The quick(ish) background- My husband and I live in Connecticut, where his family and friends live. My family lives in New York. We're both very close to our families. However, my family sees us and the baby more often because they make more of an effort to do so.

Anyhoo, yesterday I spoke to my mother and she said she wanted to have a nice dinner for my grandmother's 70th birthday. So I said we'd come to NY that weekend. I tell my husband about the plan at which point he tells me that he found out that his brother is getting an award that day so he can't attend. My initial reaction (I know, I'm a jerk) was who the F cares? His brother is 35 and has a wife, 3 kids and parents. What's the problem? Secondly, my husband had no idea what the award was for because it was his mother who mentioned it. So it appears to me that his brother doesn't find it all that important (we later found out that it's from a local black coalition for being an outstanding athlete.. whoopie-freakin'-do).

My thinking was just that my grandmother has very little family. Just us really. And she doesn't have much money so a fancy dinner is exciting for her. I don't really love the idea of taking the baby alone. And him not seeing her for 3 days. But should I? Also, I'm most annoyed because it never seemed like a dilemme to my husband. Never once did he feel torn. I get it. Your own family is most important to you. But at least feel bad about snubbing a 70 year old. No?

What would you suggest? Also, there's a lil damage control that needs to be done. I was not really the nicest communicator last night. My b.