I wasn't sure where to post this, but hopefully some of the helpful & diplomatic ladies here can help.

Warning, it's rambly!

I was contacted by a fairly random old schoolmate from over 15 years ago via FB, who lives in a different city. We are both in a different country to where school was - hence maybe the need to rekindle?

Anyway, she contacted to say she was doing a road trip and was stopping by my city & was X date a good time to stay? I was a bit taken aback by the randomness & took a week to reply...and here's my mistake, and after checking with DH (who has never met or heard of her), I replied saying yes happy to have you for a night, would be great to catch up.

Fast forward few days & we discover our miscarriage, was pretty torn up and feeling like only having very close people staying in our house. The more I though about it, I started to feel like I actually don't really want random houseguest staying anymore...especially as she messaged to say she will be arriving by plane (thought it was a roadtrip?) at midnight on the night she was due to stay, and could I have her longer? This message incidentally arrived at 3am & I never replied. She then messages later saying her other friend here won't be here that week, so she might look at changing flights, but would I be ok to have her a different night?

Also, some of her messages had included a big shopping list of all the things she wanted to do here - unsure why she's telling me this. I am worried that she thinks we are closer friends than we actually are...I would say we we aren't even really friends!

Today while shopping I see that she has called me but I missed it - but wouldn't have answered it anyway as I didn't know what to tell her!

So my question is, how do I now go back on my word and say I can't have her stay?! This is such an uncool move on my part, but I feel like her not bring a friend, now being a shitty time...it just isn't a situation to which I want to be adding extra stress.

If this was not such a weird period in my life, would have sucked it up & just had her to stay...but now I just feel like I don't want to.

Please let me know if there are any civil ways of extracting myself from this equation...I would like to avoid telling her about the MC if possible.

Thanks in advance for any advice!