If there was an intellectually disabled child in your daycare who was repeatedly very aggressive and somewhat violent towards the other kids, what, if anything, would you expect your daycare to do?
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I would expect that the child has a full time aide assigned to them. If there is a true disability, I would expect it to be diagnosed and a proper plan in place for support.
As an example, when my son was in private preschool, there was an autistic boy in the class that had a full time aide. The aide was paid for by the state, as the child had an IEP. The aide was a gem, he was really able to be there without being intrusive but gave the child some great ways to cope, such as helping him with emotions and keeping him on task.
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@looch: What you are saying sounds like a good solution. I'm not sure what the disability is. There was supposed to be a formal diagnosis, and we never heard anything (but I personally don't think another child's diagnosis is my business). The school promised a dedicated teacher. There was one for a few days after a fairly serious incident, and then they went back to the regular staff. There was another fairly serious incident recently and the school has not been communicating much at all since this second incident. Many of the parents are upset and some have even pulled their kids out. One of the problems for me is that I only get information second hand (because of the language barrier), so I'm not getting a straight answer from anyone.
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I don't know what the rules are where you reside, but basically, it doesn't sound to me like the regular staff is equipped to handle the situation. It wouldn't surprise me if there was no plan in place, based on the fact that they provided a teacher for a few days, not a full time, government paid for aide.
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@lamariniere: Just a thought, can you ask the office/director for a response in writing so you could translate it?
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I would expect the daycare to keep all parents in communication especially if their child is being effected. My son has an IEP in place but without little understanding of it, people may very well label him a problem child. Although other parents do not need to know the full extent of his issues and needs, I think it is fair that they are made aware as much as possible. I hated when I went to places and my kid was labeled as a bully (he's WAY bigger than children his age, but again he is their age) he has needs and it was heartbreaking when I got judgement stares from everyone and honestly, I wouldn't even feel the need in that moment to tell them (we're talking like music classes not a full on daycare situation that's totally different, where parents should be made aware) I didn't want my child to be labeled. He has delays and needs but that's not all that he is. He is so much more.
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@looch: I don't know what the rules are either. I've contacted another parent to see if they know.
@T.H.O.U.: the problem is that the school is not talking to anyone. A bunch of parents have gotten together to ask for a meeting, so I'm waiting to hear about if that's going to go forward. Also, google translate is horrific for German, so it's not helpful at all.
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@bubblegum: thanks for your perspective. This child's problems clearly go beyond the scope of normal childhood bullying and difficult behavior. I don't kneed to know their medical history, but the school is clearly ill-equipped to handle the child.
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Sounds like there are two issues: 1) communication across the language barrier isn't good and 2) the school has not developed a proper care plan for the child in need. In this case, I would band together with the other parents to resolve both issues. That child really needs proper care and the other children need a safe space to grow and learn as well. It seems like the school won't do anything unless there is strong advocacy for a resolution.
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@lamariniere: Of course. Well so does my child, I'm just saying that's how some parents view him as rather than he does have actual developmental problems. Is the school a mainstream school? I'm hopeful that a situation that meets everyone's needs is met! Best of luck
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@lamariniere: wow that sounds horrible. I would definitely keep pushing for a meeting and for them to find a way to keep everyone safe. Let me know if you go the written statement route (or even just the minutes of the meeting)- I'll gladly help with translation.
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@bubblegum: it's a private daycare (most are here). I think everyone is understanding of the fact that the issue is deeper than just bullying.
@azjax: you're right. But because of the language issues, I hesitate to get involved directly.
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@Pumuckl: I may take you up on that. I've been trying to follow a WhatsApp discussion and it makes no sense using google.
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@lamariniere: Best of luck! I hope everything works out
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@lamariniere: I'll gladly help!
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