Did you take your DH to your BF class? Mine doesn't think there's any reason for him to go. Why or why not did yours go? Do you think it's necessary?
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I found it SO helpful that DH was there b/c as I get frustrated with BF at least DH knows more or less what I know (well he still knows less since I am the one that googles and read HB nonstop!). The fact that he had a good idea of what's going on makes him a really good supporter for me!
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I thought it was so wierd that the class sign up said it was for myself and my husband. I was hesitant about him going and he actually said he wanted to go. I'm so glad that he did! Breast feeding was much harder than I anticipated and I loved that he could remind me of little tips and benefits that he learned in class.
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I went with a pregnant friend instead of dh and it was fine but we did do a birth class that covered the basics. So my vote is he can skip it if you're going to get the basics elsewhere, the more in depth stuff would have been lost on him but it was good for him to be familiar with positions, frequency of feedings etc.
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If it's a good class then it will explain to your husband how he can be supportive of breastfeeding.
I didn't think breastfeeding would be hard, but it IS. You need all of the help you can get. I'm glad my husband was a little educated about it before our baby was born.
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Eeh, the LCs at the hospital were the most helpful, then the BFing instruction. DH was like a deer in the headlights about that-No help at all!
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My DH wanted to go because he wanted to know about BF and how he could help. I was glad that I didn't have to force him to go. I had a very rough time trying to BF and ended up pumping but DH was helpful remembering different positions to try and little tips and tricks from the class. Having said that, the LCs at the hospital were also super helpful and supportive. For me, it was good to hear things in the class, then be reminded of them by the LCs in the hospital after delivery.
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@CatchAFallingStar: yes, but only because it was wrapped into the entire twins class. I'm glad he ended up going, because then he had sympathy as well as some knowledge when we got into the thick of it.
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I wish he had. I really struggled and he was just like "give formula!" instead of being more supportive. He didn't really understand the supply and demand nature of breastfeeding or why I was pumping so much and the frustration on both our parts was amplified by sleep deprivation.
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DH didn't attend my BF class but he was the only partner that didn't. I don't think he really missed out by not attending. I had some issues BFing in the early days but the LCs at the hospital showed him how to support me and do everything: set up/wash pump and SNS, keep mama hydrated & fed, wake sleepy baby, etc.
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he wasn't able to make it, but i wished he was there! i relayed a lot of the info to him though and he was very supportive. i needed all hands on deck for the first few weeks!
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Yes, and I'm really glad he was there. He said he learned a lot (initially he wasn't excited about going).
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He went because it was important to me. It really helped having him there to see the holds, understand the importance of a good latch, and hear how to be a supportive partner. After LO was born, he admitted the class was so helpful and he's glad he went.
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I'm so glad DH went. I needed a lot of support in the early days and he was awesome. Also him being present when the LCs at the hospital were helping me was really important too.
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I don't think he *needs* to but it will be great if he was armed with the same knowledge as you. Breastfeeding can be a very hard journey. You'll need a cheerleader.
DH was surprised at ours that all but one expecting had their significant others with them.
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The class I attended had approximately 25 couples there - I don't remember seeing any mamas flying solo. I was very happy that my husband attended with me as BF is such a huge part of parenthood when you first get going - it was helpful for him.
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No technically not but it was kind of an waste of time for both of us. That being said, everyone's husband was there so I am glad he went for "support". I do think (had it been helpful) it's important for your partner to be there To learn and offer help when you might forget things. My husband was paying attention to the nurses and LC in the hospital when we were nursing and he reminded me of certain things to try at home after that ended up being helpful.
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Yes and I'm glad he was there. He retained lots of info and tips and actually helped out a lot in the early days. It also helped for him to see what it was all about and he was and is very supportive because he understands it better.
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Yes, and I'm so glad he did. WhenIu was sleep deprived and sore and frustrated with feeding it was so helpful to have someone else there to remember the tips we learned. It also helped that he understood the process, like how often LO might need to feed.
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My husband came and I'm glad he did - he was able to learn a lot about breastfeeding and what it entails. I also feel like he retained more information since it was a class rather than me just telling him, or him reading a book/article.
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I went solo. DH was willing and had signed up but it turned out he had a conflict that night. I was not the only one who was there without a partner. I am sure it would have been nice to have him there but of all the things to miss, this was the least annoying. Plus he is in medicine so he was already on board with the reasons to BF and stick it out.
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No way would he have gone. I don't think he would have been helpful either.
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It was the one class both of us were glad he went to! We both learned a lot!
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BF took a lot of support so I was glad he went with me. He came to all my classes and even went for me once when I was sick (to a Bradley class).
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I highly recommend it. I promised my husband that if he was the only guy there he could leave, but out of 10 pregnant women only one didn't bring her husband. Even just knowing what it looked like, what the baby would be doing, how time-consuming it is, etc. etc. was helpful. In fact, when I had some BF questions when we got home he highly encouraged me to call a lactation consultant. Had he not gone to the class he wouldn't have even known what a lactation consultant was:-).
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When I asked if my husband should go, they said that they thought it was very important for partners to attend too, and we both found it useful. He had a much better understanding of the process and the challenges that could arise and it really helped normalize everything for him. He remembered a lot of the info too, and would remind me of things
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We went together and i agree with much of the other ladies' responses. Right after we delivered our LO, I was so overwhelmed with the surrealness of holding our LO that I completely forgot most of the things I learned in the class! Before the nurse stepped in to help, DH reminded me some of the things we went over in the class and that really helped! So even if he's not the one feeding the baby, they can definitely play a supportive role
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Yes, extremely helpful that he went. We both learned a lot, but even more, he was that much more committed to helping and supporting me when we had breastfeeding troubles early on.
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we went as part of an all-day three-in-one new parenting class (birth, newborn care, and breastfeeding). i think it was really really helpful for DH to be there because it helped him understand how complicated breastfeeding can be, particularly at the beginning. he even said "wow i had no idea how hard it is".
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I/We did not go to any breastfeeding classes. However if you are planning on attending, I would suggest your SO got as well. Breastfeeding is beyond only a mothers job. It takes a lot of support for breastfeeding and even deciding when to throw in the towel. I was a wreck when I had to switch to formula but thankfully DH encouraged me to do it.
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In the class I took everyone came as a couple. I would've felt kind of lonely if I'd gone by myself. But on top of that, DH was my greatest supporter during the new breastfeeding stage. I used to have him take a look at my latch and see if it looked right (which he was surprisingly good at) and sometimes he'd suggest a different position. It was nice because at that point we honestly both had the same amount of BF-ing knowledge.
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Yes he went and it was such a good thing he did! He was my biggest and best supporter in getting through the rough patches and it was entirely because of that class. He went because he knew it was important to me.
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Dh ended up having to work that day so I took my mom instead. Everyone else brought their husband. I don't think we suffered by not having him there but I know others who loved having their husbands there so when they were having a hard time of it, their husbands offered them encouragement and remembered items fromt he class.
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He probably would have liked to go just because of boobs. But we didn't take any classes.
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We went together in the hospital after DS was born and I was so glad he came! He kind of stood in the back with the other Dad's (it was super packed) but he paid more attention than I did and helped me out a ton when I was trying it during the days following our discharge from the hospital. Even with his help though, BF;ing did not work out for us - it is really hard! But I would recommend giving yourself every advantage possible for sure.
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He ended up going with me and we are both so glad he did. Thanks for all the advice!
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