My DH and I took the "5 Love Languages" quiz when we were engaged 8 years ago. My need in our relationship has always been acts of service, especially with him gone so much of the time. I loved when he would come home with a bottle of wine he knows I like, or planned a night out, or did little things to show his love.

Lately I just haven't been feeling connected to him. On a suggestion of a friend, I retook the quiz and it told me what I already had been thinking, that affirmation is very important to me now after baby. Maybe it's because I quit my job and I stay home with a baby that most days I feel would happily trade me for a bottle of Puffs, but I really need my DH, friends and family to just tell me I'm doing a good job and I'm a good mom. I'm stumbling through this first time mom thing and feel pretty lost most of the time, so hearing the words of encouragement help a lot.

I plan to sit down with my DH when he gets home tonight to talk about it to help him understand what I need is not a bottle of wine (but I will definitely take it - mama needs wine!), but for him to tell me I'm not failing, I'm doing alright.

Anyone else feel like their needs changed, or did they stay the same for you? I have a feeling they might change again for me as our baby grows up.