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I would ignore it.

She likely cannot remarry in the Catholic Church since she's divorced, unless your husband agrees to nullify the marriage.

Throw that ish away and don't let it get to you.

i would be irate if i were you, too, for that attack on his character. does he still have any contact with her? i almost wonder if she wrote that so that they would grant the annulment, because i don't think that you can get them with any divorce situation, that there has to be some kind of extenuating circumstances (abuse obviously being on of them). it also strikes me as odd that she says the "incidents" happened after their divorce - how that would have any bearing on an annulment.

without knowing your husband or his ex, i would want to talk to her to see why she wrote it, and if she insisted, i would probably fill out the response questionnaire - entering into a faith by lying about someone else isn't exactly the best foot to be starting on.

I would be so pissed if someone made those allegations about my husband. I would ignore it.

@PastaAndPotato: I re-read it and I think it is saying the abuse took place after they got married, so she lied about an affair in order to get a divorce.

But the point stands, that's nuts. But I do think it would be easier to come to some kind of agreement, without signing something utterly untrue, than to deny it entirely, in which case they will probably end up with even more involvement with the ex.

@Foodnerd81: ohh that makes more sense

According to Wiki
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Annulment_%28Catholic_Church%29

Grounds for nullity

A marriage may be declared invalid because at least one of the two parties was not free to consent to the marriage or did not fully commit to the marriage.

Grounds for nullity include:

Simulation of consent; that is, the conscious and positive exclusion at consent by either or both of the contracting parties of one or all of the essential properties or "goods" of marriage: a) exclusivity of the marital relationship; b) the permanence of the marital bond; c) openness to offspring as the natural fruit of marriage (canon 1101§2)

****Deliberate deceit about some personal quality that can objectively and gravely perturb conjugal life (canon 1098)***

Conditional consent; the condition must concern the past or present (canon 1102)
Force or grave fear imposed on a person to obtain their consent (canon 1103)
A serious lack of the discretion of judgment at consent concerning the essential matrimonial rights and obligations to be given (canon 1095 n.2)
Psychic incapacity at consent to undertake the essential obligations of marriage (canon 1095 n.3).

According to Canon 1095 a marriage can be declared null only when consent was given in the presence of some grave lack of discretionary judgment regarding the essential rights and obligations of marriage, or of some real incapacity to assume these essential obligations. Pope Benedict XVI in his address to the Roman Rota in 2009,[13] echoing words of his predecessor John Paul II, has criticized "the exaggerated and almost automatic multiplication of declarations of nullity of marriage in cases of the failure of marriage on the pretext of some immaturity or psychic weakness on the part of the contracting parties". Calling for "the reaffirmation of the innate human capacity for matrimony", he insisted on the point made in 1987 by John Paul II that "only incapacity and not difficulty in giving consent invalidates a marriage".[14]

If someone has been married previously and the first spouse is still alive, he or she must get a Declaration of Nullity before entering into a marriage in the Catholic Church, even if neither party in the marriage was Catholic (privilege of faith being separate cases). The Catholic Church treats as indissoluble and valid every marriage when it is the first marriage for both parties. However, the Church does not recognise as valid a marriage when one of the parties is Catholic but the marriage was not celebrated before a Catholic minister (unless a dispensation was first obtained).

its a little hard to read but it may help clarify why she chose to slander your husbands character in order to obtain her annulment.

I certainly would never sign a document that said I was abusive, for any reason. I understand that that may create trouble for this person and that sucks but... still, no. Not signing a document that implicates me in a crime or paints me in a bad light.

Other than refusing to sign, I would stay out of it though.

@Mrsbells: Agreed.

I like the idea of returning it with a letter that states why he won't sign it. This defends his honor without opening the giant can of worms that contacting her would. People that lie about abuse have a huge dose of bad karma coming their way, WTH!

I definitely think I would respond to the accusations. Something like that might actually be grounds to sue her for slander, as who knows who else she is spouting that crap off to.