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@Tionn3: I totally understand that, especially if it's not covered by insurance.
For what it's worth, I was really scared to start Clomid but it wasn't bad at all. A few side effects but they are all ones that you will experience once you're pregnant anyways. It also didn't affect my lining or my CM. -
@mrskansas: I'm glad clomid is working for you =]. I'm sure it won't be so bad, and the fact that they are going to monitor me makes me feel better about it. It's probably more important for me to get my stress under control before any treatment though. So I'm trying to use these 6 months to get my shit under control...so that if I do need treatment maybe it will have a higher chance of working because I'll be less stressed or whatever.
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@Tionn3: I get where you're coming from. You don't want to start pumping hormones into your body if you're already on edge & stressed out.
I worked with a girl who tried for a year with no explanation as to why it wasn't happening & got pregnant on the 13th cycle. Hopefully it happens really soon for you!
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@2littlepumpkins: haha! good way to reframe
@Tionn3: I also ovulated late with my first two babies (CD 18/19) so it's definitely possible!!
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Cycle Day: 1
TTC Cycle: 4th cycle really going all out trying but trying off and on since 2014
Ovulation Date: April 12
POAS Date: April 26
Baby #: 1
What's up this month: Nothing special, temping, vitamins and taking pregnitude this month.
For Fun: Two things I associate with April are flowers and baseball, so let's do a two-fer! Favorite baseball team and/or flower. Don't really watch baseball in my house, but if we have to watch something it's generally the Cleveland Indians (I grew up near Cle and we live near Cle now) or the Pittsburgh Pirates (hubby is from Pittsburgh)! -
@Marfi: welcome! sorry about AF's arrival
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Just saw a pregnancy announcement on Facebook. It was a picture of a FRER that had obviously just been peed on.
Some women are really brave but also gross.
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4/1 - bushelandapeck
4/3 - jhd
4/4 - mrskansas
4/5 - tionn3
4/7 - periwinklebee
4/8 - madisonbee
4/15 - dominobee
4/22 - chypmunk
4/26 - marfi
TBD - lilyofthewest, mrs.pandaplus cheerleaders coral, knittylady, mrsbubbletea, raspberry & 2littlepumpkins
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@mrskansas: Holy moly!
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@mrskansas: one of DH's cousins announced her pregnancy at her wedding this past year. She was maaaaaaybe 6 weeks along. I'm always shocked when I see people announce really early, but that's partially because I've had a loss.
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@bushelandapeck: Same. After 3 losses I probably won't announce until 20+ weeks!
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@bushelandapeck @mrskansas: I don't even know if I'd tell my parents that early, let alone the world.
If I could, I would keep it to myself, DH and you guys, but I KNOW my friends will figure it out because they've otherwise pretty much never seen me turn down an alcoholic drink. And now that the weather is getting nicer there will be a lot more socializing and thus more opportunities for drinking.
That's how I figured out my friend was pregnant, but I didn't say anything even though I noticed she was only drinking water at social functions. Her husband told me and DH later (at a bar, ironically) and we were soooo so excited for them. She had a very late loss with her previous pregnancy (23 weeks I believe) so they were extremely reluctant to make a big announcement.
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@mrskansas: @dominobee: even with my first we waited until we heard the HB to tell our families. We never told anyone about the pregnancy I lost at 10w and I'm not sure my mom knows about it even now. With my daughter, we waited to tell our families until the NT scan at 12 weeks when we got the ok that things looked good. I imagine we would wait at least that long this time too.
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@dominobee: Can you fake drink? Like order a water w/ lime in a short glass and pass it off as vodka? I did that numerous times with my daughter.
The next time I get pregnant I'm not telling anyone except for my husband. I've told my mom about all the ones in the past and she has gotten excited over nothing.
