I tend to be way on the extreme side of forgiving & it males it really difficult for me to cope when I mess up, apologize & the other person doesn't instantly warm up to me.
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I don't hold grudges per se, because holding a grudge requires a certain level of energy. But I've absolutely stopped hanging out with people that are negatively affecting my life.
I don't feel bad about doing that.
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@Anagram: oh me too! I definitely feel like that is totally something different. I'm talking someone accidentally hurt your feelings or did something stupid or thoughtless not people in the habit of being difficult or even "poisonous" to be around.
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I don't typically so it takes a lot for me to hold a grudge. When I do I do not forgive nor forget easily.
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Unfortunately, I do. I'm really bad about it
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I am absolutely incapable of holding grudges - I am def on the extreme side of forgiving too and I can't take it when someone is upset with me.
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Nope, not at all. I tend to put a lot of thought into why people act the way they do, if there's something happening or something that did happen in their lives to make them act a certain way. I really think that the vast majority of people don't have malicious intent, and if someone does something that hurts me, I try to figure out why and then can usually just move on.
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If someone gives me a genuine apology they are (almost) always immediately forgiven and I don't hold a grudge. What I have trouble with is letting things go when I haven't gotten an apology. Sometimes I know it isn't worth the fight, but I have a hard time forgiving when the other person isn't sorry.
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I don't, but it's hard to truly forgive/forget and to move on! I try not to think about it too much and just focus on other things.
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I don't know if it's a grudge, but I have the awful habit of throwing things back into DH's face in arguments. Even though I'm over it, I use past situations. I have to stop doing this, but things just fly out of my mouth.
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I don't. Life's too short.
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Yes, I still get mad when I think about certain things ex-best friends have done or said to me. And I'm a terrible friend because I don't confront them about it either and just let it fester until the friendship dies. I'm the worst.
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@Adira: ugh - me too!
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I forgive and get over things very quickly.
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Yes, I get it from my dad. We hold grudges and are both very stubborn. I don't even know what his sister did to be excommunicated, but they have only spoken to each other once in the last 30+ years. Hopefully I'm not that bad.
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Nope. I don't have the energy to spare on that.
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@Mamaof2: I'm glad I'm not the only one!
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No, unless it was something pretty unforgivable.
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Eek I don't know! I feel like I can go both ways! I think I hold grudges against people that aren't very close to me, and I don't have many interactions with. But if it's close friends of family, I normally get over it pretty quickly!
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I really try not to, but I catch myself sometimes being overly annoyed/irritated with someone, and I realize its because of something that happened ages ago.
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