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My mom is pretty up front with me about any issues, although she would probably find out as much info as she could before worrying me.

My dad was the total opposite and had some major health issues that eventually led to him passing away and was very secretive about them. He was single and I was his only child and he didn't want to worry me, so he told me things were fine to pacify me, but I really wish he would have been up front. I had no idea what was truly happening until it was too late and was left to make medical decisions for him.

Not at the beginning! My parents always just mention something so casually randomly and I'm like what?!?!

I am more now that i'm older and we've been through more.

When we were younger, our parents wanted to "protect" us from worrying about them. But once we stood up to them and told us we'd rather know more about what's going on than just get bad news all of a sudden, they opened up to us more. (but we've also dealt with both parents having cancer, one terminal, so I'm sure that's changed everyone's perspectives on things)

Yep, very much so. My dad is going through tinnitus right now. He's always been very healthy, but this is the first time that he's been plagued with something like this.

With my mom, I've always been in the loop about her medical status. One summer during college, I stayed home and took care of her post surgery instead of doing an internship or classes. She's had a few surgeries since then. It's tough for me not to be there since I've attended to her post surgery before.

No, but I think they have pretty run of the mill getting older issues though. They are adults and they're capable of handling their medical issues on their own. But if there were signs of dementia or life threatening issues, I'd want to be kept in the loop.

My parents, yes, but they are generally healthy. I don't know specific details, but they fill me in on important stuff.

DH, not at all. His parents are older than mine and he is the youngest of his siblings by a lot. I think his parents and his siblings still think of him as the baby and tend to shield him from stuff. Like Finfan, there have been multiple occasions where he has found out about something randomly in passing after the fact - eye and foot surgeries, knee replacements, cancer biopsies, etc.

Mine hide it from me until they need to use it to manipulate me. And then somehow it's my fault I didn't know because I don't call every few days...?