I'm going to wait until 12 weeks with my mom and probably 16/20 weeks at work and the rest of the world. My biggest issue will be hiding my boobs because they get huge early and it will probably be a give away. -
@mrskansas: My sister in law did something like that. She would order alcoholic drinks just to have the appearance that she was drinking and then her husband would drink them. Pretty smart in my opinion. I'll probably do something like that if we get pregnant...I honestly don't think I would want to tell anyone until like 16 weeks or something...just my husband and my mom.
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@mrskansas: In theory I could, but I'm on a baseball team and we play games almost every weekend which means coolers full of beer. Most people won't notice, but my close friends will because they know we've been trying. Also last season I played catcher and if I get pregnant I definitely CANNOT do that because it's too much of a risk to get a fastball to the gut.
Soooo long story short, my friends will probably figure it out pretty quickly. That's assuming I ever do get pregnant, which is still a crapshoot.
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@Tionn3: Yeah I like keeping it private. It also keeps all the unwanted comments away for a bit longer.
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@mrskansas: I saw something like that awhile back. It was essentially a picture on fb that said baby #3 coming in [a due date that was 9 months away] with her kids holding up a FRER that was a super, super squinter.
I think I will probably keep future pregnancies pretty private until after genetic testing results are back (I'm old so I'll presumably need those done). The downside is that I feel like I'm deceiving my family when I say things are going fine and nothing interesting has happened lately. But I know it's for the best...
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@periwinklebee: I'm not officially part of this board yet (still waiting to see if AF comes), but I know I will definitely keep any future pregnancies private for a while. Me and DH don't have facebook, so no social media announcements for us.
Last time we told our parents/siblings a few days after getting a BFP, but didn't tell anyone else until about 10-12 weeks, when we thought we were safe.
Next time I don't plan to tell our families until after the NIPT results and I doubt we'd tell anyone else until after the anatomy scan since we lost our baby when I was just under 20 weeks, so I would want to at least be past that before telling anyone else. I'm not sure if I will be showing sooner though since I think you usually start to show quicker with 2nd pregnancies. I was showing a little last time, but hadn't fully popped yet.
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@mrskansas: thanks! I'm just gonna take April (and May and June) in stride. Hubby and I talked on Saturday night and we decided that if it doesn't happen naturally by my birthday (June 26) then we are going to go see a RE.
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@Tionn3: The cycle I conceived my daughter I ovulated on CD23!
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@mrskansas: I have a friend who has three kids, sadly lost twins at about 6 weeks, then conceived another baby. She announced on Facebook while literally in the bathroom with fresh sticks. She may have told her husband first, though I'm not sure.
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Like everyone who posted above, I would personally wait until well into the pregnancy to make any announcements. But honestly, I really envy the optimism and excitement of women like @mrskansas:'s Facebook friend! I don't think I'll be able to experience that again.
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@PeaceLily:
I really hope March works out so that you don't have to join us here. 
I would love to be able to hide a pregnancy until the anatomy scan or later - especially at things like work events with people I don't see that often, if nothing else than to avoid people making endless awkward remarks about being pregnant. I don't know about the feasibility of it, though. By 10 weeks last time I already had a little bump that I couldn't suck in, though it was easy to hid under sweaters. I should get my abs in better shape, but I somehow never get around to it. It probably also depends a lot on the timing of the pregnancy, as it's much easy to hide under sweaters and scarfs in winter than in summer. I really hope I don't have to wait until winter to be pregnant again, but who knows...
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I will be different here and say we will likely tell our families pretty soon if we ever do get a bfp. I'd like to say we could wait until the first ultrasound, but I don't know if I could! Last time I wanted to tell my mom at 6 weeks because I was already super super sick and just wanted her support. So we told all of our family: parents, siblings, etc that same day. I see my mom several times per week now that we live close (we didn't back then) and I really doubt I could hide it from her anyway. Last time we announced on Facebook at 15 weeks. I'm not sure I would do that again. I was teaching high school full time back then and my students definitely had figured it out long before I told them so I don't know how people are able to keep things under wraps for 20 weeks or more!!
