I currently have both books in my amazon cart but only want to purchase one. What are your opinions on each? I like the general concept of each but can't decide which way to go. Did you use either? Was it successful?
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Holy cow those are two different books! Babywise is discouraged by the AAP as a book that has contributed to several adverse outcomes including death in some babies. It is a parent centered approach as opposed to a baby centered approach.
Some people love it, but I can't in good conscience recommend it.
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@Mrs. Jacks: I guess I was looking at the similarities in the eat, awake, sleep pattern. I don't know too many of the details of each method beyond that. I have read that baby wise is controversial method but also many people have had great results. Thanks for the input!
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I think that Chronicles of a Babywise Mom puts babywise into perspective. The issue with it is that many parents who gravitate towards it are of a specific mindframe. That mindframe can make it very hard for them to not follow the schedule and that is when bad things can happen. The philosophy alone is not inherently bad.
We bought both books and ultimately didn't use either of them. I like the Baby Whisperer better because it really was a middle ground. It gave you some techniques for dealing with crying etc. It didn't follow a schedule but a routine (which is inherently more flexible).
Our issues weren't addressed in either of the books and we ultimately went with Attachment Parenting.
Some of the things I liked in Baby Wise were the wake times that were suggested. I wouldn't have known them otherwise. I like Baby Whisperer's sleep techniques. We still use the one where you hold the baby vertical until they relax. It can be the only way to get my little one down these days.
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I used the Baby Whisperer method and loved it. It worked really well for my son and so far so good for my infant daughter too. I don't follow it to a T but I definitely use a lot of the methods mentioned in the book, like "shush pat" and EASY.
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Loved the Baby Whisperer-- the middle of the road approach and the other techniques in it were more reasonable than a lot of others I read (and I read 5 different books! Weissbluth, Pantley, 12 Hours by 12 Weeks... another I can't remember now). PLUS, it actually worked, and had more practical advice for how to understand what cries mean, "ideal" schedules (yeah, an "ideal" day never happens, but you have a goal to shoot for day to day), etc.
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@Beyond2: My ped as well discouraged it and said that the AAP is even trying to put the book out of print because, in her words, it's dangerous. So I stayed away from it. But I am only saying what she said, I haven't read it myself.
I have read many articles or snippets of it here and there that made me not want to read it. Such as one portion where the author says it's spoiling your child to hold them all day - that didn't sit well with me personally.
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