If you stay home, do you hire out help for anything?
If I had the money I totally would hire a house cleaning service, or a nanny to come one day a week so I could get things done. It's not realistic for us though, only a dream!
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I finally broke down and just hired a housecleaner to come 1x month. It was a total game changer, it helped my stress level and my marriage so much, lol!
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We did, yes. I had a nanny that came for 4 hours a week. We lived in an apartment at the time and I didn't need help cleaning, but it was manageable and we didn't have the yard to deal with.
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I paid my mom to nanny 3 days a week when I was on maternity leave. It was a big expense, but she needed the income and I needed a break. I was still around the house and what not, so it was more like a mommy's helper gig, but it was still nice to have extra hands and be able to run errands and go on dates with DH.
I work 3 days a week now, so not quite SAH, but we have a mommy's helper come every other weekend for 3 hours (I'm solo those days) so I can either nap or run some errands. I'm 29 weeks pregnant and slowing down and I just need some help keeping up with the toddler.
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I would love to hire a nanny for one day a week. We'd have to sacrifice in other areas to make it work though so it won't happen. I think with three kids in the fall I would enjoy having the ability to get out for grocery shopping, errands, etc. without having to bring them all and would allow me to either have alone time or take one along with me for one on one time. I'd also do my housecleaning on that day, too. But again, we can't afford it right now so pipe dream.
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We have a house cleaner every other week. I wish she came every week!!
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We started having a house cleaner 2 times a month.
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No, I wish we could afford that! I would hire a cleaning service though hands down! or....maybe a dog walker/trainer.
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We have a house cleaner that comes every 3-4 weeks- we have been doing this for 8+ years. I also have T in daycare MW 9-1 so I can run errands and go to appointments. I started daycare when I was still working and opted to keep up with it- she seems to enjoy it and I like her to be around other children and caregivers.
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We are planning to get a housecleaner soon!
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We have a cleaning person come once a month. It is 1000% worth it for us.
I would love to have a weekly sitter or something so I could have a break but I feel guilty about it- like o shouldn't need that. But I do. I'm going nuts.
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We just started a nanny/house keeper for eight hours a week. It's amazing.
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@Bao: nope. Hopefully a cleaner at some point!
And hoping my meeting w a daycare goes well next week so ds can go super part time (like a couple times a month for a couple hours each time) when I have OB appts and such. That's it.
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I work now, but when I stayed home I had a house cleaner every other week. And for a brief period when #2 was like 6-9 months before I went back to work, a mother's helper two days a week for a few hours to watch baby so I could run errands etc.
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Nope! But we live in a 1-bedroom apartment and only have a 7month old so there's not a huge amount of cleaning. I would love someone who could watch her like once a week while I run errands, but that's definitely not going to happen. Maybe one day we'll live by family! I know my 15-year old sister would love to babysit.
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Short answer... No.
Longer answer I both want to and need to!!!!
In the process of finding childcare for the one day per week (only 2 actual hours!!!) my husband and I overlap work. schedules. To make it both better for nanny/sitter and better for my son's adjustment, I am trying to hire someone for 4 hours that day and 3-4 hours another day. In which the idea is I can do appointments, organize and clean house, etc. we hired someone for 2 weeks and the new routine was getting good, but she got a full time job :(.In a perfect world, I would have a house cleaner twice a month or so, and a nanny two days a week. And a dog walker 2-3 times per week. That would help so much! With the ever looming guilt of finding a reliable solution for child care, keeping my house neat and organized, and my poor neglected dog's exercise and socialization. Sigh.
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The year I stayed home, we still had out cleaning ladies come every other week, and DS went to daycare once a week, so I could have me time.
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@Foodnerd81: I have a nanny 2 days a week and I SAH. I feel guilt about it all the time, I'm almost embarrassed to tell people. But it's so nice to have that time, I just try to put it out of my head.
I don't have family nearby so it's the only way I can get a hot meal a couple days a week
Doctor appts, groceries, etc.
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No, although we do use a grocery service if you want to count that! I'd love to have a house cleaner once a month, but given our finances that is certainly not a priority.
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We don't use any services at the moment but during all of Jan and Feb, I had a food train from family and friends (mostly family) during my recovery. DH took care of meals during the weekends. It was so nice and relaxing not to have to worry about groceries and food for 2 months!
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Nope!
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No. The trade off of my being at home is that the budget doesn't really have room for that.
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@SweetiePie: I hear you. I'm planning on going back part time in a couple months but right now I'm at home and have a nanny two afternoons per week. It's so nice not having to stress about the household chores not getting done or having to drag three little kids with me for appointments. I'm so thankful that my husband take me into getting some help. I really resisted because "SAHM is my job right now why can't I manage everything?" Because I have a three year old , a big baby, and a newborn and it's damn near impossible to get much done.
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@autumnlove: you're a rock star!
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@oliviaoblivia: Yes, it was actually my husband that talked me into it as well. I felt like a failure at first but he could see how much I was struggling (I think there was some PPD in there) so he insisted about 4 weeks PP to start looking.
At the time it saved my life. Currently, I'd be just fine without her, it's a luxury. I'm with him 3 days solo all day and it's fine. And some days I even wish she wasn't coming because I'd rather just spend the day in my PJs with LO (mostly in winter). But I know that ultimately it is helpful so I can't see getting rid of her until he's in preschool. Unless we have another And PS you have THREE kids. You deserve all the nannies in the world. Have no guilt, woman.
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@SweetiePie:
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@oliviaoblivia: @SweetiePie: what do you and the babysitter do when she is there? Like do you leave the house alone? Or @oliviaoblivia: do you or she leave with one or two kids and split up? I feel like a sitter here while I'm here would only be marginally helpful sometimes since I'm BFing the baby and the toddler is in such a mommy phase that she would still want my attention. Though in sure there are plenty of errands I could go do that would be way easier during that time.
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@Foodnerd81: it depends on the day. Sometimes the kids hang with me and she does chores. Other days they all nap (!) And she and I take l tackle bigger projects (closet organization yesterday). Sometimes she is with the kids while I run errands or have appointments. Depending on naps and feeding schedules I may or may not take someone with me. It's remarkable how easy one kid feels now.
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I wish we could afford it. I'd like to hire a nanny 2 or 3 days a week but that doesn't seem to be happening anytme soon.
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We've had occasional house cleaners. I really, really want to get a regular (1x/week) house cleaner but as others have said I feel like I should be able to handle it since I SAH. I think if/when we have another we'll have more of an excuse!
I don't feel the desire or need to have any kind of childcare on a regular basis but it would be nice for doctor's appointments and that sort of thing. I have tried childcare swaps in my mom's group but they didn't really work out. It will be nice when LO is in preschool 2 days / week in the fall because I can schedule things during that time.
I have also thought it would be nice to have a mother's helper (school aged kid - maybe homeschooled?) to play with LO one day per week she is not in preschool if/when we have #2. Just so I can focus on the baby a little more, maybe get some things done, etc. We'll see!
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Yes, a 2x a month house cleaner.
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I have a cleaning lady who comes once a week. She used to come every other week, but with two kids and three pets, the house was getting dirty so quickly. Having her once a week has made everything feel much cleaner. We also have a landscaper who cuts the grass for us. DH doesn't like doing yardwork.
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I have a cleaning team of 2-3 come to my house every 3 weeks. Theyre coming tomorrow!
Doctor appts, groceries, etc.
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