If you didn't get pregnant on your first cycle, how long before you began feeling frustrated and discouraged with the TTC process?
Ya know, asking for a friend, of course... =/
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I *thought* I was frustrated after 2-3 cycles. (Which was when we went to a urologist and started our infertility testing.) Boy, was I wrong! Apparently there are different levels of frustration and I got to a new level after around 6+ cycles, and again after 12+ and 15+ cycles.
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Cycle 5.
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I cycled through--I was frustrated around 4 months, resigned by 6, worried by 9, resigned again by a year.
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From day 1. But I am sort of a negative person. That and the fact that before we even started TTC I had long, irregular cycles that no one could find a reason for.
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I was always somewhat optimistic that the next cycle would be the one. When one cycle ended in an ectopic pregnancy I got pretty discouraged. It didn't help that I had to wait before trying again...
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From day 1... When I attempt something, I do it full heartedly... Makes for endless anxiety.
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After the 4th cycle
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4th. But that was compounded with the fact that two of the cycles were 90+ days long. And still frustrated starting this 5th.
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I think around the 6th month mark. I figured I wouldn't be one of those people that got my BFP on month one, nothing is ever that easy for me!!! I started using OPKs at cycle 3 just to make sure that we were doing it right. By cycle 6 I was getting frustrated. I thought it should have happened by then. Now we are on month 20 and I have reached all new levels of frustration!!!
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I agree with Spaniellove. I was discouraged after 3, then REALLY discouraged after 6, then progressively more discouraged each month after that. Month 12 was when I had a mini-give up and that when we got the BFP. It's all horribly discouraging. I want a surprise next time.
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Of course, I was discouraged after the m/c, but about 3 cycles post m/c is when I starting getting really upset. We had been TTC for about 9 months at that point and it felt like it would never happen again. I have long cycles and it started to feel hopeless. We finally got another BFP at the 13 month mark.
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I was disappointed after the 3rd cycle, frustrated after the 6th, angry and upset after the 9th. At 15 months, I go through phases where I'm bitter and angry and the times where I'm accepting of IF. Today, I'm feeling better. Need to keep reminding myself that this time next year, I'll be pregnant or starting the adoption process.
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Concerned after cycle 1, nervous after cycle 2, scared and frustrated enough to tell doctor after cycle 7, resigned cycle 9, feeling that I may never get pregnant after cycle 10, giving up completely cycle 11 (failed IUI, fertility testing finding absolutely nothing wrong). I was feeling so defeated that I decided not to do a second IUI b/c we had the chance to go to Paris during O time. Got pregnant in Paris and have a healthy 9 month old!! I'm also really hoping the second one can be a surprise.
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I was def. frustrated after my first mc. But then really got frustrated after about 4 months of trying after that. Now (a year and a half plus another mc later) I'm just like fml.
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I became frustrated after my second cycle (which was 3 months to clarify), when it became clear that I had issues. I got to feeling angry and hopeless midway through my third cycle, which is STILL going (we're now nearing 7 months)..
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The first time I got pee on my hand from POAS.
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@Mrs. Polish: This made me LOL
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I got pregnant on cycle #2 and had a mc. I became frustrated right away. I wanted to be pregnant again immediately. Thankfully, We conceived again 3 cycles later, but it was frustrating. You all know, it just feels like you're life is one big waiting game. Waiting to O, waiting for AF, waiting for DH to get home so you can DTD
Next time we TTC I will try to be a little more relaxed about it if possible.
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I was surprisingly patient the 1st year, then we saw a specialist. After about 6 more months the frustration began. The frustration just increased from there finally ending after one mc & 4.5 years. Honestly don't wish it on anyone.
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After being with my DH for 10 years, when we decided last month that we would start TTC, I basically wanted a baby delivered to my doorstep the next day. Now, with one cycle having gone by, I'm about as mad as can be!
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I think cycle 5 was one of the hardest ones for me to accept. I remember taking a long bath, cancelling plans to go to a party, and wallowing in the frustration and disappointment for a good bit.
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@LindsayInNY: it's so gross
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We got pregnant the first month we were TTC, then I had a miscarriage. I wouldn't say I was 'frustrated' as much as I had given up a bit of hope that I'd be able to stay pregnant. After 3 more months of trying (and starting to get a little frustrated), we finally got the BFP & sticky baby we were trying so hard for.
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I think I'm getting frustrated sooner because we got pregnant on the first month we were trying then miscarried. It makes these last couple of cycles super annoying because I wonder what happened so right that first time? If that hadn't happened I may be ok with starting a 3rd cycle of trying because realistically it can take a healthy fertile couple (which we are not) 6 months to a year to conceive.
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