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You're definitely not alone. I've had breakdowns anywhere and everywhere. You can't help your emotions, and they are valid feelings!

Hugs! I agree, give yourself time to grieve. I took a few days where I just read all these stories online, knowing I was not alone. Bawled my heart out. Read poems about babies I heaven, etc. then, I felt so much better. Still felt pangs of pain, teared up randomly, but overall, I was much better and the healing had begun. I hope you are able to get past this time of difficulty soon, with lots of love and support!

You are definitely not alone! TTC is a very emotional journey, and that along with all the other stressors in life are just too much to handle sometimes. I remember about a year and a half into our journey I broke down at my cousins wedding because there were babies everywhere and everyone kept asking my DH and I when we were going to have kids. We had been married over 5 years so everyone thought that was plenty of "alone time". After sobbing hysterically to my mom, who did not know we had been struggling, I realized just how much stress this whole process was causing. I was trying to keep it all in and honestly it felt good to get emotional and have a good cry every now and then. Don't beat yourself up for having these feelings... they are completely normal and everyone feels the same way from time to time.

You aren't alone. I stopped going to this where I knew I would see pregnant ladies. Don't feel guilty you need to take care of yourself.

I've definitely been there. There have been quite a few breakdowns in the past 13 months, especially after our loss. The day before I got my recent BFP, I found out a girl at work was pregnant. Thankfully, it was after school. I locked myself in my classroom and had a good cry for a few minutes.

We started going to a new church in Jan and its FULL of young families, babies, and pregnant women. Somehow, no matter where we sat, there ended up being a pregnant lady in front of me EVERY Sunday for a month. I was like, "really God?!" But I really think he was strengthening my faith.

I totally get it. It's so rough. For me, I joined a small group of girls from my church for a weekly bible study. None of them were pregnant or trying and sometimes I couldn't get to church knowing that I would see a ton of pregnant ladies. They helped me to stay focused on having faith and their support since the BFP has been amazing. Hang in there, I'll be praying for you.

Church was very painful for me for a long time, because there were just SO many pregnant women (and as a pastor's wife, so many people wondering why I wasn't pregnant).
If you're finding that your pain/bitterness/hurt is too much, and hindering your time at church, I think that avoiding church for a little while until some of the rawness goes away would be more than fine.

That being said, when I found that I couldn't go ANYWHERE for fear of breaking down in tears, I knew that it was time for us to take a break from TTC. Honestly, the few months that we stopped charting/temping/worrying were very liberating, and allowed me to refocus my energies on other things.