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You all, I want so, so, so much to be pregnant, but at the same time the thought of it - even if the odds of this cycle working out are low - is making me want to really savor the TWW. Like, I want it so much, but the sickness and exhaustion that comes with it are still top of mind...
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Almost gone
7 days past trigger
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@periwinklebee: I am a little worried about the nausea and exhaustion too. I have a pretty demanding job and it's hard for me to phone it in when I don't feel good.
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@periwinklebee: I'm most scared of the terror that comes with being pregnant at this point
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@knittylady: this exactly.
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@knittylady:
that too... That part felt really overwhelming to me for about a month after our loss, I think it does slowly get better with time... As of now I have no desire to POAS before AF is due, as I find the anticipation of the TWW much easier to deal with than the worry of early pregnancy...
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@periwinklebee: @knittylady: I am so scared of possible sickness and exhaustion. With my first I had almost no morning sickness, which I know I really abnormal. I can't imagine feeling so ill with my job, possibly having to leave patient's rooms to be sick. I don't know what's worse, knowing what it's like to be nauseous or the anticipation of it because I have no idea what to expect or what would work for me to help. Can't wait to find out!
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Well...this is my first post here but it seems like as good a time as any to join the hive.
Cycle Day: 18
TTC Cycle: 27? It's been a little over 2 years, whether we were actively trying for each and every cycle or not.
Ovulation Date: IVF cycle, so ER date was 3/23. Transfer tomorrow!
POAS Date: 4/8 is the scheduled blood test : )
Baby #: 1
What's up this month: First IVF cycle...started with 18 embies and will find out tomorrow how many survived to day 5! Trying to remain optimistic while being mindful that it could take a few transfer. Hoping to get a few embies to put on ice!
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@Marfi: boo! I was super hopeful for you. Sorry you're here, but glad to have you.
@skiierchck99: Welcome! Good luck for your transfer tomorrow. I hope lots of embryos made it to day 5.
Ovulation for me was Sat 3/25. I believe in testing early and often, so, I'll be testing starting April Fool's Day!
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@skiierchck99: welcome. Good luck tomorrow!
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@skiierchck99: welcome!
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I feel like I've spent the better part of the past two months processing loss; I started out a mess and now am in a much better place with accepting the experience. I've been really lucky that it's only happened once so far and I've had time to come to terms with it.
Being in the TWW again makes me realize that I am still *not* in a great place with TTC, in terms of accepting that it may take us awhile. I told my husband last night that AF is due on his birthday and I hope I can give him a pregnancy. His response was "you know, it may take awhile." I smiled and said "yes I know", but underneath my mind was screaming "no, no, no, I'm sick of this, I don't want it to take awhile, NOOOO." I can feel that this underlying frustration brings a lot of tension. I hate getting my hopes up and then being crushed when AF arrives. But if I have more realistic expectations, I get so frustrated thinking about how much longer TTC might last. I know I just have to accept that, but it's hard... I have huge admiration for those of you who have been at this for a long time...
In more positive thoughts, my temp shift this month looks great. My temps jumped way up and so far have stayed far away from the cover line, which I have heard is a sign of strong ovulation. I'll take it, even though I know it will do little good if the egg had a problem or fertilization didn't happen correctly.
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@skiierchck99: Welcome, keeping my fingers crossed for you!
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Welcome skiierchck99! I love how big the POAS list is getting!
4/1 - bushelandapeck, lilyofthewest
4/3 - jhd
4/4 - mrskansas
4/5 - tionn3
4/7 - periwinklebee
4/8 - madisonbee, skiierchck99
4/15 - dominobee
4/22 - chypmunk
4/26 - marfi
TBD - mrs.pandaplus cheerleaders coral, knittylady, mrsbubbletea, raspberry & 2littlepumpkins
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@dominobee: Hoping for lots of December mamas!
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