So I had a miscarriage a couple of weeks ago. I'm actually 100% emotionally fine (I tend to be *very* upset about things for a short while, then completely over them), but since I live pretty far from my family they don't really know how I'm doing.

I just found out my cousin (who I was close to growing up, but am not anymore, sadly) is pregnant with her fourth (which she can't afford, but that's another issue entirely). She is about to announce on FB, but has apparently decided not to give me any advance notice. I only found out because her sister (who I have remained close to) found out she wasn't planning to tell me first, and was worried I'd be upset by having it sprung on me on FB. I am indeed quite upset that she couldn't even bother to send a text or something, since as far as she's aware I'm still distraught over the loss of our first pregnancy.

I'm not really sure what I'm looking for here. Maybe someone to play devil's advocate and help me see her point of view? Confronting her would do no good. She pretty much thinks I'm a terrible, evil person since she found out I'm an atheist (she's fundamentalist Southern Baptist, hence the fourth pregnancy, birth control is a no-no), and I don't want an argument. Anything you could think to say to help me get my temper back down would be great.

Side note, I tend to deal with anger the same as grief, VERY angry then I forget about it, so at least this should blow over soon.