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I hope so! Though I agree, it's really hard to be a good friend when the people you care most about are spread all over the country. I miss my friends an awful lot!

Very similar. If a friend needs me in any way, I am there 100%. I don't reach out to them though. When I try, I feel like I'm bothersome and avoid doing it. Plus I'm pretty shy and introverted.

I try hard to be a good friend.. Usually I'm the one making the effort and getting bitter about it so I'm learning to let go and just let people know I'm here when they need me...

I think I am, but only with low-maintenance friendships. I will be a listening ear/support when I'm needed, and I'll make an effort to make plans when I can/when we're in the same place, but my best friendships are ones where we can go a long time without keeping in touch but get together and pick right up where we left off. Like, my bff is someone I've known since middle school, but we went to different high schools and then lived in different states for 8 years: we kept in touch when we could, but not daily, weekly, or even monthly. Even now, we live in the same city (though 45 min train ride away) and sometimes go like a month without hanging out. Some of it is being busy, some is it is being long-distance from some of my closest friends, and some of it is being guarded because of the friendship break-up I wrote about in the other thread, but in any case, this is what works for me now!