DH wants to take a day trip about two and a half hours away three weeks before my due date. He would just be gone for the day, early morning to late at night. I admit i have first time mom paranoia that something will happen and he wont be here so i am a little nervous for him to go. We live on the opposite end of the cities from all of our family and friends and other help would be at least an hour to an hour and a half away so it would likely be up to me to deal with anything that came up. He did say that I could come along as well but I am not enthused by that because then I am far from any hospital too. Am I being paranoid? I need to know if I need to chill or put my foot down 
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I would chill
but I'm saying that as someone who went two weeks late. Lol. But seriously, I don't think 2.5 hours is a big deal, I'd let him go. Maybe you could have a friend or family member some spend the day with you? Girls day out or something? I think that would be fun and would ease some of your concerns -
My OB told my husband and I both not to go more than an hour away from the hospital starting at 36 weeks. Is there any way he can do the trip sooner, or is he going to an event? I would be ok with him going if I had someone nearby I could call just in case. I wouldn't go myself though!
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I would chill as well. I was late with both pregnancies and was in labor forever (well, for a day), even the second time!
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That's not very far. If you start going into labor, it's enough time for him to get back before he misses anything, and chances are nothing will happen. It's probably a good idea, because once the baby is born, he will have less chance to do that too often, so I'd say let him go.
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I feel your pain! My DH has a week long work trip scheduled for when I am at 36 weeks that he can't get out of, so I'm a little nervous, and my parents are 2 hours away and my sisters are about 45 min away. But I figure between work and my neighbors, I have someone to take me to the hospital in a pinch.
I do agree with @SSLM, if you are really nervous about it get someone to hang out with you for the day - do a girlie day with pedicures and a movie or shopping for the last minute things you need for the hospital. It might be the last time you have that kind of freedom for awhile.
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I would chill. My DH works 2.5 hours from me all the time on his shifts. As it is, he is scheduled to work one more night shift the week I'm due. I do have a friend that lives in town, but my family is also 2.5 hours away. I just told him I'll call home if I happen to go in labor if he isn't here and nothing should happen in 2.5 with a first time baby. Good luck!
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It is scary but I would try and relax about it. Labour 'normally' takes a long time. I would just give your family the heads up and ask your DH to have his phone handy. Try to enjoy the peace and quiet
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I was nervous about this kind of stuff too- I said no more than two hours after 38 weeks. I think you could let him go but he MUST keep his phone on him at all times. I would not go myself-- if you did go into labor early I'd rather labor at home alone for a couple of hours than in a car with him!
Then again, the day I actually was in labor we had like a two hour discussion if whether Dh should go play golf an hour away.
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Could he go for a half a day? Doesn't labor usually start in the evening?
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As long as he keeps his phone on him and isn't drinking I think you'll probably have enough warning for him to get back and family to come over if you need help.
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I would chill. I agree with having a friend or family member on standby. My DH went away on a business trip when I was 36 weeks. I was nervous too but everything worked out fine!
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I would chill. Mine traveled was a 3 hour plane trip away three weeks before my due date. But that was the last week he travleded.
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My DH played a show with his band two DAYS before my due date, so he was away almost all night and he was two hours away from me and the hospital. I was freaked but ended up giving him the okay just because I knew it was likely the last time he'd be doing anything like that for awhile. I spent the night at my parents house and made him promise to have his phone out and where he could see it at all times, so that if I did go into labor he could leave right away and my parents could take me to the hospital.
And honestly? Now I kinda laugh about it, like, 'Yeah sure, I wish my labor had been short enough that him being a couple of hours away would've been a big deal!' Most women spend many many hours in early labor, during which time I was just watching TV, napping, putting some last minute things in the hospital bag, etc. I know it's hard to chill because believe me I was pissed as hell that he even accepted the show, but in the long run nothing happened and even if it had he would have still gotten to me about 10 hours before labor got really intense.
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Same as the other ladies- chill, and let him go. Have your mom or a good friend come hang with you for the day, and make a deal that he'll have his phone on him at all times.
While he's away, go spoil yourself- mani pedi, hair appt, maybe some shopping (new shoes? Handbag?). -
Mine went on a 4 date tour with a band when I was 37 weeks. I was a little freaked out but everyone on here said to let him go and it worked out fine in the end. Don't worry. Besides, 2.5 hrs away is nothing, he could get back in time if you needed him, Im sure.
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This was a huge concern for me too. I'd let him go and just make sure he has a charged phone at all times and you have an emergency contact and the numbers of those who will be with him. My husbands job has him going all over the state for 2.5 days at a time, I was a nervous wreck. He came home agter working out of state for a week the night before I went into labor 1 week early. Just have numbers! My labor was fast, but she was my third, my 1st labor was not fast!!
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Can he come back if needed? If so, I would totally let him go. If not, then I would probably still let him go.
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I would chill and make sure he has access to his phone.
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I'd let him go
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I agree with PPs. If it makes you feel better, my DH did a triathlon an hour away at 37 weeks (I went along too), and a 4 hour bike race when I was 39 weeks. I ended up being induced at 40+6 so he didn't miss anything. When he signed up for the bike race I just made it clear that he needed to be okay cancelling if I did go early!
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I would chill as well, my DH travels within a 2-2.5 hr radius quite a few days a week and will continue until delivery, I'm 37 weeks. Our nearest family is 45 mins away and we have no intent to call them at the beginning of labor.
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I'm also in the chill camp. More than likely, you're not going to have your baby three weeks early, and being a first time mom, you are really not likely to have a super fast labour that would start/finish before he was able to get back to you. If labour started suddenly and you needed to get to hospital straightaway, you could always call a cab, but more than likely, you're going to have plenty of notice that labour is starting.
Let your husband enjoy his last few weeks of carefree days and you do the same! I think the idea of doing a bit of pampering for yourself is a great idea - schedule a haircut and pedicure whilst your DH is gone, then to to a coffee shop and enjoy a long, slow, leisurely coffee (or tea) whilst reading a book and taking your sweet old time doing so! Basically, do everything that's going to be put on hold once your LO arrives!
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same as most everyone else, I would chill. make a deal with him that he has to have his phone charged, loud, and on him at all times. 2.5 hours really isn't that long of a drive
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I let my husband go 4 hours away about 2 weeks before I gave birth. Wasn't thrilled about it, but it was what it was. He knew phone on all times, and he had friends with him I could call in case I couldn't get hold of him for whatever reason.
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I would chill. You're unlikely to go into labor that early, and if you do, you're unlikely to deliver before three hours. If you're not contracting, not dilated, I'd not stress it.
This is coming from me, who's husband had 4 (!!) impacted wisdom teeth removed when I was 38 weeks pregnant. Better that than wait a few months until I was recovered, but geez. He was on the real pain drugs for 48 hours, and he was totally loopy out of it the first day. I had extensive family help on call, but still, it was not awesome.
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I think for 2.5 hours, I would chill. Do you have any friends close by that could be on call just in case?
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It took me two hours to get to my hospital to begin with ... You'll be ok. Ditto the others, just have him on standby.
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