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First off, I wouldn't say, at least you have your son or at least it was early. I know you would not say those things, but its amazing what some people think is comforting. I would let them know you are there. I would bring a meal, maybe something that she enjoys. And I would keep checking in for a while. It will hit her again a few months later. It was always nice for me when my friends would check in on me.

Sending prayers for your friend and her family

I appreciated friends who asked how I was feeling, and offered to be there if I needed them. I didn't have a D&C, but I'm sure I would have enjoyed a friend or two dropping a meal off (not staying though). My husband and I wanted to be alone to process everything after our loss, and our friends were really respectful of it.

I'm pregnant again now (full term), and when we announced, we had someone say something about it making up for the m/c. Inside, getting pregnant again really did help me heal, but it was such a cold thing to hear. So really, I just preferred the, "I'm sorry, I'm here for you!" kind of attitude from our friends/family.

Thinking of you and your friend!!

@MamaMagpie: xoxo ... You're a good friend & she's lucky to have you!