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You have to do what you want to do. Unless there are some family issues/drama, I can't imagine they'd shun your baby or be any less excited just because your sister has one, too!

I am not sure I understand why you would put off ttc just because your sister is pregnant. There will be a while between the babies anyway, and that is presuming that you get a bfp straight away.

Every baby will get lots of attention - people love babies! I think this is too big of a thing to plan around someone else. It's something you should do when you want to. Plus, it will be so nice to have cousins the same age.

I think it'll be nice for the cousins to be close in age.

lol wow, (including myself) everyone voted for you to just go for it! so funny because my bro and SIL are waiting for me to have mine before they go for their 2nd.

I second what everyone else says! Don't wait, have it now if that's what you two had already planned! Your family will love both babies, and they will each have a cousin close to their age to grow up with

Don't base your decision on what anyone else is doing. If it's right for you and your DH then don't wait!!

Yeah, don't worry about what your sister is doing! And I don't think people will overlook your child or you'll take away from your sister's attention. I think you'll both get the attention you deserve AND it could be fun to be pregnant together!

I had the same dilemma in that my sister-in-law got pregnant a couple months before my husband and I decided to start trying. Even though I know that if/when we get pregnant, his family will be dealing with her showers/new baby, I don't care. I'm trying to have a baby on MY schedule, regardless of what other's are doing!

DH's sister told us she'd be really upset if we got pregnant before her and her DH. She struggled with infertility for 7 years before having her baby this Christmas. When we found out she was expecting, we started TTC a few months later, and our kids will be 4 months apart. We waited until 16 weeks to tell his family, so she could enjoy her showers and everything. We were hoping to wait until after she delivered but it just didn't work out that way.

We felt the need to be courteous of her because of the infertility struggles. Our timeline was to start TTC on our 1 year anniversary, I don't know if we would've changed that if she hadn't gotten pregnant. It just all worked out.

If you and your dh are ready, then just start ROTC and don't worry about what anyone else is doing. It could take you a long time and even if it doesn't your sisters life plans shouldn't influence yours esp something that has nothing to do with her

My BIL's wife and I were about a month apart in our pregnancies. I felt a little funny because she announced first and then I found out I was pregnant. She announced early (like the stick was still wet early) we actually wanted to wait until we went to our first appointment. So there was a good deal of time in-between the announcements. But then it was really fun to be pregnant at the same time and have babies going through the same stuff at the same time.