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I didn't start until 38. Now at 40, I have 2 beautiful healthy children. I'm a huge believer in living your life and enjoying the now. You could go do this and still have children before you hit advanced maternal age at 35. Have fun!

It sounds like an amazing opportunity. You are still young so I think it will be fine to wait one more year.

I would probably wait the year. You have time to have 2 kids. Realistically if you have fertility issues a year either way probably won't make much difference. Sorry if that seems harsh. As background I had baby #1 at 39, now trying for #2 at 40.

It really depends on what is most important to you right now. I had the option to take a new job that I really wanted but would have required a lot of travel, some of it to places that aren't pregnancy friendly (required armed escorts, high malaria risk, etc). In my 20's, I'd have taken the job in a heartbeat. But in my 30's, I didn't take it because I was really ready to start a family, and so was DH, who is several years older than me. Two months after turning down the job, I was pregnant. I don't regret my choice at all. Starting a family was my priority when I made the choice - for me and in my profession, I have a lot of time in the future for great jobs and interesting travel but a very limited time to have a lower risk pregnancy (or 2). It was the right decision for me and DH, but definitely not the right choice for everyone.

I thought AMA was now 40, at least that's what my OB told me last year.

I wouldn't wait, but I conceived at 34 on our first official cycle of trying. I was sure we would have issues but didn't and honestly, starting my family was more important than the career goals. Also, just because you get pregnant easily the first time doesn't mean the same will hold true for a subsequent pregnancy (called secondary infertility). Good luck with your decision, I know it's not easy!

I don't think there's ever really a "perfect" time to have a baby, so you just have to do what feels right for you. That being said, I am 28, was 27 when I got pregnant, and struggled for 8 months to conceive. Someone very close to me never had any indication shed have trouble and now in her early 30s, has tried for about a year and suffered two losses. Her RE just told her she has a low reserve and poor quality eggs and recommends she try IVF immediately. As much as it seems like everyone is having babies easily in their late 30s and early 40s, it can and sometimes does become much more difficult for a lot of people with each passing year.