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I think the thing to go by is that every pregnancy and every baby are different! Hoping the next time is a lot better!

i had a lot of reservations about having a second when #1 was a newborn. i don't think we had as many issues as you did, but i had such a hard time adjusting that i never wanted to do it again. even at 9 months, i was like, yeah i GUESS i can do it again because i do ultimately want 2-3 kids, but i wasn't convinced yet. i think after she turned 1, i felt like i could definitely do it again and around 15 months when she started to turn into this little person, i got crazy baby fever. i think you should just wait and see how you feel....they change a lot in 6 months. unless there is a pressing reason to have them close in age, don't rush it if you are not ready. i think that will just add to the anxiety. you'll know when you are ready.

Oh your photos are beautiful! I love UP and even did a hot air balloon theme birthday this year for my kids because of it.

I didnt want to read and not post but I totally understand where you are coming from with your worries and fears. I struggled a lot when my son was born in 2010 and though we didnt have nearly as many issues as you did (namely colic and PPD) we did suffer through breastfeeding issues relating to an undiagnosed tongue tie that lead to weight loss, falling off the charts, and the worries that stem from that. On top of that my son didnt sleep through the night til 11 1/2 months which made life so much tougher as well. After our first year, as much as I adored him, I simply wasnt ready for another baby...like ever. I just couldnt handle the year I had. When TTC again crept around I was seriously not sure I could do it all again We waited and I was seriously considering waiting even longer when we did get pregnant with my daughter.

The bright side of the story is my daughter was a lot easier in many ways than my son. We still struggled with weight issues but she did breastfeed better and eat better as a baby now and she slept through the night around 7 1/2 months which felt like a lifetime difference from her brother so whenever you decided to try again know that it will be ok and you will make it. Good luck for whenever you know you are ready

Yes, oh yes! My daughter is 2.5 now, and if we're going to have another child, we're going to need to do it soon. I had severe PPD after she was born, and it still weighs on me. Those first months were terrifying. They were the biggest challenge I have ever pushed through, and I am beyond scared to do it all again. I absolutely love my daughter now, and I would be thrilled for her to have a sibling. I just with we could skip over the early parts of the baby phase. DH feels similarly, despite not dealing with the depression issues that I did. Those first few months are just so challenging. I think we will eventually get on the baby-making bandwagon again -- probably later this year. However, in our future there are going to be a lot of discussions about having a plan in place to handle the early months.

Oh, and I forgot to mention that my daughter has always been very easy, so I can't even imagine having a colicky or otherwise challenging second child.

So anyways, I don't really have any advice for you, but wanted to let you know that I understand your worries.