Found out yesterday at 11 weeks that baby no longer has a heartbeat. I was finding it consistently on the Doppler until Saturday, which lines up with when the baby stopped growing.
I had no cramping or bleeding, nothing to indicate anything was wrong. I confirmed with my doctor yesterday through an ultrasound that there was no heartbeat.
They initially scheduled me for a D&c today, but not until 1:30 in the afternoon, and I didn’t want to fast all day ((I was told no water even!), so I asked if we could make a morning appointment. They made it for tomorrow (Wednesday) first thing.
Now I’m laying here at 5:20 am with what could be light cramping, or I guess could be in my head. I’m paranoid that I’m going to pass the baby and then they can’t run genetic testing.
Should I call first thing and see if they can move me back to today?
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I am so sorry for your loss.
I didn’t have your exact experience, but I don’t see the harm in calling to see if they can move up your appointment if it would make you less anxious about potentially passing the baby before the D & C.
I had a MMC back in 2013 and was about 11 weeks by the time I had my D&C. The night before I had extremely heavy bleeding for about an hour (no cramping or pain, thank goodness), but I don’t know if I passed everything, and still had the procedure the next day. We weren’t planning to do any testing, though, so that wasn’t a factor.
I also remember being told that the procedure could be postponed even at the last minute if a more urgent case came in....so even a scheduled appointment wasn’t a 100% guarantee (not sure if that’s the policy/protocol everywhere, though).
Anyway, as I said above, if you’re worried I don’t see that a phone call would hurt. If you get in today, it would mean one less thing to worry about until tomorrow. If not, you go tomorrow as scheduled.
Once again, I am so sorry, and I hope you are able to get some answers through testing.
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No helpful advice, but wanted to say I am so, so sorry. I’ll be thinking of you. Sending you lots of love.
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@LAZB: I don’t have any advice, but I am so sorry to read this. I am here for you if you want to talk.
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I’m really sorry to read this. Sending you hugs.
Same outcome of moving mine up - my first one I initially opted to NOT have one (I had a past traumatic gynecological procedure done and was afraid). She gave me the pills (mispropal or something?) and told me when to take them. Well then I couldn’t do that because I was scared to do it at home and started reading how painful. And to make it more urgent, we were leaving for a trip in a couple days.
I called and they were able to put me in the next morning, the day before my trip.
So I say definitely call and tell them you’re very scared it’s going to happen at home today because you’re cramping and I bet they will fit you in.As an aside, I know the idea of this is dreadful, but I had a friend who passed the tissue at home and she was able to save it and they were still able to do the testing. It sounds awful, but IF it happens and you are really set on testing, that could be an option.
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I don't know this forum's policy on swearing, but just know I am thinking the eff word - I am so sorry. I don't have any advice, except that you should do what gives you peace of mind and don't worry about being thought of as a pest, or whatever. It doesn't hurt to ask.
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@LAZB: I am so sorry you're going through this again - it's so unfair. I don't have any advice on the D&C other than I know it takes time between the baby losing heartbeat and physically passing (I had my D&C two weeks after baby stopped growing).
Hopefully the cramping is nothing and you can get answers from genetic testing. I would call and see if you can move the appointment just in case.
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@LAZB: I am terribly sorry to read this
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As for the d&c, call if you want to, they may be able to accommodate you but worst case scenario, what sweetiepie said. I would guess nothing will happen in the next 24 hours but of course you never know. Hang in there, you are an amazing mama -
@LAZB: I was so, so upset to read this. You have been through so much. I'm so terribly sorry.
I had a d&c at 12.5 weeks. It was devastating but a stepping stone in our (long) journey to baby. Though it didn't seem like it then.
I think it takes quite a while to pass a baby. I know even with the medication prescribed it can even take days. Call your doctor but I would think tomorrow morning would still be fine? -
Oh no. I'm so so sorry to read this. You have been through so much. I would probably try to move it up just because for me the waiting and worrying about when I would start passing the pregnancy was very anxiety provoking.
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I am so, so sorry
I had to wait about a week and a half after we confirmed the heartbeat had stopped for a D&C. My RE only practiced a couple of days per week and it had to line up with the hospital OR schedule. In the interim I had a cross-country trip and I remember being really stressed both that I would start miscarrying at a really opportune time and that we would no longer be able to do genetic testing if that was the case. I did spot off and on (that had been true the whole pregnancy, though) but made it to the D&C and we were able to do testing, which provided some peace of mind.
I wouldn't hesitate to try to move it up - I hope they can make it work. And that the genetic testing will provide some insight or at least closure.
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I’m so sorry. Things are just so unfair sometimes it is infuriating. My heart is hurting for you and your family.
Definitely do what helps you deal best, but I agree you’re unlikely to pass it soon especially with no bleeding. I had a d&c at 11w and the baby had been gone over a week when i found out. I only knew because I started red spotting and got checked - but honestly even that was pretty minimal and did not indicate anything was really starting yet. I waited 3 days for the d&c and nothing else happened in that time except a tiny bit more spotting. I did find it helpful to have the genetic testing and see it was bad luck (a rare trisomy in our case) vs something else.
