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I think that yes, the note writer had the right to be super annoyed--I'm sure the parents were not happy either! That being said, that is life, when you stay somewhere where you are sharing walls with other people, whether that's a hotel, a condo, etc. I live in an apartment building and I have done CIO with my LO--I'm sure my neighbors heard him but that's what you get when you live in close proximity to others.

That being said, I'm sure these parents were not intentionally letting their kid cry, no more than I have while on vacation. I'm very conscious that people on vacation are there to relax, and so I personally always try really hard to keep LO from crying out as much as possible.

And I have taken him on ski vacations before! No way I was leaving my 4 month old behind, but I didn't want to miss out on skiing either!

I would have been super pissed... but never have written that note. I would have called the hotel desk, to be honest.

I have to say, I probably would have found a way to leave the kid at home though. For my own enjoyment.

I would have been upset, but I don't do passive aggressive notes. I would certainly have not listened to it a second night. And I may have brought those parents some tylenol, lol.

This whole situation is nasty. The note was rude and passive aggressive, but the response is basically, "i feel sorry for you and your kids. You're a piece of shit parent for lacking any consideration, meanwhile my BIL is an awesome brain surgeon. What do YOU do?"

Everyone was being an asshole, IMO.

It's a hard line... I think the note writer has the right to be annoyed, but did not express it in a way that was very nice (or proactive... leaving a note at the end of your trip? why didn't you deal with it on night 1?). I've been called by the hotel front desk when I was in college on spring break to be informed that our room was being too loud - I think this is much easier to stomach. To be honest, I bet the parents were bracing themselves waiting for the hotel to call and when they didn't, thought that maybe the walls were well insulated.

I do think that upon reading the explanation, I understand why the child was there - if my husband was going to a conference to a nice locale, I would definitely try to go. It's just an all around crappy situation.

I'd probably complain to the hotel. I'd just request to be moved to another room for the next night.

DH and I just got back from a weekend vacation to Niagara Falls. The second night we were drawing a bath in our room at around 10pm when the people in the room next to us started screaming and singing at the top of their lungs. We called the lobby and shortly after the noise was gone.

Obviously, the same can't be done with a baby, but I still think being upset about noise is reasonable (even if you are not sleeping. Makes the stay in your nice room much less nice if you're having to hear the obnoxious people next door). I would have been more understanding if it was a baby, but would I have been less annoyed? No... still would have bothered us and would have put a damper on our romantic trip.

I do think there are some places babies/young kids do not belong in, like fancy $100 a plate restaurants, but if the establishment doesn't have any rules about kids, it's not the parents' fault kids are there.

@Mae: I agree that no-kid hotels are good, as long as there are plenty of kid friendly options nearby too! We're going on my husband's annual company trip next week, and I really like that his company has started booking two hotels, one for families with kids and one without. This time and the last, they booked a disney resort for the families, so it definitely wasn't like they got anything less expensive, and it let those of us without kids not have to worry about them running around and being loud or whatever. And the families probably appreciate it because his company is full of heavy drinkers, mostly the non-parents, so it keeps them away from all the drunks!

Everyone gets upset when their sleep is interrupted, but I don't think the note was necessary. If anything perhaps they could have talked to the front desk, especially if they were staying several nights so they could move rooms if possible.

@Torchwood: totally agree. I'd have been annoyed but come on. It's a baby. I've had worse neighbors (drunk girls, ppl who leave their tv blasting and go out or pass out) who can control their volume. It's why I have a white noise app on my phone. And I just got back from a weekend ski trip with friends where C did have a brief screaming fit over teething. (In a cabin so luckily we only disturbed our friends, who were as loud as her anyway).

It sucks all around, and both the letter writer and blogger came off pretty jerky. But I don't think the parents were wrong to bring their baby to a ski resort.

I don't think they had any "right" to write that note. Book a "kid-free" resort if its that important to you. Wether my kid sleeps through the night or not, I'm not going to not go on vacation to accommodate some stranger.

That being said, DH & I booked a resort vacation in Palm Springs at a very nice hotel for his birthday, expecting a nice relaxing long weekend away from DD. However, there were three weddings going on and that meant loud drunk people wandering the halls all night long. I was annoyed but, I didn't write any notes. I put on some white noise and eventually fell asleep. Thats what happens when you stay at a hotel unless it specifies "relaxing, adults only, spa retreat, etc..."

Both letters are annoying. I find the SIL's letter annoying for the same reasons that @HabesBabe: listed.

And the passive-aggressive letter writer sucks. She should have talked to the front desk and asked for a different room after the first night. And we're those parents that take our kid with us everywhere (unless it's clearly labeled as kid-free, in which case then we don't go). Yeah, my baby can't ski but I'm not having someone else watch her. She goes everywhere with me.

Just annoying all around.

I think its totally unacceptable to write a letter to a guest in the next room. Contact the front desk or manager most places have people on staff to handle issues 24 hours. The letter does nothing to solve the problem.