Many of you have probably already heard my daycare woes where the teachers think Xander's getting hungry early or that I need to put more in the bottles. I've FINALLY decided to trust myself (after plenty of time with Xander and a visit to a lactation consultant plus lots of talk on HB) and I KNOW that he can go 3 hours on 5oz of BM (he's gone 4 hours on 4oz of BM from me, so 3 hours on 5oz shouldn't be an issue).

BUT, apparently sometimes (okay, a lot of the time), he gets fussy at daycare up to an hour (or more) before he's due for his next bottle. Supposedly the teachers try EVERYTHING and can't calm him down, so they decide to try a bottle (which I guess often works). I know he can't possibly be hungry only an hour after his last bottle, but I don't really know what to tell them.

When I arrived today, they said he had been crying for an HOUR (so he started crying an hour after his last bottle) and they supposedly tried everything they could think of and finally decided to try a bottle (started warming it maybe a minute before I showed up, grrrr). But when I got there, he stopped crying and wasn't fussy at all. I brought him home without giving him the bottle and he was perfectly happy to play and hang out with me for another hour before we finally fed him at his normal time.

So... I'm pretty sure that he's not hungry and that he really just wants me. But what do I tell daycare to do? Apparently giving him a bottle usually calms him down - I'm assuming because it smells like me and maybe because he gets snuggled while he's fed so it feels like me? But I don't want them wasting my milk while he's there. And I don't want him miserable.

Any suggestions?