... do you let it go or try to rekindle?
I feel awful but right now I think its best to let it go - maybe we will reconnect down the road
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This happened with me and one of my best friends. I let it fade for a while, though we would periodically see each other. I've actually recently tried to rekindle it though because she's about to have her first baby and I'm hoping that now that we're both in a similar place in life, it'll be easier to get back into the flow of being friends again. I've missed her.
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I have been struggling with this recently. Its my BFF and we had a small falling out over the summer and since then it hasn't been the same. We aren't in the same places in our lives (I have 2 kids and am married- she lives for her job and is dating) I feel like I continuously reach out to her (she is my sons godmother) but she doesn't really make an effort and I am unsure where to go from here with her.
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@Adira: I do miss her and that's why I am struggling with my decision
@cheert16: yes, being in a different place in life does matter - her DD is a senior and mine are 4 and 6
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This has happened to me recently, I actually posted about it on here a few months ago. A good friend kinda distanced herself from me and didn't seem to care for talking to me much anymore. I chalked it up to being a different places in ours lives now and have kind of let it go.
She would still come to me for advice etc. But has showed pretty much no interest in my life since DD was born and I find that really hard.
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This happened to me! I got married before my friend but waited to have kids. She got married, and then had kids right away, so we have basically never been in the same place in life since college! No major falling out but drifted. I haven't even told her I am pregnant now :(. I miss her though! Trying to decide whether to reach out to her and whether it would be well received. Feel bad that I wasn't "there for her" as much through her pregnancy and birth of her first, but we lived far from each other and had just drifted. ETA: My intention in reaching out to her wouldn't be just b/c I want her there for me through my pregnancy. It would more just be to apologize for not being there for her and tell her I miss her and hope all is well!
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@illumina: I don't want to thread jack, but I am kind of that friend you are discussing... Would it be off putting to you if she reached out? In my situation it wasn't that I wasn't interested in her, but we were just in such different places, and I was going through a busy, stressful time. Bad excuse, I know. But my lack of interest in her wasn't out of malice, rather life just got in the way...
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Something very similar happened with me and my best friend. She was at a tough place in her life and I had been doing my best to be there for her. Unfortunately my mom got sick and I didn't feel emotionally strong enough to take on her troubles as well as my own. So when she stopped reaching out to me, I did the same. Maybe 6 months later she wanted to get together and I cancelled the plans. I've had a lot of big life changes in the past 1.5 years that she now hasn't been a part of. I do feel bad, and want only the best for her, but I don't think we can go back to being friends. Is there a nice way for a friendship to fizzle out?
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@mrscobee: no it would be great if she reached out! There's no bad blood, was no falling out etc it's just that she stopped talking to me! I tried to suggest meeting up a few times (she lives a couple hours drive) but she never responded.
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I'm sorry
Do you have any idea why she drifted away? I think if she never responded when you wanted to meet, maybe it's best to make one last try and then let it go.I've lost a lot of friends too because we were in different places in life. I really miss a couple of them and hope to catch up one day. I've got so many things I want to ask them by now. Good luck, I do hope your friend does respond if you reach out...
Do you have any idea why she drifted away? I think if she never responded when you wanted to meet, maybe it's best to make one last try and then let it go.Reply
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