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Oh man I don't have twins but I feel your pain bc I was in the exact same place you were in two years ago.

First of all you should see a lactation consultant, to try to work on a solution that fits your specific family's needs.

Second of all you should feel zero guilt for not EBF. Formula is not poison. Anyone who tells you that has no credibility. The benefits of breast feeding are not as concrete as you may think (google Hanna rosin and breast feeding).

Lastly, yes you will feel normal again. That means you have to figure out the balance bw your needs and th babies' needs. It's different for everyone. Just know that your needs to matter too. Good luck!

Congrats on the birth of your twins! And please don't be so hard on yourself - the first days, weeks, months with twins are so challenging, but as @merryc says, things definitely get better.

I did not have the patience to get to the point where I could nurse my twins together or at the breast at all - I ended up pumping breastmilk and supplementing with formula. I was just so overwhelmed it was less stressful for me at that time to just pump and give it to them in a bottle. I ended up pumping for about 7 months and they've been on formula (and solids now) since (they're 9.5 months). I pumped every 2-3 hours around the clock for the first few months to get my supply established... it was painful (sleep and tiredness wise) but I was willing to do it to give them as much as I could.

I did not let myself feel guilty about supplementing because I knew I was doing the best I could possibly do with all the other adjustments, lack of sleep, and taking care of two babies. My husband, mom, and friends were also very encouraging and supportive.

@merryc definitely points out great encouraging and positive points. You can do this! It is so tough in the beginning, but things will get better each month. It took me a while to begin to truly enjoy being a mom of twins versus merely surviving as one, but once I got to that point it's been awesome.

Any amount of breastmilk that a child gets is absolutely fabulous! I think you're amazing for working so hard to breastfeed your twins. Your best is good enough, period!

Congrats on the arrival of your twins! It's sounds like you're doing great! Don't feel guilty for supplementing because they have to eat and as PPs said, any breast milk they get is Awesome! Can't wait to hear more about your little guys once you have some time to settle in! I only have my one lady who's 9 days old and I'm just still trying to get my head wrapped around it all!

Keep it up! I can't imagine how hard it would be. I read in a book one thing to do is feed one side and pump the other OR while one is breastfeeding the other is getting formula and then just switch at the next feed. Keep up the hard work!

Awww! Remember you're doing great, no matter WHAT you do. The hormones will seriously mess with your head.
My twins are 7 1/2 weeks, and I was able to BF for the first four weeks, supplementing heavily with formula. I SOOOO wanted to go longer, and, (thanks to those awesome hormones), felt like the worst Mommy ever when I couldn't. But here's the thing: they got SOMETHING. And now? They are happy, healthy, and gaining weight with a Mommy who has time to enjoy them. BF, supplementing, and then pumping takes hours and hours with twins. It's really okay if you end up deciding that those hours are better spent engaging with your babies.
That said, if you decide you really want to BF, find a lactation consultant! When I was trying to boost my supply, I was told to pump every 2-3 hours. It can be done if that's the route you want to go!
Good luck! And let me know if you ever need to talk

@sunshineandsushi: don't worry the hormones will balance out. I promise the crying will slow down a bit. I still cry way more than I did before motherhood!! I don't know what that's all about but it happens.

Also when did you deliver your twins. Mine were born a 37 weeks and miraculously when I reach my actual due date they started sucking better, my milk came in stronger and it seemed to get a bit easier. I don't know whether it was because we were at it for three weeks and just getting better or whether it had to do with their development.

Don't worry momma. Each month of your twins will get better. Wen they start interacting more at 3 months you will look back and think, oh they are so much easier now. A six months they might be starting to crawl and play ad you will be amazed at how far you have come.

It always made me laugh when people told me they wanted twins. I think the only thing I could say with out telling them they were out of their mind crazy was just be careful what you wish for they are a lot of work. In my head I would think I haven't slept in months and there is constantly a baby hooked to my chest trying to get any bit of milk that I can make out of my body and crying when their isn't enough. Each evening my husband and I Walked the halls of our house trying to calm not just one but two screaming babies. I can't even blow my nose while their sleeping because I am terrified that they will wake up and they will start the whole process over. Is that what you wish for?

Having said that I wouldn't trade all those sleeps nights and stress over breastfeeding for anything. My kids are awesome! You will get there too, I promise! Hang in there.

@Mrs. Train: YES! I can't believe it when people tell me they want (or wanted) twins. I feel like they should come babysit for (at least) three bedtime routines in a row, then tell me what they think!

@sarahewhitford: OMG, when I was doing clomid, I thought oh, twins, please, then I can just be done. Now, after going through it with one baby, I realize how utterly crazy a thought that was. Crazy!

@sunshineandsushi: Congratulations on your twins! And goodness, I had so much trouble breastfeeding my one baby let alone two!

I just want to say you aren't alone in your feelings of failure. It was taking over an hour for my LO to nurse off of me, and then I would have to pump right after that b/c either he wasn't getting everything out or I was just producing a ton. It was exhausting, especially in the beginning when he wanted to eat every 2.5 hours. After a while, I started to give up on nursing altogether and just pumped. He would take from a bottle like a champ, and it was so much faster than nursing him. I felt like i was failing him that I couldn't get him to nurse off of me better.

Now that I look back on it, there's so much pressure on mothers to breastfeed now and I bought into it all. You have to keep telling yourself that formula is not poison. You can supplement and shouldn't have to feel guilty about it.

And your hormones will start to balance out a bit more, but it does take time! Here's hoping that gets better and your supply just keeps increasing!!