I know of one person who is CFBC.
Oh, let's try to keep this respectful.
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Yes, several of my cousins. I completely respect anyone's choice to have children or not to. Just because I choose to have children doesn't mean that all other women feel the same way as I do.
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Yup, I know quite a few actually!
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Yep! One of our best couple friends has zero desire to ever have children.
I know they had some difficulty taking permanent measures though because doctors didn't want to do any permanent birth control since they were young and childless.
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Yes. They have a pretty awesome life, if I do say so. We took a lot of solace in that when we were going through fertility issues. DH was like our married life is awesome and I would be totally happy if it was just the 2 of us forever and we would see the CFBC folks and be like that could totally be rad too.
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Yep. And my friend is a special ed preschool teacher - she looooves kids and working with them but just doesn't want her own.
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Is it weird I don't know any?? I mean, I have couple friends that don't have kids yet, but they sound like they want kids in the future.
I probably just don't know enough people, haha.
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Yes a few, including my brother and SIL.
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Yep several of my coworkers, four off the top of my head. DH's cousin says she will be CFBC, but she's still young and single so I wonder if she'll change her mind. One of my BFFs is CFBC also.
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I know a few people, plus both of my closest friends are. Even though they spoil my daughter, I'm secretly sad they won't have kids. They would be amazing moms.
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My SIL claims she will be CFBC - she isn't married yet but has a longtime boyfriend. She's only 32, so I'm not sure if she'll change her mind.
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I know a few. One couple got married in their late 40's, the other couple has been married since they were 19 and took permanent measures a few years ago.
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@MrsKoala: I agree. I have a friend who just got married and is now leaning more towards having one, but she questions it. I tell her all the time there is nothing wrong with not having any. I think some people have kids cause it is what society thinks they should.
I used to work with someone that was. She was really close to her nieces and nephews and loved to spoil them but didn't have a desire for her own.
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Yup! I know several couples who are open about it.
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Both of my best friends are. One I think might change her mind if she meets/marries someone who wants kids. The not wanting kids thing is only since she got divorced, so I'm just not sure how certain she is. The other has never wanted kids and I know will never change on that. They're both amazing "aunts" to our LO, just don't care to have their own.
I have two family members who were 100% anti-having kids, but who had accidental pregnancies. One was too far along anyway when she found out (around 36 weeks), but both were very pro-life so they basically had no choice. Both are very happy now, thankfully.
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@Torchwood: Wait, your friend found out she was pregnant when she was 36 weeks?
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Yup! They love it!
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Honestly, I don't know.
I know couples who don't have children, but I'm not about to ask if it's by choice or not. No one has openly said they don't want kids, and I'd hate to make any assumptions about what they do or do not want.
Nothing is more heartbreaking to a person with IF than someone telling them why they should have kids or asking if they don't have kids because they don't want them.
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I do! My aunt and uncle chose not to have kids. And a good friend was adamantly CFBC and very upfront with his wife before they got married that it was a non-starter for him. And several long term same sex couples that don't have kids (though they would have to go through more to get kids). They all seem to have great lives and I've never heard them talk about regretting not having kids.
I very seriously considered being CFBC. And I still think I could have been happy being CFBC. But I will totally admit that I'm enjoying being a mother more than I ever anticipated, so I'm glad I chose to have my son.
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My brother says he is. He is not in a relationship though so I wonder if he would change his mind if he were.
I have a few married friends who still don't have kids yet but no one has said outright that they don't plan on having any. We are all 35 though so I assume most people will need to decide soon.
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yep, 2 good friends! They love kids just don't want any themselves
eta:actually 3!
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Yup, many!
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Yes. Wondering if there was more to this question.
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@Pumpkin Pie: Nope. Just something I thought about. No story to it.
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At least two couples we know, although they are both still fairly young so I don't know if they might change their minds someday. They dote on E, though.
And we have one friend who is very adamantly CFBC. She got an Essure thing last year. She's very anti-children, to the point where I've let the friendship wither a lot over the years...she talks a lot about how terrible children are and how she just doesn't understand why people have them, and I'm thinking "Wow, I have a baby at home, if you're saying this to my face, what do you really think of my choices??" (She was always quick to say "oh but you and D are definitely exceptions..." but still...)
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Yup. One of my closest friends. Kids aren't her thing, she loves her life the way it is, and knows it's the right choice for her.
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Yep, I do!
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One that I know is by choice for sure, one that I wonder about as I KNOW they'd make great parents.
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Lots! But, hesitate to say because I never really know if they are secretly trying (not that that is the case for everyone, of course! Just some of the couples I know.)
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My brother is vocal about not wanting children. He says he'll be the cool uncle.
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My best friend and my BIL/SIL,
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I can think of at least half a dozen people I know they don't have kids and aren't planning on it, including my sister and her husband. They all love kids though and I imagine might even do some babysitting for us in the future.
most have nieces and nephews and love that role.
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I have one close friend who has been open about not wanting children. I was surprised, because she's an amazing and devoted aunt and her husband ADORES their nephews, to the point that I was surprised that he was fine with it, but they seem very happy and who am I to question their decisions - clearly being devoted aunts and uncles is enough for them.
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I know several. Actually, it seems most everyone I know has 3+ kids or no kids (with no plans). We're the odd ones out with just 1.
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Sure, both family members and friends.
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I don't know of any for sure, but I have married colleagues who don't have kids and are past that point. I don't know if it was by choice or by circumstance, and I'm certainly not going to ask!
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Yes I know several people. My sister-in-law and her husband have no kids together and do not want any. One couple that said that they did not want kids just ended up having a baby but I don't know the story behind it. I don't know if they changed their minds, had a birth-control mishap, or were dealing with infertility and said they didn't want kids.
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@JoJoGirl: Yep. I haven't pressed for details, but somehow she didn't know. Baby was born 4 weeks after they found out, so 36 weeks is the best guess. I knew it happened, but it was still pretty shocking to have it happen in real life to my own cousin! She's a bigger girl, and I guess with an anterior placenta you could miss feeling clear movement? We saw her at Christmas a month before she found out and it never crossed our minds that she might be pregnant. And I was pregnant at the time so it was definitely on my mind!
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@bluestriped bee: Yes, quite a few couples! DW is in academia and it's very common there I feel like.
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Yeah, a lot of my friends are. I'm the weird one.
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