while TTC #1? or TTC #2?
I don't feel outside pressure now, and didn't with DS either. but now that we're TTC, I feel more self-induced pressure to have #2 in a given time frame (considering our overall family plans).
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with #1 for some reason! no one else knew we were trying either time (well, IRL!) so it was kinda laid back.
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I felt more pressure with #2 because I REALLY wanted them to be under 2 years apart and I was worried that if it took as long or longer, we wouldn't get the age gap we were looking for!
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With #2, only because it didn't happen the first month like it did with LO, so I started to psych myself out.
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@mrsjyw: I just wanted to say
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I actually felt pretty pressed for both because I was super concerned about my fertility. Luckily it all worked out. The second time was a bit more of a todo with weaning and all that.
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I'm feeling more pressure with #2. DH and I are pretty private and don't like talking about TTC because of the pressure. Nobody knew we were TTC #1 but now that LO is 18 months it seems like everyone assumes (correctly, in our case) that we are TTC #2. Work, friends, family, all talk about it like they know we're TTC.
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Definitely #2....with #1, there was no major timeframe. With #2, I have an idea of the season I'd like to have LO2 in, and the age spacing I want, so there is definitely more pressure.
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#1 for me for sure.
This time around I would like it to happen sooner rather than later but mentally prepped myself for it taking up to a year to conceive. Also not too worried about spacing, I just wanted to have a couple years between the two.
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More people asked about #1....nobody's really been like, "when are you having another?" in a stressful way. People ask (friends) but it's more like we are all in the same boat.
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I didn't feel any pressure for either one.
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Definitely more pressure with number 2 due to the age spacing I wanted. With number 1 there was no pressure at all.
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#1 because it was so uncertain. TTC #2 is frustrating because the actual trying is harder to fit in, but I'm not as worried as I was with #1.
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No pressure for #1, but lots of self induced pressure for #2!
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Self-induced with #2! The child spacing issue (particularly in regards to grade level difference) really put the pressure on me. With #1 I was still a little unsure if we were making the "right" decision to try.
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I'm feeling more pressure with #2. I conceived LO #1 on the first cycle, so was just very, very lucky. Only on third cycle with TTC now, but I get myself stressed out thinking about what if it takes a long time.
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Definitely did with #1 because I just wanted it to happen, and it didn't happen as easily nor quickly as I thought it would. DH would like #2 to be close in age to #1, but it's not like we absolutely want 2 under 2. We're NTNP/TTC right now so if it happens soon - yay! if not, no biggie unless it doesn't happen within a year then maybe I'll start freaking out again.
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Self induced both times, but especially now with my age and fertility issues and recent loss. No one else would ever put pressure on me but I feel it daily.
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#2 for sure, though it's more self-induced. LO #1 will be 2 in September, and I'll be 34 then as well. With the multiple miscarriages before and after, I'm worried I'm getting started a little late with a RE and am in for a long journey for #2.
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I think I felt more pressure to conceive with #1 but I am under some pressure with#2 just because we want them close together and it took a long time to conceive dd. I know it's supposed to be easier with #2 but I just find myself worrying it will end up taking as long as the first time.
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Self induced pressure here. I don't want another August baby. I want to get pregnant sooner than later.
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I think in some ways yes and in other ways no. I didn't have a chance to feel pressure with LO bc we got pregnant our second cycle. If it had taken longer than that I'm sure I would have felt the pressure
With the second I didn't feel a lot of pressure bc I already had LO but after the 6th cycle I started to feel a lot of pressure. I was getting older and I wondered if LO would ever have a sibling and I didn't want my kids 10 years apart so I wondered how long I would keep trying before giving up or pursing other options...but always in the back of my mind I had peace bc I had LO. My heart goes out to those ladies who are still waiting for their first baby
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I feel a butt-load of pressure from no one other than myself - TTC#1 and not getting any younger
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Not with #1 but I know everyone and their mother ask about #2!
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Way more for #2 because I wanted to conceive during a certain window of months.
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I don't feel any more pressure for #2. Before miscarriage #1, we weren't even trying and we didn't get any comments from families....especially because they all know about our struggles to conceive DD. Once we had that miscarriage and then next, they are more supportive than pressuring. I think everyone will just be happy once we have a sticky baby. I'm feeling a little pressure from myself because I have no idea how long it could take to get said baby....
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We didn't TTC for B, he was a happy surprise. We definitely TTC for this LO and it has stressed me out. When we go for #3, it will be relaxed and not about timing intercourse.
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Feeling a little more pressure with #2 because of certain work/timeframe constraints, b/c of my age, and b/c it didn't happen right away like with #1.
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Equal pressure with both! But I am alwys pressuring myself.
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@septca same! I found #1 way more stressful because I had no idea whether I was fertile or how a baby would change our life. With #2 it's harder to do logistically, and I have the added complication of still bfing and wanting to have the baby soon. That said, I am finding ttc #2 more exciting and fun than the grim mititary execution of ttc#1 plan, lol.
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