Not like, "Sixteen Candles" upset lol, but a little bit bummed? With Facebook reminders etc, it seems like it's so so easy to remember, but there are a few people I didn't hear from on my birthday yesterday that are surprising.
It wasn't a particularly special day anyway--just kind of a normal Wednesday--and I'm more stressed about other stuff, but it's a bit of a let down, you know?
pomelo / 5129 posts
No.
I'm the youngest child. I'm used to people not remembering me. On my 18th birthday, I had just come to college a month earlier (so no one really knew me all that well) and my parents forgot to call me. I got over it pretty fast.
I'm not perfect at remembering other people's birthdays, so I don't expect everyone to remember me.
eggplant / 11716 posts
Nope. Well, only my husband but I don't really let him forget--I talk it up quite a bit in the leading up days with him.
But I don't expect anything from anyone else. Birthdays were not a big deal in my house growing up (I'm one of 6 kids). Like my siblings don't call me on my birthday and I also don't call them. My mom would usually call, but it might be the day before or after.
grapefruit / 4321 posts
If my husband, parents or brother forgot I would be hurt. Otherwise, people have so much going on in their own lives, I don't expect my birthday to be a priority.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Nah, I don't really care too much. I don't even have it "listed" on FB.
pomelo / 5573 posts
Honestly, yes. I don't even care that much about my birthday and I absolutely don't want a party or anything but if my family or close friends forgot, I'd be bummed. Actually not only that but I get kind of irritated if somebody that I consider to be a close friend just sends me a message on Facebook, because it seems like such a minimal and impersonal effort. It wouldn't affect my relationship with somebody, but it would kind of bug me.
pomegranate / 3127 posts
Nah. All I want on my birthday is to be left alone to do what I like. If ever DH and the kids remember my birthday, and the rest of the family magically forgets, that will be the best birthday of my life.
That reminds me of how I celebrated my birthday before kids... most years it falls on the same date as a big music festival. I'd go with my friends, and only one or two people remembered, so I got a giant party without being in the center of attention. Total awesomeness 
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I’d be upset if my husband or mom forgot. Otherwise I don’t care. I don’t have it listed on Facebook.
apricot / 388 posts
@nana87: kinda. My mom often forgets or wishes me a happy birthday like weeks in advance and then makes a point of saying not to expect a call on my actual birthday (and I’m an only child). It’s not surprising anymore, but still irritating. Would absolutely be mad if DH ever forgot, but maybe not so much anyone else.
Happy belated birthday!
pear / 1648 posts
I don't like a lot of attention so mainly I just want my husband to remember. Even taking the time away from the kids to answer phone calls from family members can feel stressful (though my birthday falls on a holiday so that may be unique). Although I forget which day it is all the time lately, so I do give DH an hour or 2 to figure it out before I give him a hard time 
Happy Birthday!
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
I would be miffed if my husband, parents, and brother went the entire day without acknowledging it. Anyone else that calls or texts is a bonus. I have a few friends that without fail always remember. Those HBDs mean more to me than ones prompted by FB.
persimmon / 1095 posts
I wouldn't be upset unless it was my husband or parents who forgot.
pomelo / 5524 posts
If my husband or brothers forgot, I'd be a bit upset at them, but anyone else, no. We have 2 young kids as do a lot of my friends. It's hard enough keeping our calendars straight without having to worry about others' birthdays. I try to keep them all in my calendar and send people a text for their birthday, but I'm not always good at remembering either. It would be hypocritical if I got mad at someone else for forgetting my birthday.
Even now, my family will call each other and sing Happy Birthday. It's really fun for the kids to do that and either leave that person a message if they don't answer or just to even sing to them if they pick up. DH's family doesn't call us, but we'll call them and do the same because it's fun. If I didn't get a call from my nieces and nephews with that, I'd be bummed since they love it too.
pomegranate / 3231 posts
No, I don't really care about adult birthdays, mine or otherwise. Sometimes I use my birthday as an excuse to plan something fun.
pomegranate / 3355 posts
Good question, at first I'd say no.. but then if I really think about it I would be if it was DH or my mom or my kids (once they are older).... but others, no.
cantaloupe / 6171 posts
Thanks everyone! It's interesting to see that most people wouldn't mind. It's not so much that I mind in a way as to actually do anything about it--like I wouldn't tell or call out my bff who forgot by any means!--but it does feel a little bit sad. I definitely don't make a big deal about my birthday now that I'm an adult--it was mostly just a normal day. But I think I feel a bit sad because it seems symptomatic of friends drifting off more and more as we get older. Which is totally normal, but we were just visiting my mil who is VERY socially isolated and honestly, that scares me! I've always felt insecure about my friendships and I want to be better about maintaining them...
pomelo / 5258 posts
@nana87: My birthday is a special day (like Valentine’s/St Partricks) so a lot of people could tell you my birthday but everyone forgets in the excitement of the day. I would be sad if my parents forgot, mad if DH forgot, relieved if coworkers forgot. I assume my brother forgets every year and that my parents harass him.
pomelo / 5524 posts
@nana87: While feeling sad about it is a natural reaction, take that and do something with it. You mentioned that you feel sad because it symbolizes that your friendship is getting further apart. Reach out to your BFF today and see how her life is going. If she has kids, ask how they're doing or share a funny parenting story. Keep the lines of communication open and it will help with that feeling of sadness.
pomelo / 5084 posts
@nana87: I would definitely notice. Not upset like crying or pouting but I would* notice and probably mention it to my spouse!
pineapple / 12566 posts
@snowjewelz: same, I don’t like all the attention! I would be annoyed if my DH or dad forgot though.
honeydew / 7917 posts
I'm only concerned if my husband forgets. I don't expect anyone else to remember or give me any special attention.
cherry / 202 posts
I don't like attention so it is fine with me! EXCEPT my husband or my mom, I would be hurt if either of them forgot.
grapefruit / 4455 posts
Nope. I can't say how I'd feel if my husband or mom forgot because they never do but other than that I really don't care!
pomelo / 5866 posts
No. I don't like to make a big deal of my birthday. When they forget I'm like, Heh heh! My little secret birthday! Oh but my husband and daughter wouldn't forget....better not!
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