I hope they make things work to help you get this part finished. So many hugs
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Thanks y’all, your empathy made me cry, this really is so unfair. I’m sorry so many of you have had a similar journey.
I called in, but they aren’t able to schedule me today, so we will stick with first thing tomorrow. I think the cramping was in my head, I really feel totally normal now. I’m glad I caught it when I did, it would have been even worse to have gone to my scan in 2 weeks (that I was planning on bringing my dd to) and found out then.
A funny thing in all of this was when the woman from the surgical center called me to confirm details, she said she saw my name and remembered me from 6 years ago when I had laparoscopic surgery to diagnose my endometriosis. This is funny because I have a VERY common name, and I can’t imagine what I said or did 6 years ago to make such an impression. I guess it was a good impression though, she was super nice lol. -
@LAZB: I'm just so pissed and sad this is happening to you. I was thinking the other day... If there's anything I've learned in these last 5 years of trying for baby, losing baby, making a baby, seeing babies born, it's that we women endure such immense pain. But also experience such immeasurable joy.
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@LAZB: I was lurking on your due date board and hoping for the best possible outcome. I'm so so sorry. It seems like you have figured out scheduling your D&C, but if it makes you feel any better, I started bleeding on a Friday, had my D&C Monday, but didn't start to pass the baby. I dont think you have anything to worry about on that front.
I am praying for a safe procedure and quick recovery. Many, many hugs. We are all here for you.
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So sorry to hear this. For what it’s worth, you made the right call to have an early morning procedure. I had my D&C in the early afternoon and was so dehydrated from not drinking all day, it made it extremely difficult for them to insert the IV. Also, the D&C was a very positive experience for me. An easy procedure. Wish you didn’t have to go through it, but hope it goes smoothly. Best of luck.
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Sending lots of love your way LB
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Omg saw your response on the POAS and then went looking for what in the world happened. Your poor thing. I am so so so sad to read this. TTC as @Pachamama said is so terrible, so joyous, such a mind fuck and a rollercoaster of emotions. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow as we both have our procedures and Hoping for a fast dropping beta for you for sure. I have some peace of mind for you knowing you are with your doctor in a good place in a controlled setting. Ugh ugh ugh.
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@LAZB: oh my goodness, I was lurking on the due date boards and this was NOT the news I was expecting! I am so, so sorry!! I hope your procedure went well and that you can take some time to heal
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I'm so sorry!
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@LAZB: I’m so sorry you are going through this
I had a missed m/c at 13 weeks. I had a d&c about 3 days after I found out. I had no miscarriage symptoms prior to finding out or while I was waiting for the procedure.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow. The emotional recovery was more difficult for me than the physical one. And I had previously had a “natural” miscarriage which for me was much for painful than the D&C.....Sending you love...
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Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear about this. I’ve had three miscarriages (two of which required D&Cs) and the scheduling aspect was so frustrating both times. For my last one, they tried to schedule me at 3 p.m. (in a surgical center that sat on top on a shopping mall!), which meant no eating almost all day and then having to find people to pick up my kids from school. After begging, I was able to get a 1 p.m. slot in a normal medical office building. I’ll be thinking about you. I’m so very sorry you are going through this.
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So sorry to hear this and thinking of you. The HB community on here was amazing when I was going through all that I did so make sure to lean on all of us when you need to.
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@LAZB: covering you with love this morning.
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@LAZB: thinking of you this morning and sending hugs.
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Thinking of you today lady
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So much love with you today. I’m recovering from a D&E after learning my sons heart stopped beating at 17 weeks. Someone here said how hard this road is and I totally agree. I know you’ve had a lot of heartbreak too. I just wanted to say I’m sorry and my prayers are with you as you go through this procedure.
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Sending so much love this morning
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Thinking of you! So sorry you’re going through this!!
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@MrsJBeeG: I'm sorry. That must have been devastating.
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Thank you all so much, your support and love is amazing. The procedure went really well and was easy as far as things go. I took pain pills as soon as I felt the cramping come back, but only one time, so hopefully it won’t be too bad recovery wise.
I am glad we ended up doing it in the morning, I’ve been able to take it easy today.
My doctor said it will take a couple of weeks to get any results back, which is fine, I don’t feel a rush for some reason.
I’m really just heartbroken right now, but don’t want to make any decisions until we have more answers. -
@MrsJBeeG: I’m so sorry, that’s just awful
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@LAZB:
glad you were well taken care of today.
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@LAZB: Glad you tolerated the procedure well and have been able to take it easy today. One step and one day at a time. Just keep swimming.
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@LAZB: I'm late on this but I just saw your post. I am so, so sorry to hear this. I had a D&C at 10.5 weeks in early December--understand the heartbreak. Thinking of you--big hugs for the weeks to come.
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@LAZB:
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Just saw all this, but sending you so much
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Thinking of you today
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Thinking of you
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Thank you all again, I really appreciate all of the comments and love
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