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@sslm: it's so frustrating when doctors dismiss your concerns! They tested my LH and FSH, as well as prolactin and thyroid to rule out those levels as causes. Then I had an ultrasound to confirm the presence of cysts.

@sslm: yes, I had 2 back to back losses and now I'm just terrified it'll happen every time and for me, it seems likely since I have suspected poor egg quality. I'm sorry you are also in this position.

@sslm: yeah it sucks!

@sslm: ugh I just saw your news about your loss. I'm so sorry. I had two miscarriages with D&Cs and then a chemical pregnancy all within 6 months. The worry just doesn't go away....but we wanted it too much that we just had to keep trying. I think knowing we had 3 different types of loss and knowing that we could begin some testing after a next loss helped me keep going. But here I sit at almost 28 weeks pregnant and I'm still waiting for the bad news. I don't know if that will ever go away.

ugh, @Mrs. Pink, that does sound like a lot of emotional turmoil I hope you get to relax (from the whirlwind) and process things and have eventually soon have some peace.

@mamabolt - I'm glad I'm not the only one concerned about the age difference between my DD and any future baby. That's the one thing people keep on telling me doesn't matter, but I feel like it does. Or, at least it matters to me right now. I guess the hard part about growing up is realizing how little control you have over making things go the way you "planned." :o/
@DesertDreams88 - thanks for the kind words. Things are getting better. Now that my hormones are getting back in sync, I don't feel so angry and the house feels more like normal

I wanted to ask all of you ladies who have had D&Cs, how long did your doctors tell you to wait before TTC and how long did you actually wait? My dr wants us to wait two cycles (I had my D&C last week, so he wants us to wait for two auntie flows). My best friend and her sister both miscarried in the past - one miscarried naturally and the other had a D&E and despite their doctors' instructions, they both got pregnant after waiting one cycle. I don't know yet when I'm going to want to start trying, but I'm trying to figure out if I should even consider trying after the first cycle. My dr. said we should wait so the uterine lining builds back up but I don't understand why it wouldn't do that after one cycle.

@poppygirl15: sorry for your loss just jumping back into say that we started trying immediately after my d&c--there is no medical research that suggests it is necessary to wait till you get AF (altho my OB said she has heard some anecdotal evidence that waiting til you get your first AF post procedure has better outcomes). Regardless, I was comfortable with our approach, and would not have wanted to wait two cycles unless there were extenuating circumstances (excessive bleeding, scarring, etc).

@DesertDreams88: I get where you're coming from. DH and I were perfectly happy NTNPing when I got pregnant (and then had a miscarriage). Since then, we've been firmly TTC for 14 months...nothing.

If we hadn't had the previous pregnancy, I think we've be much more calm in NTNPing land figuring if it was meant to be, it would happen. But now that we KNOW we can get pregnant...it's like...such a tease.

I've taken a break from the board for a while for no reason other than life is insane. We didn't get the house we put an offer in on, but we're working on another offer and love this house even more.

And if we don't get an offer accepted soon, we'll have to start looking at short term rentals because we are moving out of our house at the end of may.

And my thesis presentation is tomorrow night.

I've been thinking about you lately @jaguar ! I know it's hard, this board has definitely died down due to mostly new BFPs which is a great, great reason, but it is hard to see people move on. I know for me, checking back in here is growing more difficult, as I try to look "forward" and not "backward." Not to forget, but just focus differently. And who knows what will happen with this squinter. I hope your new consult / appointent with the new clinic goes well!

@jaguar: I've never been pregnant, so I haven't dealt with a loss, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry, and wish you peace and strength as you evaluate your next steps.

So sorry about your FET @jaguar.

I'm still with you. Had follow up OB appointment 4 weeks out from D&C yesterday. I'm in good health, OB recommended waiting 2 periods to TTC so we are waiting for that. Was hoping to get chromosomal testing results but they weren't able to get cell growth so we will never know. I assume trisomy of some sort bc we had an very high NT measurement at 10 week scan but knowing for sure would have given closure.

@jaguar: I'm not around too often on this particular thread, but I'm still TTC. It's hard sometimes because it feels like so many of the people have moved on (some are even trying for their second!), and I'm still stuck in purgatory. I'm here for you!

@jaguar: I'm so sad you're still stuck trying as well, but it is nice to have a friend to fight through it with! Right back at you with being a TTC buddy.

@jaguar: I'm still in the midst of the TWW. I don't feel any different, plus I Od later than he wanted, so not feeling too positive this cycle will work. Next time, were upping my dosage and trying again.

What's your plan now?