Who knew/knows you are TTC?
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my 2 BFFs know. SIL has an idea that we aren't preventing, but only because i'm supposed to be in her wedding & i wanted to give her a heads up that maybe by then i'd be preggers by then. my dr & acupuncturist obviously know!
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When we decide to start trying, we are going to tell a single soul. We don't want any added pressure.
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we decided not to tell anyone...but i ended up telling my sister...i needed some support in knowing i was doing the right thing in TTC after finding out my dad was diagnosed with leukemia
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some people know we will be trying "soon" but I won't actually tell anyone when we do start (hopefully this month) I just don't want to deal with questions and pressure.
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I told my two best girl friends, but that was it. I didn't want to tell family because I didn't want to get their hopes up at all if it took a while.
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Most of our friends know since this is a constant topic of conversation amongst our group of friends. Both sets of parents know as well, because they've been on our case about starting a family... we had to let them know that we're working on it, otherwise they would constantly be bugging us more!
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It's sort of come out more and more as we've been trying for longer (cycle 5 now). That's a long time to keep a secret from people! Both sets of parents and a handful of my friends know, mostly because I see them right around POAS time.
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It wasn't a huge secret that after our trip we would start trying sometime, however few knew we were going to be trying on it (and then succeeded.)
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My drs and my BFF. Now that it hasn't happened yet (we're on our 5th cycle) I wish I hadn't told her. She hasn't told anyone, and she's not being pushy or asking, but she's not doing a very good job of playing it cool if people ask her if we're trying. I'm starting to really feel the pressure, even though no one really knows - mostly because we've been married 3 years and are nearing 30.
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My sister knows- she's my BFF and we are super close, so she practically knows the day we will start trying. Other than that, maybe half a dozen people know roughly when we would like to start (like, fall, as opposed to, the last week of August). For most other people, it's more like, soon, not too much longer but not yet type answers.
I won't tell my parents unless we are trying for a while and it doesn't happen. Already my dad asks me if I have "news" almost every time I see him. -
I ended up telling my SIL, because I needed someone to ask panicky questions of lol. My sisters think that we are starting in December, I didn't tell them that we moved up the date because I didn't want the pressure! Oddly enough...my boss/friend knows >.< I posted some status that vaguely alluded to the future, and he guessed. AGH! I got nothing but knowing winks the rest of the week! I almost wish I hadn't told ANYONE, but it's too late now!
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We didn't tell anyone at first. Once we knew we were dealing with infertility and that my husband needed surgery we told our parents.
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No one knew we were NTNP the first time. When we lost that baby they obviously knew we would try again asap.
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Nope - not a soul.
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I told like 3 girlfriends. So far only one knows we had success last cycle.
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our family and close friends knew... and we lucked out that no one bugged us about it while we were trying
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We didn't tell ANYONE. We just didn't want the added pressure. And it took us almost 16 months to get pregnant and it was the one thing I was really glad that we hadn't blabbed about. Once we had been trying for about a year I did tell a few close friends b/c I needed some support.
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other than our BFFs no one really. I didn't want to tell family and always have the "and?! are you pregnant" question.
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We didn't tell anyone but were very lucky and it didn't take us that long. I imagine if we had trouble I would want more support of family and friends.
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i'm totally the type that is an open book and i spill the beans about most things in my life to friends. it helps immensely for me to be able to talk to people about it, and sometimes, it helps other people talk about it too - especially if we can go through it together. so i told a lot of people! my family, friends, some coworkers who were trying too.
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I think I will tell my 2 BFFs but that is IT. Definitely not our parents - which is funny, because I am super close to my mom, but she already is soooo ready to be a grandmother, I don't think I could handle her constantly asking how it was going (which I am sure is what she'd do)!
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We weren’t planning on telling anyone but I got pregnant right away and miscarried pretty early. We ended up telling our immediate families (parents and siblings) about the miscarriage along with our close friends. So they automatically assumed that we were trying after that.
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I will tell my best friend when we start trying. She's pregnant with her second right now and is the closest thing I have to a sister. We talk about her pregnancy and my baby fever all the time.
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I think our family and friends know we're close and it's on our mind but I don't plan on telling anyone to the extent of our TTC process but I've already told people that we'll be trying "soon." I'm just worried it'll cause me more stress and we've only JUST begun. I had to mentally prepare for a couple months!
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we aren't trying yet but I've already talked to my parents and a few close friends about when we plan on ttc. dh isn't one to talk to people about such private matters, but it really helps me to be able to talk about, especially because I'm impatient! it doesn't feel like pressure at all with the people I've told, it's more like support.
however, we aren't telling his parents yet because that would feel like pressure on us. it's gotten awkward too with them, because his mom is pressuring us to get another dog, and the main reason we don't know if we want one is because of a potential baby. so she keeps asking "whhhyyy" and I don't want to tell her the real reason is I'm not sure I could handle 2 dogs and a baby in a nyc apt!
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I've been pretty open about vaguely mentioning starting a family sometime after our two-year anniversary, so I'm guessing most of our family and friends won't be shocked when (if?!?!?) it finally happens...
Now that we're 6 cycles in (sob), I've confided in most of my closest girlfriends because I am definitely someone who looks for support from others when I'm down and always feel so much better after I've talked things out with someone. I'm cool with them knowing and since only one is also TTC, there's less worry and pressure from/with them!
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