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No! I feel so lucky to have such an awesome husband!
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Having been divorced previously, and with a family history of the women being alone, I struggled greatly the first 6 mths feeling like I needed to get out & that I made a huge mistake.
Of course this isn't true at all, & DH is an amazing friend, partner, & father..... I did initially have alot of past emotional hurt that resulted in what I felt was regret though. Now, I just have moments where DH is acting a way or we're going through a day & I may think something like "I really married this guy... O_o" that I think most all of us have occasionally. lol
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The only thing I've ever regretted is not eloping!
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@LMOG47: what does that mean? Are you bisque?
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: lobsters mate for life!
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No regrets! DH is the best person I know and the best partner I could imagine!
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I regretted marrying my first husband. But, with DH I never have regretted it.
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@LMOG47: +1000 for the Friends reference!!
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I don't allow myself to entertain such thoughts. No shoulda, coulda, woulda, it just is what it is. My marriage is part of who I am, some days I like who I am, some days I don't, but I'm gonna be this til I die, there is no way to go back and change my path. I am grateful for my husband is his affection.
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@CakeLady: ohhhhhhhh. That's so sweet
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He's one of the best things that's ever happened to me. There are moments when I doubt it, but I can never deny that he's the one for me.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: It's a Friends reference...like @cakelady said, lobsters mate for life
@mrbee we're always telling one another the other is our lobster ...heh
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Yes. But that does not discount that my husband is the best thing to ever happen to me. I never thought I would get married so the transition was not easy.
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I would marry my husband over and over again. He drives me crazy, and we struggle in our own ways, but I really couldn't be luckier.
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Nope! Not at all!
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Nope! I would marry him again today.
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@Mrs. Pen: I always appreciate your honesty :). If you lived near me I'd have my LO hang out with you so you could speak to her honestly about your life experiences. I married a little later (29) and I often wish I had met my husband earlier
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@sandy: well thank you! What a kind thing to say! I hope my LO(s) grow up with positive adult influences in their life because as we all know- kids won't listen to their parents but they may heed advice from others
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Never ever; do I sometimes wish I were single so I could go out and drink for free? Possibly (:
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Nope, he's my male bff and hanging out everyday with him is fun.
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No regrets!
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Never. He's the second best thing that has ever happened to me.
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Only in fleeting moments of anger/extreme stress. I would marry him a million times over.
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Never. As the years go on I see more and more how uniquely suited we are for each other. I never expected to meet my future husband at 17 - I think I just got really, really lucky.
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@Mrs. Pen: rock on for blunt honesty
Nope never regretted it.
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No, never. I'm actually a very regretful person -- the grass is always greener and all that. But being with my husband is the one thing that I have never, ever regretted in almost 10 years.
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@Mrs. Pen: I always love your raw honesty too!
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@LMOG47: he's your lobster! So full of win!
My answer: nope. There were some times before got married that I questioned, is this right, etc but that was part of premarital counseling that we did and when we got married, it was the best day/weekend of my life. He just gets better the more time goes on.
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I had to think about this one. Regret is not the right word. But who hasn't entertained the fork in the road? There was a time where I wondered, "omg did i do the right thing? holy shit" and freaked out. I don't know a single person IRL who is married and hasn't. I've been with DH for almost 10 years now. I don't regret marrying him, but like @lizzywiz said, there are things that make me pause because being married means that I can't entertain some options (like a really really great job possibility came up in another state. I absolutely cannot take it because of DH. It makes me a little sad).
I've had times where I've questioned our path, but I think that is normal and I think everybody eventually has those thoughts at some point.
And I will fully admit that a lot of this is due to my independence...as DH says, I'm independent to a fault. So it's sometimes difficult for me to be attached to someone else because that means considering "us" and not "me" and marrying young sometimes means I did not get to 100% focus on the "me". But the flip side would have been walking away from him in my 20's (while he was deployed, no less...and what bitch does that? lol) and I wasn't willing to do that. Not that I wouldn't change being married, though, because I can't imagine life without him.
A longer answer than I expected to give, for sure. I thought a lot about this one last night
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@blackbird: I could basically copy and paste what you've written, so I will just say, for me, nothing is black and white. Did I make the best decision possible? I can't really answer this until I am on my deathbed. But for right now, where I am in my life, yes, it's the best thing that has happened for me.
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I don't regret it at all. We married when we were young (we were both 23) but we dated since we were 19. I knew he was the man for me. Ever since we met we've been inseparable. I wouldn't have it any other way.
I mean, of course he gets on my nerves, but that's going to happen in every relationship!
We're in it till the end!!
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Since we've been married - never. I can't imagine a scenario where my world would be better without him. Right before we got married we had a couple of crazy arguments that made me question whether we were making a mistake or not, though. But I think most of that was the stress of the wedding. In our first year we had some huge outside stressors with me losing my job and struggling with infertility, and DH changing jobs to increase our income. And those challenges just made us stronger as a couple.
He is my rock and my best friend, and the best thing I ever did in my life was choosing to spend it with him.
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I'm honestly surprised at how many people answered no. I guess I am obviously in the minority when saying that yes, there have been times I have regretted getting married. I don't feel like that often at all, but in the heat of an argument, or when I'm really down about certain things in our life, I can't help but think sometimes what it would have been like to not be married.
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@blackbird: I'm with you on this one.
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@blackbird: I appreciate your honesty, and totally see what you're saying. I can also relate to your fierce level of independence.
I feel that I would have more reservations had I started dating DH when we were younger. We got married at 27, and I had dated my fair share before settling down with him. Most of my "coulda, woulda, shoulda" revole around things like spontaneous travel, relocating on a whim, etc. All things made impossible by the fact that we have DD now. My elation with her pretty much cancels out any longing I have for the aforementioned, but I think we all have our "what if" daydreams, right?
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I don't do "regret". Regretting something, to me, is to say "I wish that never happened; I wish my life was different." and to dwell on it. There's no good to come from regret.
But, beyond that, I've never wished I hadn't married my husband. I have no idea where my life would have led without marrying him and I'll never know that. I'm happy with him as my partner, even when shizz is hitting the fan.
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I haven't regretted my decision so far!
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This was tough, I have thought "what if" occasionally but in reality I never seriously regretted it as I am very happy and in love with my husband. I do sometimes wish we didn't rush as quickly as we did to get married, we could have used a little more time to date/get to know each other's quirks as that was a lot of our arguments in year one! We've moved on from that and I can't imagine having a child with anyone else!
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I am truly, madly in love with DH . . . I am pretty sure in this relationship that I love him at least a little more than he loves me.
I'm with the pps in that I don't think regret is the right word . . . I regret the long-term relationship I was in before I met DH (to the extent that I didn't end it sooner), but it set me on a path that led me straight to DH. There have been moments during our relationship though that have made me take pause . . . but he is my happily ever after, even if he isn't always my happily ever right now.
Before I had LO, there were moments when I imagined that I could feel incredibly *free* in solitude . . . but she has changed my world--and my heart--so completely, that I can't imagine that anymore. I haven't thought about that in a long time.
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nope. i would be lying though if i said i didn't wonder sometimes what my life would be like if i didn't marry him. but majority of the time, i wish we had met sooner than we did(26 yo)
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