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Aw, that's sad. I'm sorry people made you feel that way. I'm really sorry for your loss.

I lost my full term baby and people were overwhelmingly supportive. It was actually too much at times.

I'm so so sorry for your loss. People can be so strange about hard things like what you went through. I guess most don't know how to offer support or worry they'll say/do the wrong thing and make it worse. Big hugs to you.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so, so sorry to hear this. I'm sorry for your loss and also for how people treated you.

I was only 5 weeks pregnant when I lost a pregnancy, so super early, but the few people we told were very, very supportive.

I have a story to share, though. When I was pregnant with E, my work colleague's wife was also pregnant, due around the same time. She went into labour at 28 weeks and they sadly lost their little boy after delivery. I felt sick with worry the day he returned to work, knowing I had to say something to him (with my huge baby belly in his face). It took me until almost lunchtime to make the trip to his desk and tell him how sorry I was, give him a hug (during that time, I used a different kitchen and different loos to avoid him)...........

.......... I wonder if sometimes people just don't know what to say and their own feelings get in the way of them supporting someone.

I am so sorry, I can't even imagine the stress and pain! I hope it's not people disagreeing with your choice and choosing to ignore you This is obviously a time where you need your friends and family the most!

All my miscarriages were early, and no one knew. After I finally had a baby and told people that I had previous miscarriages, they were shocked and a little upset I hadn't mentioned it.

@imbali: i am so sorry for your loss. what a heartbreaking situation.

we had a missed m/c at 12 weeks last fall and it was awful. for better or worse, we had already told pretty much everyone--work and close family at least. my work friends were amazing: hugs and crying with me in my office, bringing flowers and gift cards, helping me get LO to daycare after my d&c. i work with a bunch of social workers though so i think they are unusually good at knowing how to "be there" if that makes sense.

family was hit and miss. right after i told my parents i didn't really want to talk about it so they have literally not said a word since it happened. i think it is true that no one knows what to say. but it still sucks.

I will be praying for you and would be happy to chat more if you want.

I'm really sorry for your loss

I had an early loss (6 weeks) and different people handled it different ways. Both my sister and SIL had had losses. My sister didn't say anything at all to me beyond one text. My SIL called me almost every other day to see how I was doing.

I also had one close friend who had also had an early loss just a few months earlier, so we emailed a lot.

Sometimes, I appreciated that no one said anything. But other times, I really wished someone would ask how I was doing. I think it's a hard line for people to figure out how to follow. But I'm incredibly grateful for my SIL and how often she reached out to me.