PCOS).

I get frequent UTI's, so I was always worried about peeing everything out. But think of it this way - it's not like peeing after sex is a good form of birth control. I would wait in bed 10-15 minutes if I could, then get up. We got pregnant really quickly, so I wouldn't worry about that. Good luck!