For those of you who are thinking of TTC, but have not officially tried yet, do you ever get scared that you many never become pregnant?
DH says I need to take it easy. I also know that we will never know until we try. Thing is, I have never had a regular period and have polycystic ovaries. To top it all off, I am slightly insulin resistant and have undetermined thyroid issues (the doctors are currently tackling this problem). I didn't know that thyriod issues can be the root of infertility. I know we haven't even started trying, but it just seems like it is going to be an uphill battle.
I agree that I need to take it easy, and I realize that stress plays an important role in all of this. At the same time, I just think it is a little unfair. I don't want a pity party or anything of that sort, but just want to know if anyone else just gets these scared feelings sometimes.
pea / 16 posts
We are on our 3rd cycle...I am 36 and he is 41. I am scared the we are 'too old' to concieve. If we don't become PG by the 6th cycle I will consult our dr. I hope it dosen't come to that. Try not to worry...I know that's easier said than done!!
pear / 1650 posts
I get those scared feelings all the time!! This is our first REAL cycle trying. (I got my first period off BC last month, hence first real cycle.) I am such a worrier by nature, and I try not to stress and think of things like "what if I'll never get pregnant?". But the thoughts are still there. : /
squash / 13199 posts
I think its normal to worry about it, and think about all the "what ifs" but until you actually start trying you'll never know... so its not worth stressing too much about it since you may end up conceiving much faster than you thought
apricot / 489 posts
I think that's a normal concern. I always wondered/worried if we would have a problem. When we decided to try I convinced myself to not think about it and to just enjoy the process. Seems to have worked, it didn't take long at all! It'll happen
pear / 1556 posts
All the time. I have PCOS and insulin resistance (taking Metformin for that). We are on cycle 4 of TTC. I was scared even before I knew I had those issues.
My husband tells me I need to relax all the time as well. I'm sure it will happen!
cherry / 135 posts
I was petrified since being a teenager that I wouldn't be able to become pregnant one day. This turned into a serious problem when we were TTC as I tended to obsess - and it did not make TTC fun for either me or my husband (but he was a trooper). The best thing I did was take my fear and use it as a jumping off point to educate myself. I read as much as I could on the subject and learned as much as possible. It helped me to not focus on my fear of the unknown "what-if"
clementine / 750 posts
Yes. a lot. We're currently undergoing testing. I don't seem to ovulate. Very low Progestrone. I also have HypoThryroid issues, however I'm on meds for that and it has been well controlled lately.
pomegranate / 3716 posts
Yes, that's definitely a nagging feeling I get in the back of my mind! We haven't officially started TTC yet, but I only get my period like 2 - 3 times a year so I know I'm not quite "normal". I'm concerned about what that will do to our chances when we start trying... soon! Need to schedule a drs appointment soon.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
This was my one and only unrational fear. This is our first cycle of TTC and while the hopes are alive and things are exciting; I am not trying to get my hopes up for easy journey.
There's no rationale behind it, just that I know so many people who have had a hard time. People healthier than me. Let alone, the fact that I fee like DH and I've been blessed in so many other ways; I don't feel like we deserve an easy journey... but all negative thoughts aside. I'm just trying to be proactive; reading TCOYF, taking pre-natals, quit smoking (2 months ago), work out regularly, etc.
kiwi / 718 posts
when we were ttc, it's wasn't a hard-core trying - the husbone is in school right now & will be for a while longer, so our thoughts were if it happened, it was meant & if not, no worries, we would look into it further once he was done with school. it took 10 months & I did worry about it, for sure, towards the end. but I tried not to due to our agreement. it didn't really help that a girl I work with was also ttc at the time & was charting & everything & having a hard time. I think her frustrations & fears kind of rubbed off on me. she also had a couple of miscarriages, but she just delivered a beautiful, healthy little girl last friday, so all's well that ends well
coconut / 8854 posts
Yes, DH and I are not TTC yet, but we have been together for over 4 years, and not going to lie we are surprised we didn't have any "surprises". DH thinks that something is "wrong" with one or both of us, but I keep telling him that that's what BC is for and it was actually doing its job!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I definitely get scared. My biggest fear is that I will never be able to get pregnant. I try really hard not to get discouraged when AF comes each month. My husband is good at helping me relax about it all.
pear / 1517 posts
I get very nervous. We really just started trying but I'm so scared it will never happen for us!