Recently I brought up my birth plan with my mom. I wanted her to know that while I wanted her around for support before and after, I didn't think it was a good idea for her to be in the delivery room during the whole thing. This is more due to the way out relationship is during times of stress than anything else. I also have a doula. Long story short, she did not take it well.

I'm interested in passing along any articles or books anyone may have come across that are geared towards grandparents or other family members regarding their role in the birth process.

I know my mother has given birth twice, but that was nearly 30 years ago. Things are little different now and I'd love to be able to pass along some neutral advice to help her be mentally prepared. I'm having and induction, and I'm worried that I could actually do or say something during the process to offend her and start a fight.

Ugh, this is not what I want to worry about at this point, but it's the reality. Any suggestions?