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Honestly, I don't think the Oh crap method works for kids in daycare. You can't stick to the program the way it's supposed to be done. We did a gradual approach like @muffinsmuffins:
We did a pull up at daycare and she would go when all the other kids went, and we started on undies at home at night and on weekends. She was actually doing much better about staying dry at daycare than she was at home. She was only in pull-ups at school for 3 weeks before her teachers said to just send her in undies because she was always dry. Her teachers also said that it was probably easier for them to deal with accidents at school than it would be for us at home since all the surfaces are cleanable. We still have problems with her withholding poop... she's holding all day and going in her diaper at night which has led to a few pee accidents at school. But for the most part she's done find switching between undies and pull-ups and knows that both are supposed to stay clean.

I don't have any advice, but commiseration. We didn't do commando at daycare but I did start sending her to daycare in undies right away (we are on week 4) with instruction to only put her in a diaper for her nap. The first week went really well. The second week I started getting diaper notifications instead of potty notifications on the app. At first I thought it was just a mistake on their part but after the second or third day I asked them what was going on (when I spoke to the afternoon teacher in person, I didn't get the impression she was in a diaper all day, but that was incorrect!). After that they started making an effort again to get her to use the potty, but they still give her a diaper when they go outside and that's normally when she'll poop.

It's frustrating but I've resigned myself to the fact that they have several kids to take care of, and can't give her one on one attention like I do at home to see her cues of needing to poop.

Like I said before we are finishing up week 4 and she rarely has pee accidents, despite having (basically) full access to diapers at daycare if she asks for it. At home, she only gets a diaper for nap or nighttime. OK, I'm sorry for rambling on your thread, I'll shut up now

@LCTBQE: both of my kids were in daycare when we pottytrained over a long weekend/holiday. Two different daycares—one said going commando was against regulation in our state and the other said commando was fine. But either way, we never did diapers. We did straight to undies (after 3 commando days at home), and the other case we had a couple more commando days at daycare then to panties. Pull-ups only for nap time.

Our daycare required pull ups to start. I can’t remember how long of dry pull ups before they allowed underwear. It then they did pull up over underwear for a while. It may take a bit longer but it didn’t cause us problems. I figured since they had lots of kids to take care of and they were doing most of the potty training they could lead how it was done.

Funny thing is they stopped putting him in pull ups for naps long before we did at home.

Both our boys attended daycare and we were able to essentially follow the Oh Crap method. But we also have a really supportive daycare. For both boys we trained at about 29 months. Over the course of a 3 day weekend, we had them both doing great commando.

With my first son, on the first day back at daycare I actually planned to send him in a pull-up, but he completely refused to wear it. So, I sent him in underwear and crossed my fingers. My daycare providers are super supportive, though, and took it from there. Those first couple weeks he had a couple poop accidents at school, but that totally didn’t phase them. Overall it took him about a month to be confidant pooping in the toilet, but we just cleaned/tossed dirty underwear and persevered. He wore a diaper for nap for a few more weeks. Diaper at night for a couple more months. Then done.

With my second son, knowing how supporting my daycare was, we sent him in underwear and fingers crossed after 3 days commando at home. I was less confidant as he had more accidents at home than my first son. But, again, my daycare was amazing and he did amazing. No accidents.

I really think the key for us was having super supportive daycare providers. I credit them with a lot of the success as well and am so thankful they were ok with an early undies trial. I think it is incredibly confusing for kids to be in pull-ups.

@LCTBQE: we trained both boys at about 29 months. For us, maybe we just lucked out, but night time was no problem. We still put them in diapers overnight until they proved to be consistently dry (maybe for about a week?) and then we just pulled the nighttime diaper. It took my oldest maybe 2-3 months of being daytime trained before he was consistently dry at night. My youngest was faster - maybe 1-2 months. With my oldest we really never had accidents. With my youngest, we had a few accidents - but quickly noticed it would happen first thing in the morning if he lounged in bed too long. So we quickly got into a habit of using the toilet IMMEDIATETLY upon wake up and that pretty much solved it. I admit, we lucked out.

@LCTBQE: good luck! Potty training was our hardest battle for sure so don’t get discouraged if it takes longer and you have setbacks. It will come. As for night training, DS wakes dry maybe 2-3 days a week so I’m not pushing it. He’s started school and got a baby brother in September so lots of change still adjusting to that I’m not throwing that in too...plus we are exhausted ha. I haven’t researched it but I think it’s developmental so we will wait for more consistent dry mornings and go from there. I don’t mind doing pull ups and he doesn’t fight it so will stay the course.

@LCTBQE: basically, yes they did, until I said something to the morning teacher. She doesn't get there until after I drop lo off so I never get a chance to talk to her in person. My plan was to talk to the director next if they didn't start making an effort again. She's back to doing really well, with very few accidents.

Yes, she withholds poop a lot. She will go on the potty but most of the time it's a huge ordeal to get her to go (I just shut her and I in the bathroom and hangout till she goes). Some days she goes with out a fight. Last night she finally went, but she still woke up poopy this morning 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Good luck to you

@LCTBQE: I think both my girls were on the easy side of things when it comes to potty training. I don’t think undies “helped”, but I think they didn’t hurt the process since they did not wear them until day 3 or 4. I do think being naked waist down helped them understand the feeling of needing to pee/peeing in a potty rather than in close fitting anything (undies, or pull-ups or clothes).

So I am a rule follower (apparently. Didn’t realize that about myself until I became a parent). But the first time I make a recipe, I am following it exactly with no substitutes—so I bought the Oh crap book before LO1, and I actually read the entire thing (sometimes on parenting boards I see people both pro AND con the Oh Crap book have no real familiarity with the actual book—it’s more like they’ve only read a ooo summary someone else who also didn’t read the book wrote), and I followed the blocks exactly. Obviously I only have a sample size of 2 kids with similar genetic predispositions but it fully worked for pee and poop within 5 days for LO1 and 24-48 hours for LO2. So if I were having a 3rd kid, I would repeat the Oh Crap method exactly making no changes to the method.