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I am not TTCing yet but my friend is (3 years) and she gets a little bummed out. So is my other friend who lost her Mom to cancer a few years ago.

Thinking of you!

Aw, I am sorry to hear that. I have never thought of Mother's Day in that way either but it definitely makes sense. *hugs*

I had a hard time after I miscarried. But I felt like I was still a mom, even though my LO had passed away. And I was a mommy to my pup. Hope this month goes by quick for you!

@beka: This is the first Mother's Day since DH and I have been TTC (and having trouble) so I definitely have been feeling bummed about it, too. But I am also trying to think about how this year might not be my year to celebrate (other than for my own mom, of course), but maybe next year will be the first one! *hugs, too*

I felt exactly the same way. We had trouble and mothers day (just like other people announcing pregnancies) was a little stab to that already sore spot. For the three years we were trying I did the same thing. I also dealt with friends and my sisters pregnancies in the same way. I would let myself have all the crazy emotions at home, either by myself or with my husband. So as mothers day approached I would cry at commercials or after shopping for presents for other mothers but the day of, whether it was mothers day or baby showers or just talking baby stuff with other women I was genuinely able to be happy and celebrate. I felt like I had allowed myself my sadness but also wanted to celebrate the other mothers in my life.

I don't know if it helps coming from someone who is now a mom but I do understand and very clearly remember the pain. Give yourself time to mourne and have your emotions but don't forget to celebrate the good in your life as well. It really does help. I also think that if it's in your heart to be a mother, then you and your husband should celebrate that on Sunday even if there is no baby on the way yet. Good luck this weekend.

I'm having the hardest time with it. If I hadn't miscarried at 20 weeks, I would be in my 7 month, getting ready to do glucose screening, etc. I was going to have a shower next week and my work was going to do one before we left for the summer on Wednesday. I just am waiting for this year to end. Of course, I have a coworker who is due any day and she loves to tell me how close she is to delivering, etc.

All I think about, is the fact that I do have a daughter and there are other women that have gone through the same I'm going through and I will get to be a mom with a baby here one day soon. Two months until we can start trying again,.

I don't think you're whining at all and it makes sense if you feel down. I have been wondering if I'll feel that way too. So far in the lead up to Sunday, I haven't. However, AF is due for me ON mothers day. So my state of mind could still go either way!

I've actually been hoping my mom will go out of town (her plans are up in the air), so that I can see her on another day instead, just in case AF comes and causes me to have to work at making myself be happy that day.

@beka: I haven't lost or even been trying for very long, but I definitely am depressed about Mother's Day. I just thought I'd be pregnant by now and be able to celebrate it from a new perspective, but I won't get to, and that definitely bums me out.

@beka: Yes, this very day! It was the day after my husband's bday, so easy to remember (or, rather hard to forget!) I was worried I would have this baby today, but looks like I'm in the clear! Thank you : )

I am sooo happy someone else posted about this. We had a d&c Thursday after a miscarriage and I am miserable today. I was looking forward to being pregnant on Mother's Day. I also feel like it is hard for people to understand why I don't want to go anywhere or take anyones phone calls. I'm thankful it isn't summer vacation yet (teacher) cause I know I'd fall into a funk.

Thank you for sharing your feelings and making me feel like mine are valid. Happy Mother's Day to all of us. I *hope* we have a baby next year and this will all be a memory.

@Trailmix: ditto. We're on our 3rd cycle, but its still tough. I tried to focus on my mom and MIL today, so that's helped a little bit. I try to think about it this way- its the closest I've ever been to being a mom (first Mother's Day that we're TTC) and hopefully next year I'll be pregnant or maybe even have a baby in my arms.

I got a little sad/jealous yesterday. AF started (knew it was coming 2 days of spotting and BFN on 10DPO) yesterday. Then two good friends (both got married after me) announced they are pregnant.

you are definitely not whining, and i was totally with you being depressed about mother's day - we're in cycle 8 of trying, and the disappointment seemed to pile up over the weekend.

i'm hoping that by next year mother's day will be a very different experience